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Old 05-06-05, 09:58 PM   #1
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How do i justify a new bike to the fiance

oK--I just got engaged a little while ago and although the wedding isnt for a whiel, the little lady is already starting to not like my bike addiction. I have a GF mtb ( i have never taken ti off road) I bought 3 yrs ago when i got back into cyclign and ride it all the time. I want to buy a new bike and the lady thinks i am wasting my money. How do i justify a $600 bike purchase to her when, as she says, there is nothing "wrong" with my current bike.
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... and if she wanted to spend $600 to replace something of hers that is working perfectly well?

If there is a real need for the bike or if it's simply a 'want' that you can afford quite easily, you need to explain that to her. If what you want is reasonable and she's a reasonable person she'll be OK with it.

If what you want is extravagent you'll need to learn that your spending habits now affect more than just you. If it's not extravagent but she still has issues with it you need to remember that that's what it will be like for you from this point on.
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i don't technically "need" a new bike. I am just sick of riding a mtb w/ 26" wheels on the roads all the time and goign at a snails pace. That was nto what it was intended for. Although i love my bike--i desire something to suit my purposes.

I wonder if i can get a prenup that exempts all cyclign related pruchases from marital property?
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Let me get this straight. You aren't married. Your fiance doesn't like your spending habits. Do you ever spend any money on her? You can afford this right? If you're living together, you're pulling your weight in the bill paying department? Does she realize how important this is to you?
All this being positive then buy the bike. Never give up your dreams.
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We dont live together yet, but she makes way more than i do so she wants me to save all my extra money. I pull my comparative weight.
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If you're wanting to swap over to a road bike I'd be telling her just that. You have something that's not designed for your purposes.

If she wants you to stay fit and enjoy a great leisure activity you're better off getting the road bike now.

Are you going to trade or sell the MTB? That would work in your favour.

It doesn't sound at all unreasonable to want a moderately priced road bike to ride on the road as long as you can afford it.
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I cant sell the mtb---i've added so many little thigns to it and rode it so much that i'm quite attahced and would liek to hit the trails at some time.

BTW--love the british spelling of "labour"
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We dont live together yet, but she makes way more than i do so she wants me to save all my extra money. I pull my comparative weight.
She's thinking about the future. That's a plus. But remind her the future will probably be brighter if you can stay interested in cycling, so you can stay healthy. That will easily save you the price of the bike.
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I went into our marriage with a road bike and a MTB. I've upgraded both since with my wife's blessing.

I think it's great that you need to work through what to do with your fiance now. So many couples only discover after they're married that they have very different ideas on managing money. It's just natural that some people think money is for spending (within reason) and some think that it's all about saving. It's a really positive thing to sort out your perspectives on money before the big day. It'll be a big help a few years into the marriage.
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Yeah, I've been married for a long time. The number one thing that's caused arguments is money. And lack of it wasn't the issue.
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See she is one of those pack rat people who NEVEr and i mean NEVER through anything away. As long as it isnt broken, she doesnt think it needs replacing---even if its an old ugly recliner from her grandparents----sigh (cant win em all)
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Explain that you can afford it because you don't have to buy as many pairs of shoes as she does.
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I too don't like to throw things out. But this year I had to replace my garage door. I have a single car garage. I got a six cubic yard dumpster for the door and some other stuff. Well, I over filled the dumpster. Some of the stuff had been in the garage for over 25 years and never touched. I ran across plans to some of my wood working projects that I finished over 20 years ago. etc.
Wow, does my garage look good! It took me this long to figure out, If you don't have a plan for something then get rid of it.
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She figures she may someday need that manual to the TV set that was thrown out last year.--its humorous at times. I'm more of like: the WTF is this, if i cant see an apparent use----its out the door.
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I figure i still have the freedom to buy it now--if i wait, then she's really got me.
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Could be worse, you could have a car habit. $600 just scratches the surface there. Since she makes more, she calls the shots. Tough luck pal, them's the brakes.

I would learn to COMPROMISE, it's essential to marriage. Instead of getting a $600 dollar brand new bike tell the prospective missus that you "Thought about it and will find something more in OUR budget. She will be so impressed that she will do naughty things to you, and you will like it.

Tell her you will comb over the classifieds for a used bike. This way you get a piece of wedding cake and a bike too.

Slightly used bikes are a better value anyway. Keep you eyes peeled and you can lift a really nice bike for a song from someone who doesn't know. Happens all the time.
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She figures she may someday need that manual to the TV set that was thrown out last year.--its humorous at times. I'm more of like: the WTF is this, if i cant see an apparent use----its out the door.
On a sliding scale I would like to say that I'm closer to your way of thinking than hers on keeping stuff or throwing it away. Unfortunately I have a shed that would suggest otherwise.

Hey megaman, maybe you could drop over and help me get rid of all the useless stuff that I don't really need.
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Well the other part is that the bike i want is a fixed and she thinks its silly.
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Well the other part is that the bike i want is a fixed and she thinks its silly.
But cycling is YOUR leisure activity, not hers. I'm sure there'll be stuff she does that you think is a bit silly too.

In any relationship there are times to compromise and times to just agree to disagree. You'll both need to learn to accept some things about each other that don't line up with your own thoughts.

Seeing as she's not the one who's going to ride the bike, I would think that this is one of those times that you'll have to agree to disagree.
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Yes---maybee if i cook a bunch of nice dinners this week she'll let it slide
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Well the other thing is that i convinced her to get a bike last summer but she hasnt ridden one in liek foreever so she is really slow and has a hard time keeping up---i thik she is afraid i wont want her to tag along if i get something faster. Which is why i said i should keep the old bike! Ha--point, match.
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Doesn't she have a hobby?
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Buy everything you can as soon as possible... while you're still in a position to negotiate. After the wedding, you'll have little or no bargaining power.
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No (other than sleep)--she works and works and works. Evil law firm owns her.
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Buy everything you can as soon as possible... while you're still in a position to negotiate. After the wedding, you'll have little or no bargaining power.

I have no bargaining power now
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