Originally posted by Stor Mand
No, not a jerk.
The question is - why have you not made a move if you were interested in this person? :confused:
Actually, she made a move on me -- we quasi-dated for a few weeks after she pinned me down in my car for a few hours on a Sunday night. This was good, but I was getting a wierd vibe from her afterwards.
So, I asked her where this was going, and got a very resonable answer -- while dating me wouldn't be bad in any form, there were some major political problems involved for both of us -- she used to date a friend of mine, and he's a bit nutty about things like that. That, and she's been really wanting to see what happens with the guy (who is moving back here from Colorado), and I can understand that -- if I was waiting for someone to show up, I wouldn't want to throw it away just because I met someone else whom I didn't know as well. I'd just let things ride and see what worked out.
On an additional note, things may still work out -- she's made noises in the past about certain attributes of the guy-from-afar that she doesn't like, and I wouldn't be opposed to the idea of getting together with her after she's figured things out. I just let her know that I'm not going to wait around for that to happen. There's bound to be a attractive, intelligent gal out there who is actually *available*.
Hey, such is life.