This article from Dear Abby really angered me to no end. Here's a guy that won't marry his long time girlfriend of three years because she's afraid to drive! His reason is that her being car free will be too much of a hard ship on the relationship so he refused to give her an engagement ring. On top of this, Dear Abby gave her the wrong advice by requesting she seek a mental health professional so she can buy a motor car and live happly ever after. This is INSANE!
It's the first time I've ever heard a man leaving a woman who choose to be car free because it's usually the other way around. However, if "Wade" is willing to dump her over a car, then she's better off without him. If it's not a car this time, it will be some other "hardship" that will make him split. Dear Abby should have told the woman to cut her loss and move on.
Folks, there are plenty of men and women out there that don't want to drive. Include me in that group and I'm not a woman because it's flat out dangerous to drive on todays highways with cars speeding like there's no tomorrow. I won't drive to work even if I had a car and I don't need a mental professional because it's a quality of life issue. I consider driving a hardship, not the other way around.
By Abigail Van Buren
Sat May 3, 7:59 PM ET
DEAR ABBY: I fell in love with "Wade" the night I met him. We almost got married, but he couldn't get past my fear of driving. As a child, I witnessed an accident. It was horrific and left me emotionally scarred. If I try to drive in traffic I freeze up and get flashbacks. I have tried for years to put this behind me.
After three years, Wade finally issued an ultimatum. Unless I drove, he would not buy me an engagement ring. He said my inability to drive would create too great a hardship for us.
Abby, I wanted desperately to get past my fear, but couldn't -- not even for love. I love Wade dearly, but not enough to endanger other people's lives. I ended the relationship and told him I hoped he'd find a pretty driver. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, and I miss him every day. Did I do the right thing? -- HEARTBROKEN IN WEST VIRGINIA
DEAR HEARTBROKEN: You may have acted hastily. There are mental health professionals who specialize in helping people with post-traumatic-stress problems, and you appear to fall into that category. Please talk to your doctor and ask for a referral to see if your childhood trauma can be overcome. Then, if you're successful, call Wade and invite him out for a "spin" -- preferably to the nearest jeweler. If you make one more attempt to get past this, at least you'll know you left no stone unturned