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Living Car Free Do you live car free or car light? Do you prefer to use alternative transportation (bicycles, walking, other human-powered or public transportation) for everyday activities whenever possible? Discuss your lifestyle here.

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Old 01-06-06, 12:01 PM   #1
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Split Families

Ok, maybe it's the whole opposites attract thing but my wife and I have totally different attitudes towards transportation. I commute by bike, run errands on my bike and generally avoid driving whenever I can. My wife hates to bicycle, would rather walk or run for exercise but depends on her car for transportation. She chalks my bicycle commuting up as another one of my numerous eccentricities. This divide has spread to my kids. My oldest won’t ride; my youngest loves to ride and is learning how to wrench on my old Gary Fisher. Is anyone else in a similar situation, where one half of your household just doesn’t get the desire to do without a car?
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Old 01-06-06, 01:00 PM   #2
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I've heard bad things about biking in Atlanta, and judging from all the sprawl I see from the air, I believe them.

Anyway, yes I've experienced similar situations. But it doesn't have to lead to divorce.

When I was raising my kid I had a rule that if an event was in the city, we biked there. She hated it and when she grew up she gave the bike to one of her friends who was rebelling against car culture.

Last time I met my daughter for coffee , I biked ten miles to a coffee shop three blocks from her house. She drove. She lives in a nice neighborhood, its a pleasent walk, sidewalks, interesting shops. She drives everywhere. I blame her mother who also drives everywhere and complained about my walking to work right up to the day we divorced.

One day, when my daughter was a teenager, one of the soccer moms came over to tell me that her husband is a bike person. She said "When we met he went everywhere by bike. I thought he'd change after we married and had kids but he just won't give it up. He insists on biking to work even in bad weather." She seemed resigned to his behaviour.

I think my daughter as a teenager didn't like being different. The other girls came in minivans or SUV's. One soccer mom even bought a Limo for hauling the kids. Even when they lived just a few blocks from the field the parents still drove them.
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Yep, I'm all too familiar with the divided household situation.
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Same exact thing here, except it doesn't cause any friction between my wife and me. The kids know that if they are going with Dad, they are going by bicycle - and the oldest avoids bicycling at all costs. There seems to be some stigma about bicycling with teens these days. They would rather get a ride from their mother than ride a bike. When I was a teen, I would do anything to avoid being ferried around by mom. Independence is not so important to today's youths. Parental dependence even for people in their early twenties is acceptable among their peer group, so if they don't have a car, they get a ride from momma. Before you get too frustrated, remember that WE created it.

Anyway, for now you have to enjoy the eccentricities of bicycling as a unique pioneer. If you want to see a bit more transportation sanity, travel to other countries where the motorcar does not own so many souls.
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Same exact thing here, except it doesn't cause any friction between my wife and me. The kids know that if they are going with Dad, they are going by bicycle - and the oldest avoids bicycling at all costs. There seems to be some stigma about bicycling with teens these days. They would rather get a ride from their mother than ride a bike. When I was a teen, I would do anything to avoid being ferried around by mom. Independence is not so important to today's youths. Parental dependence even for people in their early twenties is acceptable among their peer group, so if they don't have a car, they get a ride from momma. Before you get too frustrated, remember that WE created it.

Anyway, for now you have to enjoy the eccentricities of bicycling as a unique pioneer. If you want to see a bit more transportation sanity, travel to other countries where the motorcar does not own so many souls.
Well said!

The human race in general sold it's soul for what it thought was freedom and security. Instead, they got a big ugly machine that perpuates violence, sloth, apathy, stupidity, carelessness, waste, pollution, dependance and financial slavery.
Obviously humanity got the sh*tty end of the deal. I weep for the species...

As for myself, there's gas addicted family members just that don't get it.
"You want to ride with me to the store?"
"No thanks. I don't need much, and the trip ain't that far."
"Not that far?! You're kidding, right?"
"Dude, it's only a mile. Big deal."
"Okay, if you say so..."
"Think about it, alright? Just...think about it. Seeya in five."

It's like saving the gas and wear and tear on that car for a short jaunt just doesn't connect in the goo they call brains.

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