I recently got hired for a new job that I'll be starting at the beginning of November. It's allowing my wife, my daughter and I to move back to the lower mainland (e.g. the greater Vancouver area) from Vancouver Island. I'm a contractor in my current position, which means I don't have unemployment benefits, I don't have any extended medical or dental benefits, and I don't technically get any vacation time. I also managed to get a pretty good raise, and this position has a lot more opportunities for growth than my current position does. And am unhappy in my current position (but being totally honest, I am bipolar, so who is to say that it's not just in my head?) Plus Nanaimo is a pretty small town (well, compared to everywhere else I've lived) and I'm sort of a city boy. There are also a lot more employment opportunities for my wife in the Vancouver area than there are on the island. And we'll be within a 20 minute walk of my in-laws who've generously offered to provide us with daycare which is terrific- it's free and it's family. We both have more friends on the mainland than we have on Vancouver Island, so all in all it feels like a win.
Although one of the really nice things is that I can bike to work in less than 11 minutes if I really push it, and less than 13 if I take it easy. My new position will add more than 35 minutes in commuting time / direction, which means over an hour less time to spend with my little girl everyday, which makes me sad. Nanaimo also has really fantastic parks and community programs. It's a very family friendly town, and it doesn't have the congestion and traffic that the Vancouver area does. Plus houses cost at least $250,000-$300,000 less. I'm starting to feel worried that we made a mistake (note, I also feel that I probably made a mistake turning down a job at Rice University in Houston to take a contract job with the Government of Canada, so I may be prone to overly harsh personal evaluations). Mostly because of the reduced time I'll have to spend with my daughter, but also because we really love the family activities that exist here. On the whole, the rational side of my brain is saying that I did the right thing- bringing my family closer together, better job security, better salary, etc. Am I over thinking this?
It's too late to undo it anyway, I've given notice at work, we bought a house, we've made arrangements to get out of our current lease. Just sayin'.