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    Parenthood

    Sent my youngest off to the Air Force yesterday. He's 23, his choice, yada yada.

    I thought I got off this parenthood rollercoaster once they hit 18 or the door. Evidently it's a lifelong deal. Dang.
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    "til your last breath.

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    No kidding. My son turned 23 a week ago. Still my kid, even though he's his own man at this point, has been for some time.
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    My son, 22, has moved out of the house a few months ago. He's been struggling to find his path, school just wasn't his thing. He let us know that he is thinking of joining the Navy. He life, his choice. All we can do is advise and hope for the best.
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    Seems to me that Navy and Air Force are pretty good options.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bigbenaugust View Post
    Seems to me that Navy and Air Force are pretty good options.
    My nephew did that, Army, his life, his choice. Now he's nearly deaf and going through some severe PTSD.
    "He who serves all, best serves himself" Jack London

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    My 20 y.o son (21 in a month and a day) is my late father's revenge.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Artkansas View Post
    My nephew did that, Army, his life, his choice. Now he's nearly deaf and going through some severe PTSD.
    I'm sorry. I was getting at the fact that there are a lot more desk/tech jobs in the USAF especially than maybe the Army.
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    Quote Originally Posted by leob1 View Post
    My son, 22, has moved out of the house a few months ago. He's been struggling to find his path, school just wasn't his thing. He let us know that he is thinking of joining the Navy. He life, his choice. All we can do is advise and hope for the best.
    Your children are always your children.
    Several years ago my mom told me about a conversation about 'letting go'. The part I remember is her mom saying she was beginning to be able to.

    I'm thinking it was about when mom was 60 or so.

    Your kids are always your kids. That should never change. But at some point it is good to realize they are adults.
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    thanks for letting him serve. seriously, thank you.

    mine turns 18 in about a month and just his 1st car. I told him I'll give him a 1-way ticket to Portugal and he'll have to work there to earn the ticket fair home. he says, "nah, I'll stay there"
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    Kid was smart enough not to take the hint either that or not smart enough to get the hint.

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    Quote Originally Posted by downtube42 View Post
    Sent my youngest off to the Air Force yesterday. He's 23, his choice, yada yada.

    I thought I got off this parenthood rollercoaster once they hit 18 or the door. Evidently it's a lifelong deal. Dang.
    So now the magic word is "Grandchildren".
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    Quote Originally Posted by rumrunn6 View Post
    thanks for letting him serve. seriously, thank you.
    I appreciate the intent, but that sentiment doesn't really fit. He made the choice, and I had no legal say. Maybe I could have dissuaded him and didn't - but that was out of respect for him rather than my desire that he serve. If I'd been asked to sign on the dotted line though... not sure I could have done that.

    Quote Originally Posted by rumrunn6 View Post
    mine turns 18 in about a month and just his 1st car. I told him I'll give him a 1-way ticket to Portugal and he'll have to work there to earn the ticket fair home. he says, "nah, I'll stay there"
    Can't blame him, given the option. How far and how soon to kick them out of the nest - that's the tough question.
    What is bicycle touring?
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    I can not comprehend him not being in the house anymore, and then the daughter would be the following year. then it's just wifey and I ... ugh. say it ain't so!
    cycling is like baseball ~ it doesn't take much to make it interesting

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