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    Wussies draggin me down and wasting my time

    I objectively think of myself as hard core. If it is raining cats and dogs outside, I will still go riding. If it's windy as hell outside, I'll still go riding and scream F-yous, F's, A-hole, Beotch, and everything else at the wind for slowing me down.

    But the one thing worse than the constant head wind to and fro or the rain storm is the ride buddy who either (A) tells you he is going to ride with you and cancels, or (B) tells you he is going to ride with you and cancels because the weather is too cold, too hot, too...boo hoo hoo...the wussy starts crying in front of you.

    Here I am, I set aside time and rearrange my schedule and and this ***** cancels on me. No more. No more. I'm tired of waiting for people to go riding with. Hell, I don't even need them on my rides.

    I guess some people have all the time in the world to get things done or lack thereof. I am by no-means in a rush to get things done...but I simply cannot tolerate people wasting my time...which probably explains why I don't hang around my friends because I find myself asking myself if my friends add value and quality to my existence.

    Life is too damn short. I see in life too often that it is best qualities in us all that can trampled on and destroyed by the very same people we call friends and family. It is mediocrity from them all and others we haven't met that try to stifle or slow our progress towards self-excellence.

    Be forewarned...stay away from those that don't promote or inspire self-excellence.

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    I agree. Of course, I have no friends either.
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    Of course you are right. Being right is not always the most important thing though. I would avoid folks that cancel very often, however you may find you are happier if you cut your friends a little (not too much) slack.
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    Ride solo and enjoy it. Think of it as the PREFERRED way of riding, and only condescend to ride with others a s a special favor to them, if you so desire.
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    So what if someone cancels on you. Obviously they have different priorities than you do. This really sounds like you want other people to live life your way, which means that the problem seems to be yours and your attempt to control other peoples behavior. Just quit talking to them about rides and ride alone for the rest of your time on the bike, otherwise cut some slack and occasionally ride with buddies. Social riding has it plusses.

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    I enjoy both riding alone and riding with others. The more the merrier. When I have planned a ride with other and they cancel I am disappointed but, when they just don't show up and I/we wait on one individual for 20-30 minutes I am PISSED OFF!!

    There are three of us that ride together regularly and the last two rides one (same one both times) didn't show. Kept us from taking off on time. One of those times the rude @#$%^&! had made us stay in town instead of a road trip to train in hills because had to work that afternoon. So...we stayed in town for him and he didn't show! ARGH!!!

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    Get new riding buddies/friends it's the only way to stop this from happening to you. I had a friend, stuff me around constantly, always late, then he would have to pump up his tyres etc before we took off instead of doing these things before he left home. When finally ready, he would complain of feeling hungry and want to stop and eat before we started. I don't talk to him any more.

    I hate wasting time, it is one of my pet hates, traffic lights, cues at banks, checkout counters etc. Life is too short to spend it waiting for some guy to stuff you about constantly.

    CHEERS.

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    Every lane is a bike lane Chris L's Avatar
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    This sounds like a troll to me. it gets 7/10 on the troll scale. I've had people cancel on me in the past and I don't give it a second thought. I just go riding anyway. Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is.
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    Originally posted by Chris L
    This sounds like a troll to me. it gets 7/10 on the troll scale. I've had people cancel on me in the past and I don't give it a second thought. I just go riding anyway. Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is.
    Nah, he's just venting. Surely 'The Mouth From The South' can understand that.

    I solve the problem by only riding with people I bump into (not literally) on the ride. The fact that I can meet up with a perfect stranger and have enough in common with them (cycling) to immediately engage in conversation is one of the thing s I love about cycling. Since there's a few regular commuters on the same route, it's even more rewarding when I bump into the same people over and over again.

    On that note, last night must have been some sort of record. I've never seen so many other cyclists commuting on my route. I must have seen a dozen other cyclists out there. That's a lot compared to what I normally see. I think the cooler weather is bringing them out.
    If we learn from our mistakes, I must be a goddamn genius.

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    The older your friends get, the worse it gets.

    With only a few exceptions, I always plan to go alone, invite some friends and if they show, it is a bonus. Otherwise, Oh solo mio... zoom zoom zoom
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    Nicknames causes a curiosity within me. Guess that is why some claim it is easy to figure indivuduals passwords.
    Eschelon. Last Fall I was up in Santa Barbara, Calif. area touring. Think I remember Eschelon on Jerseys( bike, of course.) Last time up in LA I drank some Eschelon wine at a nice restaurant. Great wine, also..
    Eschelon, you from Santa Barbara. Great cycling area, if so. Lots of races. Think always very easy up there to connect with cycling groups or cyclists.

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    The older your friends get, the worse it gets
    I absolutely agree. If you have known someone for 10 years or more, they might take advantage of your good nature, knowing that you won't make much of a fuss if they don't show. When friends are "new" they don't want to loose that friendship so they will make an effort to be there on time. It's all about respect for that person. If you respect them you will at least show up or make every effort to let them know early that you can't make it, for whatever reason.

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    Originally posted by Allister

    The fact that I can meet up with a perfect stranger and have enough in common with them (cycling) to immediately engage in conversation is one of the things I love about cycling.
    Me too...we engage in a great pastime, and it's good we can share it with fellow enthusiasts.

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    Every lane is a bike lane Chris L's Avatar
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    Originally posted by Dutchy


    I absolutely agree. If you have known someone for 10 years or more, they might take advantage of your good nature, knowing that you won't make much of a fuss if they don't show.
    I don't know about you, but I won't make a fuss irrespective of how long I've known them. If it's agreed that a ride starts at 6am, that's when it starts. They just make sure they get there. Either way, I don't care. I'm along for the ride. Sometimes it's nice to have some company, but I'll still ride either way.
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