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    Feeling stuck with a newborn

    We have a 2 week old baby in the house. I'm on family leave (a nice deal in California). I'm supposed to be finishing our deck and I'd like to go ride a bike in the cool of the morning, when my blood sugar is low and my heart isn't bothering me. However, we have six pets, two of which (a nervous Aussie shepherd dog and a fat, jerky tomcat) worry us around the baby. Now is when the wife takes her break from the baby and sleeps in and leaves me guarding him, which means I have no chance to go & do anything until it's too hot. I don't think I've been on a bike ride longer than the mile to the drugstore in about 3 weeks. Pretty soon I'm going to start a small mutiny, but not yet.

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    All part of the sacrifice that is called Fatherhood.

    Congrats on the new addition.
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    If the two pets worry you around the baby, maybe you should get rid of the two. You can't always be between them.
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    Set up a trainer near the baby?

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    Two weeks old and you haven't started teaching the tyke to ride yet? Shame on you! Bad father!
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    So.. the only time of day when you can ride is when the mother of your new son takes her 'break'? Is this the only time she takes for herself? And you are whining, why? This child is half yours. He is your resposiblity and you should be doing far more then just 'guarding' him while your partner sleeps. The baby should be in a pet proof room anyways. I'm not a fan of getting rid of pets just because one has a baby, but for the first few months the critters can stay outside of the baby's sleeping area.

    Dude, time to man up. And take care of your son.

    And, if you must ride when it is cool, put some lights on the bike. Ride at night. And do your gorram part with your kid.
    Just one of those dirty pinko commies some people worry about.

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    This too shall pass.
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    The amount of xtra work at first can be really tough.

    You're a lucky guy, though; but I suppose you know that. Congratulations. Before you know it, the new one will be riding circles around you.

    Maybe BF needs in addition to a cat thread and umpteen million bike threads, a baby pic thread!

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    Congratulations!

    Soon enough, the baby will be ready to ride as well. Enjoy your forced break.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ahsposo View Post
    All part of the sacrifice that is called Fatherhood.

    Congrats on the new addition.
    Quote Originally Posted by Kactus View Post
    If the two pets worry you around the baby, maybe you should get rid of the two. You can't always be between them.
    +1 on both.

    Nothing is going to change unless you leave your family (which would be really low). I know it sucks but time to suck it up and grow up. I know it sucks but there are lots of rewards too.

    You should feel very lucky on your new family. Not that many people are that fortunate.
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    they let anyone be a 'father' nowadays.

    Suck it up, buttercup.

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    Pappoose pack him and take him along... be grateful of your blessing.

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    We should cut Darth Lefty a little slack. Probably suffering from sleep deprivation as well as endorphin withdrawals. Congratulations on the new family member. Get used to adjustments though. My twin boys were both premature and needed constant monitoring, so the first 2 weeks I stayed home from work too. My wife slept at night and I stayed up all night. Worked on my hobby with a baby monitor turned up loud to listen for any changes of the sounds in their room. Learn to ride in the heat I guess. And BTW - if you have to even think about guarding your child because of the pets, they have to go, as hard as that seems. You cannot always be between them as already been said.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 1986raleigh View Post
    Pappoose pack him and take him along... be grateful of your blessing.
    Here you go. Like the jarheads say: Adapt, overcome and survive.

    Everybody's experience of this is different so don't be quick to judge the OP. I'll stand by my post but I didn't mean it to sound negative of his character. My son was born into a grandparent rich environment that was all too happy to help out.

    What I meant is treat it like a broken collarbone for now. You'll have plenty of time to ride later.
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    Quote Originally Posted by C Law View Post
    they let anyone be a 'father' nowadays.

    Suck it up, buttercup.
    There was no one handing out licenses, I checked!

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    Someday you will look upon your fatherly-duties with fondness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darth Lefty View Post
    We have a 2 week old baby in the house. I'm on family leave (a nice deal in California)...... However, we have six pets, two of which (a nervous Aussie shepherd dog and a fat, jerky tomcat) worry us around the baby. Now is when the wife takes her break from the baby and sleeps in and leaves me guarding him, .....
    Get rid of those pets! You can find suitable home for the animals.... I did for a dog for the same reason once. I never regretted the injury... that didn't happen.

    I can never recapture the lost time from when my son was little.... and now the grandkids live hundreds of miles away. I envy you your problem.


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    I should clarify about the dog & cat; I'm worried about them waking him up, not hurting him. The collie barks a lot and the cat gets yelled at.

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    If you don't want to get rid of the pets, put them outside where they can't get access to the baby. Most pets will adjust to a baby just fine; they just need to know that they are below the baby's pecking order.

    Your life will revolve around the baby for the first few weeks until he settles into a routine. A trainer might be a good option for now, or even spin classes at a gym.

    For now, settle down on the couch with the baby and turn on the Tour de France.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CbadRider View Post
    ....For now, settle down on the couch with the baby and turn on the Tour de France.
    Nailed it. Nothing quite like a drooling sleeping child on your chest. I forgot how endearing it is for both you and your child.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ahsposo View Post
    All part of the sacrifice that is called Fatherhood.

    Congrats on the new addition.
    +1.

    This part will pass quickly. Let the dogs bark, birds squawk etc. The kid will get used to it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoadTire View Post
    Nailed it. Nothing quite like a drooling sleeping child on your chest. I forgot how endearing it is for both you and your child.
    So true and sadly, it passes so quickly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darth Lefty View Post
    We have a 2 week old baby in the house. I'm on family leave (a nice deal in California). I'm supposed to be finishing our deck and I'd like to go ride a bike in the cool of the morning, when my blood sugar is low and my heart isn't bothering me. However, we have six pets, two of which (a nervous Aussie shepherd dog and a fat, jerky tomcat) worry us around the baby. Now is when the wife takes her break from the baby and sleeps in and leaves me guarding him, which means I have no chance to go & do anything until it's too hot. I don't think I've been on a bike ride longer than the mile to the drugstore in about 3 weeks. Pretty soon I'm going to start a small mutiny, but not yet.
    Congratulations.

    It looks like you are going to have to re-schedule your rides for when it is too hot.

    After you finish the deck.

    And after making sure the wife gets the breaks she needs when she needs them.

    Being a father means that what you want is always going to come second to what your family needs.

    It is still the best job in the world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darth Lefty View Post
    We have a 2 week old baby in the house. I'm on family leave (a nice deal in California). I'm supposed to be finishing our deck and I'd like to go ride a bike in the cool of the morning, when my blood sugar is low and my heart isn't bothering me. However, we have six pets, two of which (a nervous Aussie shepherd dog and a fat, jerky tomcat) worry us around the baby. Now is when the wife takes her break from the baby and sleeps in and leaves me guarding him, which means I have no chance to go & do anything until it's too hot. I don't think I've been on a bike ride longer than the mile to the drugstore in about 3 weeks. Pretty soon I'm going to start a small mutiny, but not yet.
    Don't worry ... a lot of women feel something like this after having a baby. Only, unfortunately, they aren't allowed to say anything at all about it, or they will be labelled a horrible mother.

    Maybe instead of a small mutiny you and she could sit down and talk about what you're both feeling. Maybe she's feeling the same way.

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    I have a baby girl, now shes 15 mo's. My riding has greatly decreased in the past year, as had my golfing, kayaking, rock climbing.... what has increased is my working overtime. playing w/ blocks. protecting the cats from a grabby baby.

    Ive been riding the 17 miles one way to work and back twice a week to try and get my riding in. best solution I can come up with.

    Give mommy all the time off you can. she needs it more than you. cut her alot of slack. female hormones go crazy for about 6 months after giving birth. Be extra nice to her unless you enjoy arguing and making her cry.
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