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Old 10-24-05, 02:12 PM   #1
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What's your excuse for riding?

Hi! I am relatively new to biking and a complete n00b in this forum! I have been doing quite a few XC races this year, something which proved to be extremely time-consuming.

After getting totally hooked, I made a futile attempt to get my bf into XC racing. It would have been a lot easier on our relationship if we both shared the same passion for biking, a thought I am sure a lot of you are familiar with. Sadly, my bf is a real couch potato, even though he made an attempt at becoming a professional dancer when he was 17. Anyway, I like racing (and training) and now that we are on the verge of the cyclocross season, I had an eager plan to participate as much as possible, but my bf is biatching about it. Wtf should I do? Anybody gone thru the same thing? Do you have a good excuse to ride that I could use on him?

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Old 10-24-05, 02:18 PM   #2
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tell him "the bike comes first" or "i love you, but i love biking more"



no, just tell him that you really love to be on the bike. if he doesnt understand, then umm, i dont know.


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Old 10-24-05, 03:27 PM   #3
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It would have been a lot easier on our relationship if we both shared the same passion for biking, a thought I am sure a lot of you are familiar with.
I say dump him. It's not like you'll have a hard time finding a single, non-couch potato mountan biking guy.
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Old 10-24-05, 03:30 PM   #4
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I say dump him. It's not like you'll have a hard time finding a single, non-couch potato mountan biking guy.
Like, lets see..............Gastro?????
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Yeah, my bf acts the same way toward me....
My best excuse for riding is that I'm still F*ing breathing....
There you go. Wish that's all I had to worry about, damn.
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Yeah, my bf acts the same way toward me....
My best excuse for riding is that I'm still F*ing breathing....
There you go. Wish that's all I had to worry about, damn.
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I've been working on my wife the same way for over a year. There was a 67 year old woman who fished an XC race recently and I tried using it to guilt my wife who is MUCH younger into getting off her butt. Frankly if they don't want to do it it's pretty frustrating trying to get them into it. If it gets too tough find a guy who is into it. I'm sure there are lots of choices. (By the way my phone number is.... )
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well i do it for the chicks....haha just kidding....get rid of him and find someone friggen active.....i dont want to offend you but he gets mad at you for mt biking and he was almost a professional dancer....Hmmmmm

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everyone has thier own things they like, i sure dont wanna knit with my grandmother, so i can understand if se didnt wanna go downhill racing with me. Somethings are just no for everyone. Besides opposites attract, i hate to have a day that was so similar to my gf. I like it how her day is nothing like my own, and she shares her unique stories, then its my turn to do the same. Mabe find a friend do do it with, lke a have a friend that i run with from school, yet shes not my gf. Thats just my perspective.
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As for my excuse for riding? I don't need one. If my girlfriend wants to go she comes with; if not that's her deal
Mine too. I ride, if the girlfriend wants to join she is welcome to. If not, then I go.
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You've got power I see, so how bad did it get where you live?
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You've got power I see, so how bad did it get where you live?
Not bad at all. It blew over a small lemon tree in the front yard, but we were going to remove it anyway as part of a landscaping project. All I had to do was drag it over to where the city picks up the brush on our block. I didn't even break a sweat cleaning up the yard and putting our plants back out
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The dating process is the perfect time to weed out those people who are not compatible with you. That is what it is for. Get out of the relationship and find someone with whom you can enjoy these activities. If he is a couch potato now, just wait untill you are married and have a few kids. The two of you will be sitting home every night, eating potato chips, and watching reruns of reality shows while the rest of the world is busy living. MY advice is to RUN.

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Why run when she could ride away?
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It's one thing if he's just lazy, yet still lets you do your thing. It's another if he gripes about it. It's already been established that he's a weenie. Now he's getting possessive. That's not cool. He doesn't have to do everything you do, but he shouldn't be such a baby about it. Do your thing and he'll go away. Tell him to take a hike if he can't let you do your thing. There's tons of single guys out there that bike, like myself. It's rare to find many young, single, females that bike. I don't think you'll have trouble finding riding partners. Good luck.
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Man, you guys make this sound way too easy, I wasn't thinking of dumping him. We have been together for almost four years now, so it is not like we are dating, this mountain bike thing is something I have developed a true passion for lately. Sure, you are right that he is a bit on the lazy side, but if I wanted to leave I would've done it last year, as I found out he had been flirting with this other dude at work. Well, I decided to let it pass, cause he is so cute. There is something in life called feelings, and the way you talk about it- it almost sounds like I oughta make a list of benefits by staying. That's pretty damn cynical.
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You don't seem to be all too happy with our responses but I have to ask, you did mean he was flirting with a woman from work right, not a dude? I'm also sure that the others on the forum wouldn't have immediately said dump him if they knew the length of your relationship.
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RainbowRider,
I am not cynical, I speak from experience. He is not alweays going to be so cute, and the good sex will not last forever either. When that occurs you better have more in common or you will be doomed. I predict that in five more years you will have either moved on or you will be wishing you had taken this advice. Its all about having common interests and passions. One of the things that keeps life interesting for myu wife and I is our love of riding on and off road.

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If your bf is flirting with other guys, here's a clue.... He's either Bi or Gay.
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tell him "the bike comes first" or "i love you, but i love biking more"
???good idea???
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If your bf is flirting with other guys, here's a clue.... He's either Bi or Gay.
umm....just thought i'd point out the thread starter's name and description...RainbowRider, and Pride4Ever......

So i'm pretty sure that HE knows his BF is gay.

Anyway, just thought it was obvious from the get-go.......I guess not.

Back on topic.....may I suggest some easy bike rides together just for starters? That's how I got my Gf into mtnbiking. SOme easy rides on paved bike paths, slowly progressing to dirt, then onto singletrack and beyond......

Good Luck

edit....just in case i'm wrong....sorry rainbow, my bad
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You can have passions that you do individually while still being in a relationship. Not everything has to be shared. In fact, sometimes tis nice to have the time apart. I'm sure you've had other situations where you didn't do all the same things (ie: Did you almost become a pro dancer?)

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umm....just thought i'd point out the thread starter's name and description...RainbowRider, and Pride4Ever......

So i'm pretty sure that HE knows his BF is gay.

Anyway, just thought it was obvious from the get-go.......I guess not.
You've got to forgive Killer. He tends to miss stuff like that.
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woops i must have missed that too.....disregard my dumb response then....sorry for the misunderstanding

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woops i must have missed that too.....disregard my dumb response then....sorry for the misunderstanding

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