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    Starting Over

    Sometimes, either by choice or circumstance, you have to do a reboot in your life and start over. Moving to a new place, ending a relationship, changing jobs, etc. The process might be painful but I've always found that things turned out better in the long run for me.

    I moved to a smaller house several years ago and now I totally love it. I had to remodel pretty much the entire inside and almost the entire yard, but now I wouldn't want to live anywhere else.

    I changed jobs very unexpectedly a couple of years ago. I was getting frustrated with my current job and answered a headhunter's email on a whim. I didn't intend to take the job but they made me a great offer so I left and now I really like the new job.

    Have you ever started over and realized later that it was a really great thing to do?
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    I consider it moving on to better things rather than starting over.


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    Geographic location change. I tried moving from place to place for a long time, hoping it would solve my problem(s). On January 2, 2011, I started to realize and accept what my problem was. Me.

    Physically, mentally and spiritually bankrupt, I started a process that has dramatically changed the way I live, think and react to life on life's terms. Once I took my inventory, handed over resentments I formed years before, I was given a chance to make amends and clean up my side of the street. These actions I have taken, as advised by people who have taken similar actions before me, have finally started filling a void in my life that has been open since I was a child. I'm closer to finding peace and I'm progressing towards a state of mind I never thought possible.

    Me.

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    Over the past 30 years I have lived in Ft. Frances, Vancouver, Ft. Worth, Tel Aviv, Dubai and Toronto, each time a lifestyle and career reinvention. Probably moving to Alberta in the spring for a final micro career before retirement.

    I have enjoyed all of the locations and my kids had a diverse education. It din't get better every time but it was interesting.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CbadRider View Post
    Sometimes, either by choice or circumstance, you have to do a reboot in your life and start over. Moving to a new place, ending a relationship, changing jobs, etc. The process might be painful but I've always found that things turned out better in the long run for me.

    I moved to a smaller house several years ago and now I totally love it. I had to remodel pretty much the entire inside and almost the entire yard, but now I wouldn't want to live anywhere else.

    I changed jobs very unexpectedly a couple of years ago. I was getting frustrated with my current job and answered a headhunter's email on a whim. I didn't intend to take the job but they made me a great offer so I left and now I really like the new job.

    Have you ever started over and realized later that it was a really great thing to do?
    Many times. Most people are afraid of change and the uncertainty it brings... but it's typically only short lived and you get to experience life from a new angle. Not all changes have been rosey but just because you fall back 2 steps doesn't mean it's not the road to prosperity.

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    I've started over with jobs and the last change might not have been for the better. I may have to change again soon, hopefully it will be positive this time. It will be painful to change but I can't keep working at a difficult job with no pay.

    I've started over with relationships, usually not by my choice, but the latest change was a positive change.

    I've moved very few times except during college. The last move was a positive move, over 15 years ago. My wife wants to move again. I'm sure this move will be mostly positive even though it is a real pain to move.

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    When I was living in New Jersey in 2006 my life more or less catastrophically failed. My career was &$^#@, my relationship was dying and as a function of those I was spending every waking hour outside of work drunk, just to maintain. After a year (had to wait a year due to a contractual agreement), I quit my job, dumped 90% of my stuff, put the rest in the back of my truck and got out of dodge. After visiting some friends for a couple of weeks, I bought a one-way ticket to Thailand and hung out there, got bored after a month of lying on the beach reading, drinking beer and getting a tan and came back to CA. Unfortunately, after about 6 mos of being jobless, I took the first job that was offered to me, which was marginally better than what I left in NJ. Fortunately, I had the presence of mind to quit that after 10 mos…that was in Sept 2008, literally the Friday before the crash. Fortunately a friend had started a consulting business and needed some help with some projects. Four years later, I’m still consulting, averaging 3 to 4 days a week of work. I quit drinking and I have gobs more time to ride and run and actually look after myself. So while I do not have the disposable income I used to have, I also don’t have the constant anxiety, 3am phone calls and set-up-to-fail scenarios I used to, either. Now, I go with the flow and am much more comfortable with uncertainty than I ever was.
    There's nothing for you to see here...just move along, now...

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