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    Quote Originally Posted by lauren
    Haha, that describes my parents perfectly. You need a car, boyfriend, house, kids, etc. Just kill me now because I am never gonna grow up! That's why I'm in grad school dammit! I want to put off being a "grownup" because it's no fun.
    Interesting that people often think of bicycling as mature. To me, part or maturity is doing what is practical and efficient, rather than focusing on comfort and luxury - this is characteristic of children. I drove until I was in my mid-20s. Then I moved back to the city for school and need a cheap efficient method of transport. I kept my car initially, but found I didn't use it much. Eventually, I sold it, and have been car free for about 5 years now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gilby

    But think about how much effort most women put into getting ready to go out. They do their hair & make-up, dress up in clothes & shoes not particularly suited for biking...There is a societal expectation for women to look 100% polished, hence the need to travel in the enclosed environment of the car. No matter how much time I spend getting ready to go out, it's virtually impossible to arrive at my destination without looking rumpled, being sweaty, or having helmet hair. Men's expectations of women make it pretty hard for the car-free female, too.
    That's interesting, gilby, I didn't think of that!

    I guess if I were carfree and I wanted to take a lady to a classy place like the theatre or a nice restaurant I would have a taxi waiting for me!
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    personally the only time having a car ever helped me dating was when i was still living with my parents and couldn't have girls in my room with the door closed..

    unless you are required to pick the girl up from home and meet her parents...jeez maybe i'm just getting old, or have higher expectations from women than to feel as if the only way that they can go on a date with me is to have me pick them up, take them here and there and then at the end drop them off back home.

    i don't think i've had a date like that in 20yrs+... its always been an afterwork kind of meet me here, or my after work i'll meet you here type thing, cars really just never quite mattered.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smurfy
    I guess if I were carfree and I wanted to take a lady to a classy place like the theatre or a nice restaurant I would have a taxi waiting for me!
    Smurfy, once your lady understands bikes as transportation, live theatre or nice restaurant can be bikeable. We do it. Last time I went to the Shakespeare Theater we biked there in the snow. The coat check people were happy to take our helmets and foul weather gear.

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    Wow,

    Reading this tread is making me feel all the more lucky. Nancy uses her touring bike to commute to work on. We just returned from a 980 mile tour in the northeast. The bikes just arrived in their cases via Fedex. She's expecting me to have her bike back together ASAP because school starts on Monday.

    Been together 12 years. She doesn't want kids and she hates shopping.

    Keep looking if you're looking. You name it, they're out there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cryogenic
    I've found that many prospective females automatically try to slap me with the "loser" tag upon finding out I do not (and will not) own a car. Their loss, certainly not mine. I'm not even worried about it in the least as I rather enjoy being single and don't really have any immediate desire to change that. The way I see it, I'm not going to change my life and the way I live just to "improve my chances" in the dating game or whatever.
    I was going to offer my take on this thread, but the post I'm quoting sums it up perfectly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlanK
    I think being without a car is more of a detriminant to dating prospects for males than females. When I've browsed personal ads of 'women seeking men', the requirement "must have own car" is fairly common, whereas I don't see it 'men seeking women'.
    I suspect that says more about personal ads than it says about men or women. If you look at the number of ads on an Internet dating website coming from each gender you'll see what I mean. Generally the males outnumber the females about 5-1 on these places. Even if a newspaper tries to publish an even spread of ads across the categories, you'll find they're rejecting a lot more 'male' ads than 'female' ads.

    Both men and women are aware of this (or at least, they are if they've been in the game for any length of time), and adjust the wording of their ads accordingly. Women know they have choice, so they take advantage of it. Men know they're trying to compete with a ridiculous number of other men, and so they can't afford to make too many demands. Take a look at some of the other requirements in the ads and you'll see what I mean.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chris L
    I suspect that says more about personal ads than it says about men or women. If you look at the number of ads on an Internet dating website coming from each gender you'll see what I mean. Generally the males outnumber the females about 5-1 on these places. Even if a newspaper tries to publish an even spread of ads across the categories, you'll find they're rejecting a lot more 'male' ads than 'female' ads.

    Both men and women are aware of this (or at least, they are if they've been in the game for any length of time), and adjust the wording of their ads accordingly. Women know they have choice, so they take advantage of it. Men know they're trying to compete with a ridiculous number of other men, and so they can't afford to make too many demands. Take a look at some of the other requirements in the ads and you'll see what I mean.
    That's especially true in the under 40 age range - there are many more available males than females, so the ratio favors women. The ration gradually reverses to favor men in older age groups, though. There are many more single women over 40 than there are males.

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    Do you know what bothers Me? I am 14 years old and I have not ever even met one girl my age that likes to mountain bike. No offense to girls but every one I know, does not like mud or streams or rocks, jewels excluded. But I do have a atv and dirtbike that the ladies love so heres my spin on how girls see me. Bike= Geek = Motorized Vehicle = Cool I just don't know why. I wish I had a girlfriend that would mountain bike with me. A girl that likes to do the things I do. Thats how I feel.I have no car. But when your fourteen you can not drive one legally on public roads. Thats how I feel. I feel like the first young guy in this thread too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trekbikedude
    Do you know what bothers Me? I am 14 years old and I have not ever even met one girl my age that likes to mountain bike. No offense to girls but every one I know, does not like mud or streams or rocks, jewels excluded. But I do have a atv and dirtbike that the ladies love so heres my spin on how girls see me. Bike= Geek = Motorized Vehicle = Cool I just don't know why. I wish I had a girlfriend that would mountain bike with me. A girl that likes to do the things I do. Thats how I feel.I have no car. But when your fourteen you can not drive one legally on public roads. Thats how I feel. I feel like the first young guy in this thread too.
    I hear ya, dude. I remember high school. Girls didn't seem to be interested in me until I got a car - it was like night and day. At 18, I got a car, and suddenly girls seemed much more interested, and it was very transparent why they were interested in me. I don't the attitude changes much as they get older, they're just better at concealing it. I think it's largely a perception of socioeconomic status - car=more money=more females. Really makes you appreciate the honesty of prostitutes

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    Trekbikedude; your mission now is to identify and develope your own abilities and interests not worry about impressing anyone. Competence in something you love will serve you better than displaying material possesions that you think or hope someone else will love. When you excel in something uncommon, it is harder to comunicate to the opposite sex that you are excellent but your life will be better than if you become a common screwup.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trekbikedude
    Do you know what bothers Me? I am 14 years old and I have not ever even met one girl my age that likes to mountain bike. No offense to girls but every one I know, does not like mud or streams or rocks, jewels excluded. But I do have a atv and dirtbike that the ladies love so heres my spin on how girls see me. Bike= Geek = Motorized Vehicle = Cool I just don't know why. I wish I had a girlfriend that would mountain bike with me. A girl that likes to do the things I do. Thats how I feel.I have no car. But when your fourteen you can not drive one legally on public roads. Thats how I feel. I feel like the first young guy in this thread too.
    Seriously, don't worry about it. Easy for me to say, I know. Just do what you want to do. At least you'll have something to show for it. Better than chasing girls and trying to please them. Eventually, you will find one who actually likes you. In the meantime, keep biking.
    Bring the pain.

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    I guess I'll add an opinion that doesn't concern the "relationship" aspect of cycling (as most of the relevant points have been posted).

    I'm sure there's probably other cyclists out there that get this treatment from friends/family; the persistent sympathethic "well, we can give you a ride" treatment. Don't get me wrong, I love my friends, and am grateful that they are willing to drive me around whenever we get together, but they just don't seem to understand the fact that I CHOSE to ride a bike everywhere I go, and I ENJOY riding it. I'm very curious how many more years it will be before people stop offering rides.

    And for anyone that's worried that cycling is inhibiting their chances with women/men; a ray of hope has landed a couple weeks ago in the theaters. Even the 40 year-old virgin isn't a virgin anymore.

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    Hey Trekbikedude,

    I'm 21 and a little bit up the road from You, but I remember how it is. You have to try to contain your superficial impulses (which tempt us all) and simply focus on investing in yourself via Education, Staying Healthy, Opening Your Mind to New Healthy Experiences etc. Later on in college You'll find the "Quality" girls to whom being "car-free" won't matter (Hopefully) Just yesterday I explained to two cute girls in my Child Development that I was car-free and that I by choice choose to ride a bike. Both of them were really cool about and seemed to admire this mark of individuality.

    Good Luck Pal

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mehow
    Just yesterday I explained to two cute girls in my Child Development that I was car-free and that I by choice choose to ride a bike. Both of them were really cool about and seemed to admire this mark of individuality.
    Since this anecdote doesn't end with the sentence "I got her number", I'm forced to question your interpretation of their perception.

    (Just kidding man...)

    Don't worry though, Original Poster! I've got a car and it doesn't help.

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    I think when you are considering the "odds" so to speak it's important to consider the psychology of the motor car. Driving is a very gladitorial activity and it gives people some people a feeling of power. Because of this percieved power they are more confident and therefore their "odds" improve.
    I'm happy and confident with just mah bike. Infact my bike has peddaled my ass off vastly improving my odd's. Biking hasn't just improved my physical shape, but the strengthening of my muscles has given me greater flexibility, agility, poise and balance. The way you carry yourself in my opinion has more of an affect on your attractivness than your static physical apearance. But regardless, I don't think your life descision should be motivated by the dating game. This qoute sum's up my views on the dating game.

    Be who you are and say what you want
    Because those who mind don't matter
    And those who matter don't mind
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    If they don't like me the way I am I'm not interested.

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    I am wondering if this superficial interest in the kind of car a guy drives is confined to the "typical" American girl. I'm an American girl and I've never cared about the type of car a guy drove, or if he even had one. Then again, I'm the atypical girl who doesn't even care about getting jewelry or anything like that.

    Basically, if the girl is so concerned about material things like that then she just may not be worth it.

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    I think what's most important is that your major life points are in sync. My eldest son is venturing into the dating scene and one of the things I tell him is to figure out what's important to him and find a girl who shares them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilHinault View Post
    Haha in India a batchelor might be able to carry his girlfriend on his bike easily, in the USA said girlfriend might weigh 200 lbs.

    Just sayin'
    lol! so true!

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    I always found it easier to meet women without a car. I am in better shape than most people that are dependent on their cars. I have met women using public transport on the bus and at the bus stop, and as well as others that you would never meet in a car because you are going so fast. On a bike you can stop and talk to other women you see on the street. They see that you are in good shape and take care of yourself.

    At the weekly time trials I have met some very pretty women that were interested in the same thing that I am. At rest stops on my bike. The opportunities to meet women are endless on a bike. The only time you stop a woman on the street to talk to her is if she is a hooker when you are in a car. On a bike you can stop and talk to any woman you want. At a drive through it is hard to meet the women that work at the coffee shop of burger joint. When you are on a bike or on foot you have so much more opportunity to stop and talk to the honeys.

    Plus you will have tons more money so you can rent that vagina magnet that you could never afford to lease or own when you want to find a superficial woman that just wants to have sex with you because you own an SUV.

    Because you have more money you can now afford to take your date out to nicer places, instead of being a cheap bugger and trying to have sex in your car, you can take her to your place and have sex in your bed, or maybe be even able to rent a decent hotel room.

    If you meet a woman at the bar or club most people do not bring their car if they are planning on drinking, so if you want a one night stand there is no need to even mention anything about a car since you will be both taking a cab.

    In Vancouver I made friends with a carload of women when they passed me and were yelling at me about my legs. The sky is the limit.

    You just have to understand a culture where a car is not necessary. Too many today are fixated on a car culture and do not see any other choice. If you can step back from the car culture and give car free culture a chance. Take car free as more than not having a car but as a process that guides your life or culture. All the process of meeting women takes is the time and effort to stop and talk to as many as you can, and a car free culture is the perfect opportunity because it slows you down to take the time to talk to people.

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    I have pondered this lately. getting laid and long term dating sans car.

    turns out being car-less means little for getting laid. you got game or you don't. one thing you don't do for the getting laid strategy is give up your position quickly, if at all, before at least making first base. After all, having a car is a resource that is attractive to women, even if they just want to hook up. you don’t want to back pedal into the long version of why you are car-less as it takes away focus. I am talking about shallow women here. Cool girls mostly care less. At least here in the bay area. Also depends on who you are working on.

    for dating, the long version is needed and this is your chance to shine. own it but dont preach it. should be an afterthought unless she picks it up. I have plans for getting the anti-screw-me prius when it is up near 100mpg and that is my goal so I wont be carless forever. But car or not, when a girl knows your income, and the fact that you've had cars before, then puts it all together, she knows whats up. no matter your income/status, there is someone for you.

    Girls that run are from you for being carless are really saying you either have no game or have not taken the time to prove you are a worthy long term partner. But they are the shallow ones anyway. Sorry ladies.

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    A woman or man is either interested in you for you or not. End of story! This of course depends on how you present yourself, and confidence is everything. If having a car is what it takes to make you confident then you'll need a car. If riding your bike 200 miles a week keeps you in shape which makes you confident then the car aint gonna do ***** for you in the dating world (other than pure logistics and creativity can overcome most of that).

    I have been greatly surprised at the understanding, and often envy, people give me when they understand just what a car-free life style is like. It is a good conversation starter and can go so many different directions. It has opened more doors than it has closed, however it is possible that it has closed doors that I am unaware of. Taking someone out to an expensive restaurant, bragging to them about your job/car/salary/house/etc. just isn't going to make them interested in you. They might be interested in using you for those resources temporarily though, in which case good luck to you both.

    Now I just gotta find me a woman that can teach me to master a track stand and that I can draft off when I get tired and I'll be in love.

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    Most of the women I've met in the last few years seem impressed when I say I prefer cycling to driving. That part of my lifestyle doesn't seem to be a barrier.

    In more practical terms, car-free dating is not easy for me. I'm quite visible and well known here so if I want any privacy on a date, I need to get out of town. (At times, I've been interrupted when I'm out with friends in town.) Because of some of the logistics involved, a car is now involved.
    Life is good.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AdamD View Post

    Now I just gotta find me a woman that can teach me to master a track stand and that I can draft off when I get tired and I'll be in love.
    Surprised this thread took off from my first post on lcf and it came back to life... Anyway I dated a woman like this for a few years. They're out there. She left me for a tougher biker but she taught me a lot. The posts on this thread and other dating threads are saying a lot about how America can leave the car as sex facilitator behind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gwd View Post
    The posts on this thread and other dating threads are saying a lot about how America can leave the car as sex facilitator behind.
    I don't have a problem leaving the car behind as a sex facilitator. I'm just hoping to run across a woman that will see my new Cross Check as a sex facilitator.

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