We have 3 kids. An almost 5 year old, a 2 year old and a 5 month old. I work full-time and finished school (bachelors) about 5 years ago. My wife is a stay-at-home mom.
We just recently got back from a really fun family vacation (w/o the youngest), but being back at the house my wife is becoming increasingly dissatisfied with the routine. With our previous two this came up, but not as often with our new baby girl - who is really, really high maintenance so far. My wife has said she just hates that she is always doing the same thing, every day.
Once or twice a week we meet for lunch (her and the 3 kids) at eat at a nearby park. When she dropped me back off at work she said she has been thinking about going to school to get an associates or something similar. The motivation is not financial since we are not in desperate need of money, but she did say that she feels jealous that people talk about their education and that she won't be able to help our son in school.
I don't think that she needs a college education to help our son through his schooling, but I think she is feeling like she is wanting to work towards something personal. I told her that I wasn't thrilled about the idea since it would take a lot of sacrifice of both of our time and money for her to get an education that she wouldn't use for anything (she isn't planning on working, and she is a fantastic mother). I think hearing that hurt her, but I want to offer something that would help her feel better about herself that won't have the same overall costs and as little value as an associates degree.
The time wouldn't be as much of an issue when all of our kids are in school, but that's a lot of years away. It seems to me like the dissatisfaction would go away as our youngest is more than a year old and hopefully doesn't cry as often, but I don't know what I can do now to make it easier for her. A few weeks ago I was finally able to get the baby girl to take a bottle, so I do wake up to feed the baby a bottle every few nights and I can actually feed her and I will do the dishes when the sink is full but I'm really at a loss.
What do you think?