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Old 01-29-05, 03:28 PM   #51
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The wife and I ride occasionally together.I am more into it than she is.but when the whole family goes she does not want to be left behind.she does not go very often.her bike is almost new.
yes you need to carry everything.let her set the pace and even where you are going.that way when she gets tired she knows where to turn around.or where to stop.
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Old 01-29-05, 03:48 PM   #52
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i agree with what everone is saying, but wouldn't it be nice to meet someone who didn't need to be treated like a timid little rabbit? someone you wouldn't have to worry about leaving you if you go above 15 mph. the way everyone is talking it sounds more like handling a delicate egg that will break if you don't use extreme care. i don't condone being a jerk or a showoff but i wonder how great this cycling relationship is going to be if it warrents so much concern.
I agree completely. As would my gf. She would scoff at being treated like an egg. When I want to have fun and rip the trails I take off and then wait for her, for example. She would never stop me from tearing it up, and I would never force her into a situation she couldn't handle. I couldn't keep my sanity if I felt I had to hold back everytime I rode with her, and she would likely get pissed if she realized I wasn't actually riding...(she can usually tell though, I get edgy and really gotta jump, drop and rip a trail and it pretty obvious, she will tell me to take off)...

To be honest its like that with my gf, and other girls I ride with. If a chick needs handling with kitty gloves she probably isn't my type anyways.
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Old 01-29-05, 09:45 PM   #53
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When my non-biker wife tried to get into cycling, we got a tandem so we could ride together. ... she decided it was too much like work and started making excuses to stay home.
I guess it can go either way. My wife, who's longest ride on a single is less than 30 miles, has gotten into tandeming. Now she's disappointed if we don't regularly ride at least that distance!
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Old 01-30-05, 09:31 AM   #54
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We second the motion: TANDEM!
Celebrating 30 years of riding TWOgether this week!
You've got a year on us. We started riding tendems in 1976 when my wife was pregnant with our youngest. Our first tandem bike wasn't a very good bike, but it was the best that we could afford at the time and it was the only way that we could ride together. It's one of three major life-changing decisions that I've made in my life.
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Old 01-30-05, 11:38 AM   #55
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My wife and I are riding partners, have been ever since we started riding. I'm stronger and faster than she is, she has much more endurance than I do. So things seem to even out. I'll wait for her on the tops of hills and often she'll tow me in her draft for the long haul. The yin and yang of our ridings styles work out.

I maintain our bikes, and I make real sure everything is *just* to her liking. And she *lets* me buys whatever I want/need because she knows it make us both happy.
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Old 01-30-05, 05:23 PM   #56
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My wife rides with me on short rides around town. She's not riding now because she is pregnet, and probably won't get back on her bike until the fall.(Baby is due in May)
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I almost always ride with my wife when she rides. Often though, I will ride alone when she doesn't care to. My rides with her a usually short but fun. Frequently I will just take off on a longer, harder ride after she stops.
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All we ever do is ride together considering we also own a tandem. Like someone else on this topic it was a life changing decision that we made for not only our health, but our marriage. It's great!
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My wife and I ride together for the most part. There are those times I forge
on ahead, or ride by myself and thats ok.
i.e. we were doing HHH and she knowing that I was faster told me to
go on. Another HHH I was pulling off due to cramps and told her to go on.
That is one of the nice things about our relationship, while we do alot of
things together, we don't always have to stay together all of the time.

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I ride with my gf most weekends. She isn't as strong a rider as I am, but our rides are still very enjoyable for me (and her too). I will do all or almost all of the pulling so she can improve her leg speed and get used to riding a higher pace, and we can also ride longer distances. When she first started, I slowly educated her on how to ride in a group/paceline, suggested gearing/cadence, suggested equipment needs, etc.

I think if your gf enjoys riding, you might suggest doing an organized ride together (or at least mention how much you enjoy them). The ride can be one of the shorter routes on a century ride -- just something for her to look forward to/get excited about, and learn more about what it takes to improve. Once my gf decided she'd like to try a century ride she really got into the whole cycling thing. Our first organized ride together was a 30-miler, then a 70-miler. I know she really enjoys the "challenge" of an organized ride and definitely works on preparing properly for each one. I've also found that she will ask me more questions and want to learn more when she's "in training." Now, we regularly ride centuries together and she truly enjoys the rides and the work that goes into preparing for them!

As for you, I would suggest you do some things to make your "together" rides more challenging/beneficial, like do some "big gear" work, or work on increasing your cadence, or work on pedaling out of the saddle -- there are lots of things you can do. You can also extend your ride before or after your "together" rides -- get creative -- it's worth it!

Good luck and keep us posted!
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Old 02-01-05, 12:33 PM   #61
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Lord Opie, women are a "pain" huh!

Here's my story. I've been riding with my partner for almost 25 years. My concept of a "nice" bike ride was 4 miles! Our first distance ride was 25 miles. He told me that 20 years later. We didn't know about training and nutrition back then, we just rode. My bike was too big and too heavy and I struggled alot. My max mileage was about 30 miles. On organized rides, where there were maps and the roads were marked he went off an left me. He was setting his own goals ( 50+ miles) when I was struggling to do 30 or 40 miles) I got used to be left behind and rode by myself. I liked it because I could stop and rest and eat when I wanted. Noone was waiting for me to "walk" a hill and I didn't have to struggle to keep up. He didn't worry because there were sags and other riders to watch out for me. We mostly did organized rides but when we went out on our own he would wait at the top of a hill or when there was a turn on the route.

I started training on my own, got a better bike and got faster. Now riding with him is frustrating because he still thinks I ride a slow pace and will slow down. If I try to set the pace then he takes off and leaves me behind. So I still end up by myself.

Several times I have gone off and left him when he was in trouble. Several years ago I was so happy that I climbed a hill ahead of him that I didn't realize he had a flat tire. I had the pump with me. Fortunately, he got sagged in. Last summer I was ahead and he was having stomach problems. I figure that makes up for the times he's gone off and left me!

Everyone has their own pace and style of riding. The more your gf rides the faster she will become. Help her to build a good cardio fitness base and encourage her accomplishments.

There are 2 good books for women on cycling. "A Woman's Guide to Cycling" by Susan Weaver and "The Female Cyclist" by Gale Bernhardt.

Good luck, hope cycling becomes her passion as it has become mine!
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I wish I had a gf, LolLL
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Old 02-02-05, 09:53 PM   #63
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Only in my wallet!

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Old 02-03-05, 03:46 PM   #64
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I began riding 6 years ago after buying a used Trek at a yard sale. Well, after my first MS150, my son (then 7) expressed an interest in riding also. This eventually led to family outings with my wife and son on their own bikes, and me towing our daughter on a bike trailer. This year will be our 5th MS150.

I'll tell you -- there is NOTHING like a 40lb body on a 30lb trailer to even out riding capabilities. If my wife and I do happen to go out alone (which is not very often), I don't drop her. If I'm feeling overly energetic, I'll tell her that I'm going to sprint to a certain point, and then I'll circle back to pick her up again if necessary.

So, I guess if there is a point to all this, it would have to be think long term. It may turn into something the whole family can do together.

Good luck and happy riding!

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My wife is partially disabled due to a fall and we have spent years trying to find her a comfortable bike. She is now on a semi recumbrant (sic?) and trying again to get her mileage up. She's definately not fast (neither am I) and she is not up to the 50 mile beach and back rides, more like the 4 miles around the lake rides, but hey, the fact that she is out there trying, riding and doing it is awesome to me, and I am more proud of her than any trophy I ever won in any sport. I just cruise behind her on my mountain bike and fend off her comments about looking dumb on the bike....and smile the whole ride. She called me at work a few minutes ago to tell me how much she enjoyed riding yesterday....I had orginally planned to get a 20-30 mile ride in and at the last moment she said she wanted to go. Never be afraid to enjoy something through someone else's eyes-many of times the view is better!
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Old 02-03-05, 08:27 PM   #66
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motomickey - all I can say is "wow" to your last post. Talk about putting everything into perspective and realizing the value of love! My hat is off to you and I can only hope to be as good to my significant other as it's obvious you are to yours...
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Old 02-06-05, 12:33 PM   #67
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I'm going to recommend a tandem.

If you are compatible, it'll be a good investment because you'll love it. If you aren't compatible, you'll find out fast. If trying to ride a tandem together reveals your incompatibility, a tandem is cheaper than a divorce so it will still have been a good investment.
Ditto on the tandem recommendation. My wife and I are vastly different in speed and endurance, but on the tandem it's all together, all the time. When we ride 70-80 km (40-45 miles) in hilly terrain, I am seriously worn out from pulling her up hills and am more than happy to indulge her requests to stop at a beer garden (God am I going to miss that wehen we get back to the States this year...).

Buy the tandem. If she doesn't work out, the next GF might.
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Old 02-09-05, 09:53 AM   #68
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I have the feeling I'll be riding alone this spring/summer/fall. My girlfriend doesn't like biking.
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Old 02-09-05, 03:42 PM   #69
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I rides with a GF/Wife!

I'm a bit faster than she, though she has the faster bike, but we usually keep a fairly even pace. We ride whenever we can get away with not driving. If it's too cold for our kid to be riding in the bike seat, it's time for the car. Otherwise, we prefer to enjoy going places.
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My G/F really just started riding last year and she prefers the trails/greenways while I've become a converted roadie. So, I ride about 12 miles (at my pace) on the road, meet her at a spot on the greenway, we ride about 18 miles or so on the greenways (mostly at her pace, although I will pull her to give her a workout or take off by myself sometimes), then I drop her back off at the same spot and then ride 12 back home again at my pace. It works out nicely.
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there's a discussion about this topic in women's cycling- we're all wondering why so few women are out there riding.We all wish we knew more! We don't care about getting dirty, falling, sweating, shorts, etc. I find it kind of funny in a way that women are so afraid to hurt themselves, when usually the injuries are just skin. ANd yet, they will give birth to children- like that isn't painful?
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wabbit - you're on to something! Or how about the girls who are nervous about being seen in bike shorts but will wear micro skirts, go-go boots and push-up bras to a club? Interesting world we live in.

That said, after 2 rides with my G/F, things are slowly progressing. We made it about 12 miles at a slightly faster pace this past weekend and she was riding clipless (per my urging) and liking it a lot. So I'm hopeful this will work out after all...
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I wonder how I should convince my GF that cycling is fun...and then somehow convincing her that a 200ish dollar+ bike is worth the investment
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I think you left out a zero.
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No...I didn't. If she got a bike I can almost bet it'd be a low end used bike.
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