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    Big Brothers Big Sisters

    Have you done this? If so, tell me about it.

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    I have done it and I have a friend who is doing it now. It was a great experience. It is a commitment that you must keep though. There are a few different programs you can do. The one I did was spend a minimum of 3 hours a week with a 8 year old. She was a fantastic kid. Her mom disappeared and her dad was in the military.

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    I have mentored a 15 year old girl for the past two years, and it is the most rewarding thing I have ever done. Her father died when she was 9 and she needed someone outside of her family to talk to and do activities with.
    "Methinks my own soul is a bright invisible green" H. Thoreau

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    I've done it twice and had bad experiences both times, but that's a pretty rare thing and I'd still be doing it right now if I had more time.

    First story:

    I was a big brother to a 6th grade kid with "ADHD" (according to someone...his mom was a little strange and I bet she really pushed for the drugs) for almost two semesters. We didn't really do much....we just hung out and played. Once I went to watch him graduate from one belt to another in his karate class, and he saw I was there and had a big weird smile from it. We went to the mall a few times around Christmas (this was just a year ago) and played with all of the stuff without buying anything. One day I went to his house and he was surprised to see me. He asked me, "Didn't you hear? You're not my big brother anymore." I didn't really know what was going on. Nobody told me anything about it. I just left because I figured his mom wouldn't want me around that day. Well, come to find out, his mom called it off and nobody really knew why. The lady at Big Brothers was actually mad at the mom for doing it, which was pretty funny because she was this nice old lady who you wouldn't think would get mad about anything. The lady seemed to think the mom was jealous of me, but I was never really sure about that theory.

    After that I decided to try the whole thing again, and I got set up with a kid in elementary school. On our first meeting I went to his house and his dad said he spent the night at his friend's house the night before and forgot all about it. I kept calling after that and he wouldn't be there or he would be busy. I finally decided that this kid really didn't want to be in Big Brothers after all. I think his parents pushed him into it because his sister was doing it and she really liked it.

    Ha....I know it all sounds bad, but I'd do it all over again. Just remember one thing: you want to be cool and be the kid's friend, but in certain situations you have to throw all of that out the window and just plain be an ******* about certain things. Don't be afraid to be tough in certain situations. That was the hardest part for me. I wanted to be a friend, but kids will walk all over you if you let them.

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    I was in Big Brothers my last year of college. My little brother was about eight. We often would just go to a park and shoot baskets while he talked about anything that was on his mind. His mom had zero money, so if I was taking my little brother to a movie or county fair, I would also bring his ten year old brother. The older brother would be "mopey" if his younger brother got to do something "special". And, the two of them entertained each other, so going somewhere with two was actually easier than with just one.

    I have regretted that I did not keep in touch with him after I graduated and moved an hour's drive away. It has been thirty years, so my "little brother" is now "middle-aged". I'm hoping his life turned out well - he deserves a good "adulthood" because his childhood years were extremely tough.

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    good stories and info, thanks all.

    I'm just trying to get an idea of what i'd be getting myself into.

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    I know a couple who does it, they don't have kids, and the husband is a big brother. I've often thought of doing it; god knows there are girls out there who need guidance or they'll end up teenage mothers.
    You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. That's great...if you want to attract vermin.

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    When I was a kid I had a Big Brother and I totally loved it, I'm thinking about doing it myself, Its tough for me though considering I run an afteschool program and babysit a few groups of kids regularly...meh.
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