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    If a girl calls a guy "dude"

    If a girl calls a guy "dude", is that being put in the friend zone? I am more so asking the
    20-30 something year old people because people in those age groups speak differently than older people. Its a woman I like that I just met and im hoping to get to know her. I said something to her on FB and she responded ok(she said "aw, thanks dude"), its just that she put "dude" in it. Shes 30 years old. Granted, she is kinda punkish a little, but still... Its kinda bugging me.....

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    o.O The heck? Dude is dude.. plenty of my ex's etc have called me dude before during and after dating.. my girlfriend calls me dude on occasion as well. I think you're reading way too far into this man.. there's other more obvious signs if you've been friendzoned.
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    Are we talking cowboy hat dude or smoked too much weed dude?

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    *sigh* try not to put any weight on it's meaning. keep the social media chat to a minimum. like don't ... and keep it RARE. try to chat her up in person ... but it's been my experience there's no use trying to win over a woman. just wait for one that's interested in you ...
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    Quote Originally Posted by rumrunn6 View Post
    *sigh* try not to put any weight on it's meaning. keep the social media chat to a minimum. like don't ... and keep it RARE. try to chat her up in person ... but it's been my experience there's no use trying to win over a woman. just wait for one that's interested in you ...
    Although I introduced myself to her in person, im trying to get to this point but I can't unless I get her out with me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RaleighSport View Post
    o.O The heck? Dude is dude.. plenty of my ex's etc have called me dude before during and after dating.. my girlfriend calls me dude on occasion as well. I think you're reading way too far into this man.. there's other more obvious signs if you've been friendzoned.
    Yeah I see what you mean but it could also be her putting me in the friends zone from the very beginning. LOL. I want to see if it will go anywhere but I have to admit, I am already a little discouraged because of her saying "dude".

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    age 63 - I use "DUDE"... didn't realize there was an age limit. "Dude" is generally use sacrastically or facetiously so there is a message in there... like when my boyfriend takes a stupid fall on his bike I say "DUDE! ride much?!?!..."

    I would be more worried that she sees you as a "doof"...
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    Quote Originally Posted by rumrunn6 View Post
    *sigh* try not to put any weight on it's meaning. keep the social media chat to a minimum. like don't ... and keep it RARE. try to chat her up in person ... but it's been my experience there's no use trying to win over a woman. just wait for one that's interested in you ...
    This, right here. If a woman is truly interested and not just fishing, she'll show it and you'll know it...and if you missed your chance to catch on at the time, either one or both of you are A) too shy/aloof to know it, or B) too shy/aloof to show it. I don't mean that condescendingly, mind you...I'm just saying that there are a million and one possible connections and possibilities out there for you and everyone else. I used to waste a lot of time on women that showed me little interest, and that wasn't necessarily their fault...I just had to learn to discern who was really interested, and who was just looking for fun/a free meal. Try not to put too much weight on whether or not someone is interested in you...if she's really interested, there will be almost no ambiguity...that's your cue to pounce like a spry jungle cat!!!!*

    *Or just ask them out.
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    I get called all things in jest; "dude", "cutie", "hot stuff", "mister", "stud", "animal", "gonzo", "sorry assed", "slow poke", "Evel", "grandpa", and it'll all change next year when the big Six O rolls in.
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    Inflection matters.

    "Aw, thanks dude." means thanks, and it can show anything from a very real affection to 'I don't care enough to remember your name'.

    Inflection is what makes the difference.
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    Don't believe these people. If a woman calls you "dude", she is hot, and I do mean HOT for you. She wants you badly, and she's laying it out there for you. This should be obvious.
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    Quote Originally Posted by deeth82 View Post
    This, right here. If a woman is truly interested and not just fishing, she'll show it and you'll know it...and if you missed your chance to catch on at the time, either one or both of you are A) too shy/aloof to know it, or B) too shy/aloof to show it. I don't mean that condescendingly, mind you...I'm just saying that there are a million and one possible connections and possibilities out there for you and everyone else. I used to waste a lot of time on women that showed me little interest, and that wasn't necessarily their fault...I just had to learn to discern who was really interested, and who was just looking for fun/a free meal. Try not to put too much weight on whether or not someone is interested in you...if she's really interested, there will be almost no ambiguity...that's your cue to pounce like a spry jungle cat!!!!*

    *Or just ask them out.
    I think this is my next move. Problem is that it would HAVE to be done via FB. I dont have her number(yet). Thats the issue(if it is an issue).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamestique View Post
    age 63 - I use "DUDE"... didn't realize there was an age limit. "Dude" is generally use sacrastically or facetiously so there is a message in there... like when my boyfriend takes a stupid fall on his bike I say "DUDE! ride much?!?!..."

    I would be more worried that she sees you as a "doof"...

    LOL I see what you are saying but he is already your boyfriend. I could be thrown into the "friends zone" before I even get a date out of her.

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    I just think its crazy how one word(dude) can change the way I see someone's response.

    I don't want to make a another fool of myself so I think I will just pass on her. I live in the city and people have alot of mutual acquaintances/friends so I don't want her to shoot me down, only to go to her friends and say, "that guy over there tried to ask me out"....or whatever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VeloNewbie View Post
    I think this is my next move. Problem is that it would HAVE to be done via FB. I dont have her number(yet). Thats the issue(if it is an issue).
    Ummm no, next move should be get her # (If she doesn't give you this, probably time to move on)then the next step should be to call her and ask her out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VeloNewbie View Post
    I just think its crazy how one word(dude) can change the way I see someone's response.

    I don't want to make a another fool of myself so I think I will just pass on her. I live in the city and people have alot of mutual acquaintances/friends so I don't want her to shoot me down, only to go to her friends and say, "that guy over there tried to ask me out"....or whatever.
    Dude,

    If she would do that you don't want her as a friend either and you are better off knowing now than learning later.

    But do figure out if she is dating someone else, really stupid to ask when someone is involved. That can result in a shoot down that shuts a door that would have been wide open a bit down the road.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Keith99 View Post
    Dude,

    If she would do that you don't want her as a friend either and you are better off knowing now than learning later.

    But do figure out if she is dating someone else, really stupid to ask when someone is involved. That can result in a shoot down that shuts a door that would have been wide open a bit down the road.
    Oh dear lord.. I didn't even notice that post! I take back my last post, those are now steps 2 and 3, step 1 is find out if she is single... you say you have plenty of mutual acquaintances/friends, so that should be easily done.
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    do not fret over lost/past opportunities because each day brings new opportunities. BE READY!

    oh, and do not fear rejection, it is our main-stay ...
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    Quote Originally Posted by VeloNewbie View Post
    I just think its crazy how one word(dude) can change the way I see someone's response.

    I don't want to make a another fool of myself so I think I will just pass on her. I live in the city and people have alot of mutual acquaintances/friends so I don't want her to shoot me down, only to go to her friends and say, "that guy over there tried to ask me out"....or whatever.
    Regret for what might have been almost always outweighs the regret of what actually happened. I have a lot of regret involving not asking women I liked out, and no regret from asking the ones out that said no. I say go for it if you see her in person and you think she might be interested. If she shoots you down, sure there might be a little gossip, but it'll be forgotten if your friends have any maturity. Just be casual. You don't have to profess your love for her or anything embarrassing, lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by colorider View Post
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    I am old, but my 20 something daughters say you have been friend zoned. One says too bad, the other says "don't give up, she may come around".

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    Quote Originally Posted by jdon View Post
    I am old, but my 20 something daughters say you have been friend zoned. One says too bad, the other says "don't give up, she may come around".
    Gee, thanks.LOL

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