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    Want your spouse to ride with you?

    I've read several posts were your significant does not share your enthusiasm for biking. I've had the same problem. Either my wife does not want to ride at all or she does not want to keep up when she does. I have finally solved my problem. I bought my wife a Yamaha Vino scooter. I commute to work every day. Now shes waiting outside the building I work at with her scooter when I get off. We have been together, on two wheels, more since she gotten this than we ever have since I took up bike riding. We go shopping, out to eat, and just joy ride around town. Im telling people that we get 200 mpg with it. She rides it 100 miles while I ride my bike 100 miles with her. Give it a try!
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    The good news is she can motorpace you, the bad news is you could probably have gotten a tandem instead
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    Start her out by buying a bike that works for her. First TIme I bought a bike I thought would work for her. She knows best. Get her interested enough to seek out her own bicycle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by operator
    The good news is she can motorpace you, the bad news is you could probably have gotten a tandem instead

    We got a tandem. My wife loves to ride, but not at the same speeds as me. On the tandem I go a little slower, she goes a bit faster, and we stick together.

    Dan

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    Quote Originally Posted by operator
    The good news is she can motorpace you, the bad news is you could probably have gotten a tandem instead

    We got a tandem. My wife loves to ride, but not at the same speeds as me. On the tandem I go a little slower, she goes a bit faster, and we stick together.

    Dan

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    I have no more wife ... among other things ... she liked to do too many other things than riding.

    All my SO woes regarding building her a bike are gone now
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    When I go riding with my wife those are the "leisurely" days.

    I basically take it easy, and my wife pedals for all she's worth to keep a good pace. She hopes to one day be a stronger cyclist, and understands that it may take a while.
    Good night...and good luck

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    Interesting post...
    I had been off the bike for several years until my wife asked if I'd ride with her if she bought a bike. Well, I saw that as a great opportunity to get back on the bike, lose some weight and get in shape. She got a very nice comfort bike at REI, a K2 Breeze Xtra-small. It's a great bike and she's doing very good riding it.

    Problem is I have 2 bikes. An old REI Hybrid w/rear paniers, bags, etc., and my Cannondale R1000. I have been riding the old Hybrid to get back into shape and to keep a pace more appropropriate for her. But, I would rather ride the Cannondale and it'll be a problem to go slow.

    Can I expect for her to someday have an interest in a road bike? Or should I just accept the fact that when we ride together I'll ride the Hybrid and only ride the Cannondale on solo trips. I really love the fact that she wants to ride with me.

    Anyone have any similar experiences with this situation?

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    Has she ever been on a road bike? Perhaps she doesn't know how much fun she might have?

    And if the Cannondale is only for solo rides...oh well. I'm certain not all of your rides are with her.
    Good night...and good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by fastedddie
    I've read several posts were your significant does not share your enthusiasm for biking. I've had the same problem. Either my wife does not want to ride at all or she does not want to keep up when she does. I have finally solved my problem. I bought my wife a Yamaha Vino scooter. I commute to work every day. Now shes waiting outside the building I work at with her scooter when I get off. We have been together, on two wheels, more since she gotten this than we ever have since I took up bike riding. We go shopping, out to eat, and just joy ride around town. Im telling people that we get 200 mpg with it. She rides it 100 miles while I ride my bike 100 miles with her. Give it a try!
    Many times even if one's SO gets into riding, both will never be comfortable or happy riding the same speed. And the tandem doesn't work for everyone, if one person wants to go fast and they other doesn't. I thought this was a wonderful, elegant solution. Thanks for posting it.

    The motorpacing possibilities are pretty cool, too!

    Dagna

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    Bought my wife a roadie, after the hybrid stage. She liked it but not as much as I had hoped. Then we got the tandem. She loved it. Think cause it was easier cause she didn't have to figure out the shifting and all the tech stuff. Now that we've ridden it, she's really developed her skills. Now she understands the importance of learning how to and how it can help to shift.

    I'm a pretty strong rec rider and do pretty good. So we ride singles on a fresh day. If I think she's going to struggle at all, I'll suggest the tandem so that she never gets left behind. Now she does great! Averages17 mph on a 40 miler and has done 3 or 4 centuries with me on the tandem.

    One thing I don't understand about guys. I do everything I can to give my lady every advantage I can think of to make it easier for her to keep up. I figure if I want her to ride, gotta let her know! I thought about aero wheels once and a buddy of mine said,"don't waste your money on her, she won't appreciate it".

    Yeah! That was like 4 years ago. She's still riding and he isn't!

    Now, her bike is 3 times the price of mine! She has all the fancy purty shoes, helmets,clothes, and I still ride in my tye-dye t-shirt!........But she's still riding, and well!

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    At this stage, road bikes scare her. It's really too soon to expect any interest in a road bike. If she's still riding with me in a year I think there's a chance she'll outgrow the bike she has now. One thing I do notice is she pays attention to the number of ladies riding road bikes.

    All in all, I'm so happy she's riding with me it doesn't really matter how fast we go. We just have fun!

    -Milt

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    Gosh. Who knew there were so many swell husbands/boyfriends/SO's out there? Reading this thread this morning has given me a little more faith in mankind ...

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    I'm in an almost worse condition, my SO doesn't even know howto ride a bike, while my goal in cycling-life is to work up to touring. Work's been hectic for her this summer, but our goal is for her to just get comfortable riding around the closed mup at the park nearby.

    maybe next summer or several summers later I'll talk her into getting a road bike, maybe the changes in lifetyles we're both undergoing will push us apart...who knows.

    On the other hand, I'd sooner leave her at home than buy her a motorized scooter of any kind. somehow it reminds me of larry the cable guy's joke about a stationary exercise bike with a sidecar.
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    I asked my wife repeatly, and even suggested a Tandem, her answer was always No.

    So now I don't ask , and really do not want her riding with me. This gives me time to myself, with no worries or problems.
    Rather I go fast and hammer or go for a spin, this is something I enjoy and at times it gives me peace and solitude
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    Riding with the GF

    I got my GF to buy a bike when we moved. Now we like to go for a ride once or twice a week. At first we could not find out a way to do it so that we were both happy. She thinks I go to fast I think she goes to slow blah blah blah. We did a few rides together that were not so fun ...then I had an idea (ouch). I would work on my cadence and stroke on the days that we rode together.

    The couple of times a week that we ride together I try to keep my cadence above 90 and match her pace. I go to that place where I should shift cause im bouncing all over hell..but try to refine my pedal stroke so I am not. I am still totally working on it. For one thing it is good practice and I can tell now that I have a ton of work to do on my craptacular pedalling form. For two it just cracks the GF up to no end to watch me try to pedal at 120 rpm.

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    she does not want to keep up when she does

    Perhaps you need to slow down to her pace.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Beanz
    Now, her bike is 3 times the price of mine! She has all the fancy purty shoes, helmets,clothes,


    Now that sounds familiar! Of course, I would add to the story "costs 3 times as much, and is on the road 1/3 as often"!
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    all this makes me realize that i am a really cool chick....
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    Quote Originally Posted by wabbit
    all this makes me realize that i am a really cool chick....
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    I love the tandem for the wife (and kids!). It works so well we bought two. Now wife and son on one, and me and daughter on the other!
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    My husband and I have been riding now for about 7 years. We both have singles (I have 2 he has 3) and our tandem. I will NEVER be able to keep up with him, but that doesn't keep us from riding together. On Tuesday and Thursday nights, after work, he will start off about an hour before me and do his HARD ride, then by the time I get off work, he can meet me at my half way point on my ride. Then we enjoy a casual ride back together. This works out great for both of us. When my husband wants to do a harder ride together on the weekends, we take the tandem. Last weekend he wanted to climb our local mountains so we went out to a rest area to park and climbed Kitchen Creek up to Mt. Laguna. We had to stop a few times for a breather and butt break and our average speed going up Kitchen Creek was only 7.7 mph, but my husband's friends were amazed that we did it on the tandem. There are always ways to ride together if both people are willing to compromise a bit.

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    My wife has been riding for 10 years, I have been riding seriously for 4 months. I'm the one trying to keep up. Man she just whacks me on the hills. We ride together almost all the time and have a blast.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wabbit
    all this makes me realize that i am a really cool chick....
    heh heh


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    My wife rides a cheap mountain bike on the sidewalk, without a helmet, and listening to her i-pod. I've tried explaining it all to her to no avail. She likes to ride, so I keep trying.

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