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Old 06-21-12, 04:28 AM   #1
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Girlfriend Pregnant with other guy's kid

I would do anything for this girl, I loved her, she made me a better person (more mature, better manners, more drive) I treated her like a princess
(I wouldn't have if she didn't appreciate it, and she showed it with a warm genuine smile that made me melt inside)

and what I thought was an unconditional love, is really being tested. She's the smartest woman I know, most respectable, UC Grad, motivated, and beautiful. (she's 9 years older than me, I'm 25, she's 34, and she holds her own against girls my age. She was miss teen america when she was 16, and has only gotten more attractive since)

My heart has sunk to my stomach, my hands are clammy, and I don't even know how to describe the way I'm feeling.

If she wants to run off with this guy and start a family, fine see ya later, good luck. (he's 38, has 3 kids, never married, but still lives with the baby momma)

If she wants to get an abortion, and give our relationship a 100%, I will be there

I can't be in this limbo, her being around with another guy is heart wrenching. Her having someone else's kid makes me feel like a chump and hurts my ego. It was hard when we first started dating when she explained that she was previously married to a portfolio manager, managing 100M in assets. Usually the firm charges 1-1.25% of that, and the manager gets .25-.40%. Of course a past marriage is a huge part of someone's life, I cringed hearing about those type of things, as time went on I realized she was never impressed by outward symbols of status, only someone who loved her for who she was.

Even though she became pregnant before we really started seeing each other, I know she saw him twice when we were seeing each other, even though it was strictly sexual. The first time it was when we were in limbo of being exclusive, and I think this was her way of testing how much I cared, then the second time I distanced myself.

She wanted to start a family, and move to London. I had planned to get a master's degree there to get a Visa (otherwise it's pretty hard to gain citizenship) , begin some sort of part time job and get my visa extended every 2 years. I'm a Swing trader/Day trader and can really work from anywhere. She can work at Morgan Stanley or Barclays (as she's worked there previously and left on great terms) to gain her citizenship. And I was ready for it all, I even put in my 30 day notice at my apartment, and I've started listing a lot of my possessions on ebay.

Normally I go on a nice long ride when I've got a lot on my mind, but I got hit by a car last week and dislocated my shoulder, and my bike is destroyed.

Sorry for the long post, I didn't know where else to turn at 3am
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I think you mean ex-girlfriend.
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dude...run.
run like hell.
run till you can't run any further.....then run some more.
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"Even though she became pregnant before we really started seeing each other"

And she's still pregnant. Ergo, you've only known each other a few months at the very most.

Not to be harsh, but it sounds like you're investing way more angst in this relationship than is justified. It also sounds like a classic case of Nice Guy Syndrome, to be honest.
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Seriously, you should just leave her alone. I'm sure you have feelings for her but from how you've explained her actions...she doesn't seem to me, to be the type who deserves your affection.
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Seriously, you should just leave her alone. I'm sure you have feelings for her but from how you've explained her actions...she doesn't seem to me, to be the type who deserves your affection.
Listen to Mango. She's right.

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Seriously, you should just leave her alone. I'm sure you have feelings for her but from how you've explained her actions...she doesn't seem to me, to be the type who deserves your affection.
Yup. People who are worthy of your affection don't "test how much you care". That's a sign of someone who will make you absolutely miserable in both the short and long run.
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Yup. People who are worthy of your affection don't "test how much you care". That's a sign of someone who will make you absolutely miserable in both the short and long run.
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Yea. They banned him here years ago. They sent botto after him. He's a whinier version of EPG.

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Old 06-21-12, 07:37 AM   #13
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Dude, run. Don't look back.

** Patiently waiting for OP to rationalize staying with her.

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Yea. They banned him here years ago. They sent botto after him. He's a whinier version of EPG.

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Unless you are wearing her collar then let her go. There are many more Dommes you can submit to.

Seriously no go on that.
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DTMFA.

She made you be a better person, fine. Be a better person for somebody that deserves it.
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Miss Teen America 1995, Bethany?
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Of course a past marriage is a huge part of someone's life,
Unless there are kids, there shouldn't be an issue.

This whole thing has disaster written all over it.
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I can't be in this limbo
It's over. Move on. There, limbo is done. You can be sure as hell that if you cheated on her, she'd dump you without a second thought.
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Hmmm...so this girl goes to bed with a guy who lives with his 3 babies Mama. She chooses to sleep with a cheating guy, gets knocked-up and then strings you along.
I say, get thee out of town, change your phone number and leave no forwarding address, cause that clown will try to pin that baby on you or tie you down.
She ain't nothing but heartache.
You don't have a whole lot invested in her, this was a "blossoming relationship", so cut your losses, lick your wounds, then get back up on your bike and ride another day.
You're young. You'll be over this in no time. 6 months from now, this won't even matter anymore.
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I would do anything for this girl, I loved her, she made me a better person (more mature, better manners, more drive) I treated her like a princess
(I wouldn't have if she didn't appreciate it, and she showed it with a warm genuine smile that made me melt inside)

and what I thought was an unconditional love, is really being tested. She's the smartest woman I know, most respectable, UC Grad, motivated, and beautiful. (she's 9 years older than me, I'm 25, she's 34, and she holds her own against girls my age. She was miss teen america when she was 16, and has only gotten more attractive since)

My heart has sunk to my stomach, my hands are clammy, and I don't even know how to describe the way I'm feeling.

If she wants to run off with this guy and start a family, fine see ya later, good luck. (he's 38, has 3 kids, never married, but still lives with the baby momma)

If she wants to get an abortion, and give our relationship a 100%, I will be there

I can't be in this limbo, her being around with another guy is heart wrenching. Her having someone else's kid makes me feel like a chump and hurts my ego. It was hard when we first started dating when she explained that she was previously married to a portfolio manager, managing 100M in assets. Usually the firm charges 1-1.25% of that, and the manager gets .25-.40%. Of course a past marriage is a huge part of someone's life, I cringed hearing about those type of things, as time went on I realized she was never impressed by outward symbols of status, only someone who loved her for who she was.

Even though she became pregnant before we really started seeing each other, I know she saw him twice when we were seeing each other, even though it was strictly sexual. The first time it was when we were in limbo of being exclusive, and I think this was her way of testing how much I cared, then the second time I distanced myself.

She wanted to start a family, and move to London. I had planned to get a master's degree there to get a Visa (otherwise it's pretty hard to gain citizenship) , begin some sort of part time job and get my visa extended every 2 years. I'm a Swing trader/Day trader and can really work from anywhere. She can work at Morgan Stanley or Barclays (as she's worked there previously and left on great terms) to gain her citizenship. And I was ready for it all, I even put in my 30 day notice at my apartment, and I've started listing a lot of my possessions on ebay.
Normally I go on a nice long ride when I've got a lot on my mind, but I got hit by a car last week and dislocated my shoulder, and my bike is destroyed.

Sorry for the long post, I didn't know where else to turn at 3am
She does seem to have more drive.
With a chump like you she'll def want to get an abortion. (and I'm sure you'll be there)
You are a chump. (as stated above)
Thats when you should have ran.
Which now make you a ****ing chump.
No, it was her way of testing to see just how much of a ****ing chump you are.
Which make you a ****ing stupid chump.
Which brings me to the conclusion that you deserve this girl and everything that happens to you as a result of your ****ing stupid chumpness.
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wtf?? Follow all of the above excellant advice, move on and fahgettaboutit. You will thank yourself the rest of your life.
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Have you considered getting pregnant as well to show her that two can play this game?
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Hmmm...so this girl goes to bed with a guy who lives with his 3 babies Mama. She chooses to sleep with a cheating guy, gets knocked-up and then strings you along.
I say, get thee out of town, change your phone number and leave no forwarding address, cause that clown will try to pin that baby on you or tie you down.
She ain't nothing but heartache.
You don't have a whole lot invested in her, this was a "blossoming relationship", so cut your losses, lick your wounds, then get back up on your bike and ride another day.
You're young. You'll be over this in no time. 6 months from now, this won't even matter anymore.
^^This, along with all of the other posts. If she does keep this baby, she'll have Baby Daddy in her life for the next 18 years. How many times will she see him again "just for sex"?
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