I understand what you're saying and can certainly relate.
What I ended up doing was picking up a Jamis Aurora frame. It's made of TIG welded Reynolds 520 (typical 4130). The geometry is what you are looking for. I ended up replacing the front fork with a straight blade fork to make the handling a little more snappier, although the standard geometry of the Aurora is already considered to be pretty aggressive for a touring bike. My only qualm with Jamis is that I found them to have the crappiest customer service. It took weeks for them to get back to me with the simplest of inquiries, and the emails were not helpful whatsoever, and at times, unnecessarily vulgar. As far as the bike itself, it looks to serve its purpose pretty well, however, I wish there was a tad more tire clearance. The maximum tire size I can squeze in is 700x38 with no fenders. I wish I could mount 700x45's. I understand the Surly Crosschecks are capable of this. Also, there are only cable stops (for STI shifters) on the down tube. I wish I had the option of mounting DT shifters as an option. Again, something that is possible on the Surlys.