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    How sad

    I was returning from a long ride on a somewhat remote stretch of hwy and there was a young lady who was carring heavy shopping bags who had obviously walked 2 or 3 miles from the supermarket with them. When I rode by her,she smiled at me and I smiled back,but felt sad about her predicement and that noone stopped to give her a ride. The fact that she even took the time to smile,while carrying those heavy bags,tells me a great deal about her spirit and goodness.

    If I ever do see her again,I'm going to give her a MTB bike that I never use,which would be perfect for her. Anyway,I decided to post my thoughts.

    Regards.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JCM800
    If I ever do see her again,I'm going to give her a MTB bike that I never use,which would be perfect for her. Anyway,I decided to post my thoughts.

    Regards.
    Let us know if it happens. It would be a great ending to your story.

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    You're a good man Charly Brown. Nice to see a sensitive spirit. I'll pray that you have an opportunity to be a good samaritan.
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    It could be that someone offered to give her a ride, and she refused. I mean, I've been in that same situation and had people offer rides, and I've never taken the opportunity to jump into some stranger's car. That's too scary, a woman alone in a car with someone she doesn't know.

    In any case, I hope you do find her and see what her situation is. There's nothing like having a bike to do your errands with, and it's nice of you to offer her a means of running her everyday errands. Perhaps you'll even be converting her to becoming the next women's cycling world champion... who knows?

    Keep up the good work. There should be more people like you in the world!

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    Thanks guys for your positive comments. There's no point in owning three bikes if I only use two. I'm sure she or someone else less fortunate could put it to much better use.

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    Hey! I carry heavy bags all the time. Can I have your bike?

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    I don't feel that this is sad. This is a story of triumph. You saw a human need and it moved you.

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    Let us know if you see her again.

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    You intention is commendable, but perhaps uneccessary. It may be that this woman doesn't view this as a hardship at all, she may even enjoy the walk. The way you describe this, it doesn't sound like she was suffering.

    I am pretty sure you have encountered at least a few folks who think that getting from place to place on a bicycle is a hardship (in the rain even), when nothing could be further from the truth. I notice this sentiment frequently. Poor guy, he's out there in the snow again on his bike, when the fact is, I wouldn't have it any other way.

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    How sad

    [QUOTE=JCM800]

    If I ever do see her again,I'm going to give her a MTB bike that I never use,which would be perfect for her. [QUOTE]


    Yeah, do that and next time you see her she'll be doing wheelies and ten feet drops

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    >>>>> Poor guy, he's out there in the snow again on his bike, when the fact is, I wouldn't have it any other way.

    Dan<<<<<

    Alot of people in my neighborhood feel the same way about me! They pity me since I don't have a car and use my bike in the rain, snow and cold weather. They used to laugh at me when I took out my 16' inch wheel folding bike but not anymore. They look at me now in pity. ;-(

    Yet. You have to be insane if you think I'm going to spend $7,000 dollars a year for a car just to take trips to the mall!

    I often feel sorry for women with children and the elderly who I see constantly waiting for the bus. I used to gloat when passing them on my bike but now I pity them. I used to be one of those long suffering bus commuters at one time who spent thousands of wasted hours waiting for that slow moving elephant to arrive. Not anymore. The bicycle liberated me from the bus. I still use trains but only in conjunction with my bicycle. In fact, the bicycle saves me a half an hour of walking to the train each day or about 4 days each year! It's one of the greatest secrets out there but very few people know about it. It's not the cost of the bus but the time wasted waiting that's puts a tremendous hardship on those that use that system.

    I doubt this woman will take your offer on a free bicycle. You see folks. It's not the cost of the bicycle that keeps people from becoming cycle commuters but the fear that others will see them and consider them poor or strange. A man laughed at me the other day when he saw me carrying grocery bags on my handlebars. Yet, if I were using a shopping cart, no one would even take a second look. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to use a bicycle for transportation which is something we take for granted having become enlightened. Yet most of the population would rather wait an hour for a bus than be seen riding a bicycle to work.

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    This is a similar topic and it gave me a warm fuzzy feeling. Family & I crossing the parking lot to go into Wally World. An elderly gentleman with a 25 lb bag of dog food in the bottom of his basket was opening the trunk of his car, incidentally parked in a handicapped zone. I stopped and offered to put his dog food & groceries in the car. He said he would very much appreciate it and then said "Thank you young man." LOL I guess 50 is young to him...I felt good about it but dear wife kinda looked at me like I was nuts. Made his day and made mine.

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    I applaud your compassion, but caution you about jumping to conclusions.

    Riding bikes is good. Walking is also good. I ride my bike to get into the city. Then I walk everywhere I need to go.

    I'm not sad. Nor am I "less fortunate." (I have three bikes, too).

    Maybe the pedestrian in your story wasn't sad or unfortunate, either.

    Although she might like to have the bike.

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    >>>>Maybe the pedestrian in your story wasn't sad or unfortunate, either.

    Although she might like to have the bike.

    RichC<<<<<<

    It is sad and unfortunate. Do you really believe that a woman would be walking alone with shopping bags if she could afford a car or the bus? Do you really believe this woman would like carrying that load when 99.9% would prefer to be doing something else?

    What gets me folks is the horrible stigma utility cycling has in this country. I have to say it's worse going shopping with a bicycle than taking the bus. Seriously. A person doing grocery shopping on a bike is considered to have no money even for the bus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smoore
    I'll pray that you have an opportunity to be a good samaritan.
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    He already did, but passed on by.
    If we learn from our mistakes, I must be a goddamn genius.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dahon.Steve
    Do you really believe that a woman would be walking alone with shopping bags if she could afford a car or the bus?
    Yes.

    The ability to walk: it's standard equipment, costs nothing, feels good, has no downside.

    If you think someone walking on a nice day is sad, I can't change your mind. Most of Americans, unfortunately, seem to agree with you. They feel the same way about cycling.

    They're wrong.

    You don't buy into the attitude about cycling. Why do you buy into it about walking?

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    Quote Originally Posted by fujibike
    This is a similar topic and it gave me a warm fuzzy feeling. Family & I crossing the parking lot to go into Wally World. An elderly gentleman with a 25 lb bag of dog food in the bottom of his basket was opening the trunk of his car, incidentally parked in a handicapped zone. I stopped and offered to put his dog food & groceries in the car. He said he would very much appreciate it and then said "Thank you young man." LOL I guess 50 is young to him...I felt good about it but dear wife kinda looked at me like I was nuts. Made his day and made mine.
    Today on my ride on this spectacular 80 degree early November day, I saw an elderly man walking along, using a cane and grimacing, perhaps not in pain, but for some reason or another.

    I was not going very fast, up hill and all, and when I got close, I said "Afternoon, sir, how are you doing? Isn't this just the most wonderful day?" His face blossomed into a wide grin, and said "Sonny, it most certainly is! You have a wonderful ride, hear?"

    Isn't it wonderful what a few friendly words can accomplish? Not only that, I felt good about brightening his day and about being 57 and called "Sonny!"
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    Dan - You intention is commendable, but perhaps unecessary. It may be that the women doesn't view this as a hardship at all, she may even enjoy the walk.
    I've seen that look before. I don't think she was out enjoying the walk.

    The way you describe this, it doesn't sound like she was suffering.
    I may be wrong,but I think she was down and out,but still had the dignity to walk miles carrying groceries. At least, that's how I observed the situation.

    Cycliste - Yeah, do that and next time you see her she'll be doing wheelies and ten feet drops


    Trek - Today on my ride on this spectacular 80 degree early November day, I saw an elderly man walking along, using a cane and grimacing, perhaps not in pain, but for some reason or another.

    I was not going very fast, up hill and all, and when I got close, I said "Afternoon, sir, how are you doing? Isn't this just the most wonderful day?" His face blossomed into a wide grin, and said "Sonny, it most certainly is! You have a wonderful ride, hear?"

    Isn't it wonderful what a few friendly words can accomplish? Not only that, I felt good about brightening his day and about being 57 and called "Sonny!"
    Great post and I couldn't agree with you more. A little kindness goes a long way and can make the difference.

    Regards.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dahon.Steve
    I doubt this woman will take your offer on a free bicycle.
    You're probably right. But had I been thinking, I could have offered to strap her groceries to my MTB and help her haul them back to her place. I would've then returned with the spare bike and left a note on it.

    You see folks. It's not the cost of the bicycle that keeps people from becoming cycle commuters but the fear that others will see them and consider them poor or strange.
    With all the expensive bike accoutrements, bright colors and shaved legs,I'm not sure how commuters perceive us cyclists.

    Maybe we should carry some converted water bottles marked with Will Work For Vehicle, so passing commuters can toss us some change

    Regards.

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    Ones perception of this situation dpends on where you live. If I had seen the same situation here in Miami I would have felt sad for her to. i know that smile, its a "I'm doing Ok, really I am" smile when in fact its to hide the emabarrasment of walking.

    In Miami its not a stigma to ride a bike for utilitarian sp? uses. I think more highly of the people that ride them to get groceries than the guys that ride their $4000 bikes down Biscayne Blvd at 7am.

    JCM...you smiled at her...you did the right thing. A true lady will not get offended if you offer her your bike. If you do offer it to her, buy a removeable basket for it. Send me the bill for the basket.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miamijim
    If I had seen the same situation here in Miami I would have felt sad for her to. i know that smile, its a "I'm doing Ok, really I am" smile when in fact its to hide the emabarrasment of walking.
    That's exactly what I was trying to say in my original post,but for some reason it didn't come out. Thx.

    Regards.

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