Ok Foo, I'm after some advice from people who don't know me (already have plenty from a select few who do), and you all seem to fit the bill. I'm getting a bit nervous about this whole wedding thing, and I'm looking for you to knock that silliness out of my head, or suggest ways to do so.
The problem isn't that I don't specifically want out of the engagement, but that I really don't remember why I want in. Sure, she's a nice person and all, but that seems to be the extent of it. My theory on marriage is that you shouldn't marry someone unless you can't picture the rest of your life without them, which has been true for the vast majority of the past 5.5 years. It isn't that I want out, more that I don't really feel any connection at all to her currently. Is this the usual cold feet, or am I finally realizing that this might not actually be right?
I've been in a relationship for 5.5 years with my now fiancee. You may remember a thread a couple months back anouncing our joyful engagement. The reasons it took me roughly five years are:
1) For some reason I didn't want to be part of the zillion people who get engaged right before graduation (4 years)
2) I needed to come up with a cool way to propose
3) I needed to make the ring, which took several revisions, etc.
As Now, we had a couple fights here and there during the first four years, some major, some minor, nothing that resulted in breaking up, nothing said that we forever regret. Honestly, we haven't had a real fight in years.
I should point out that she is a PhD student (Mech Eng), so that is sapping a lot of her time, and will continue to for quite some time. We've been living together for all but the first year or so, other than one summer, so no recent changes there.
She's still all in, and for all the right reasons. I think if we were both waffling on this it would be easy, but I feel like a [synonym for donkey] for going this far and considering turning around.
Thanks in advance,