where are all the good ones hiding?
where are all the good ones hiding?
Oh, wait... I'm married. Sorry...
they are dumb too!
Pie sounds good. what kind of pie?
BAck before i turned gay i was super cool once i had a members only jacket and a trans am witha foot print gas pedal
what a meanie
I don't know if you're the type of person that this applies to or not, but I honestly think that all of our lives most of the good people are stuck with the "middle school dance" syndrome. Boys on one side wondering how they should approach the girls and wishing they knew how to do so, and girls on the other side waiting for the boys to come over. I was thinking recently, "Man, it has been awhile since I've had a girlfriend," and deluding myself saying, "well, all the girls I meet are my friend's girlfriends," and things along those lines. The truth is that I just need to step outside my comfort zone and go for the girl, or in your case boy, when you meet one you like. Usually the worst case scenario is that they say no, in which case they usually let you down lightly and you might feel a little embarrassed... Which is better than wondering "what if..." which you definitely will feel for longer. I taught myself this in my late teens and did pretty well for a few years, but then suffered some post traumatic stress which has led me to developing a slight anxiety disorder, so I kind of feel like I'm at the point where I'm completely starting over with women. I have promised myself that come October when I get my driver's license back, I will make it a point to ask the next girl I have strong first impressions of attraction towards out, and I suggest you do the same... but with a boy of course.
If that doesn't apply to you, your problem might just be the pool you're fishing from. Make it a point to get out and meet more new people, and you're bound to meet some boys you like.
i am in the friend zone forever.
Read the ladder theory. Men have no friend zone.
Boys are dumb - how long did it take you to work that out?
Now that you know this, you are better prepared...
The "good boyz" are all enjoying college until 22, up to maybe 26. Just figuring out what life is about and having fun.
After that, they are in the workplace, probably working too much, but slowly figuring out more what life is about. This phase is 22-26 (Maybe up to 30).
Towards the late 20s, the "good boyz" begin looking in earnest for *the one* - someone who has been on a similar path and has drive and passion. Then they marry her.
It's your job to be there when the good boyz finally grow up and get ready to settle down. Either that or, at a young age, marry some bum with no ambitions.
Men get "friend zoned", I didn't know that was possible for women.
Hmmm, I would really hate to be all serious on FOO, and I don't mean to be a meanie myself, but since the OP has brought up several of these types of posts recently, I guess I am not completely out of line...
Hey, alphabet girl, have you taken a step back and thought about how you present yourself to others? From my perspective on this forum: Only recently have I come to realize how old you are. Because of your posts about going to bars and such, you are at least 21, so I figure maybe 22, tops. But, before that, I have always assumed--based on your posts and style--that you were one of our younger forum members, possibly in the 15-16 year old category.
I think I was one of the "good boyz" when I was your age (22, 23, 24), and where was I? All my "good boyz" friends and I were not hanging around women who called us "boyz" or "dum" or anything of that sort. We were with women who were in grad school, spending Friday nights writing papers and dissertations, not hanging out at bars being all cutesy. Now we are all in our 30s with professional and academic wives with PhDs, and who are stable enough that we can be stay at home dads who take our kids on bike rides every day, have very solid relationships, and can have conversations on topics that even our parents don't know exist. It all started in our very early 20s.
In other words, and I really wish I could articulate this better--in order to find the highest quality partner, you have to present yourself in high quality form as well. Yep, it's a critical statement, but critical isn't bad. If my best friend in the years after college hadn't been critical about me, I wouldn't have seen the Big 3 things about myself I had to change. As soon as I worked on them--BAM--I met my wife. I couldn't have met her without my friend saying critical (and in his socially awkward case--very insensitive) things about me to my face. But I remember those conversations with my friend like they happened this morning, and I will never go back to my old ways of thinking or acting. All thanks to him.
Crap, I better step back and get back to my quasi-wannbe-obnoxious FOO image. Sorry.
You can get a good feel for people by reading their profile. lolspeak is cute on occasion, but can they spell and use proper grammar? do they have a degree and some direction in life? can they articulate their interests and do you share some of them? Can they effectively describe themselves and what they're looking for, or do they rely on their pictures to attract people? Do they take care of themselves physically, i.e. exercise and cooking/diet? Unless you're genetically lucky, these things will catch up to you by age 25-28.
I see a lot of "girls" in the 22-30 range. Give some thought to the above-mentioned things and maybe check your own profile to see what it says about you.
Wait until you get to be 30 or 40. By then all the guys that the cool girls didn't want to have anything to do with in high school or college have graduated college and started careers - and most of them have settled down into some sort of domestic routine with someone. The guys don't change much, but the girls that eventually realize what made the guys so unappealing when they were younger makes them more appealing when we're all older.