Originally Posted by txgolfer56
I guess, if she is adamant about not bicycling, there isn't anything I can do. Would love for her to join me on rides. When I suggested we shop for one for her, she flat out said she didn't want a bike.
Many variables, or maybe she simply just doesn't have any interest.
- What type of biking are you trying to "sell" her on? Road biking, mountain biking, bike paths?
- Does she know how to ride a bike?
- Is she severely overweight?
It took me three years
of working on my wife before we got bikes, and the first ones we got were mountain bikes. She was very overweight (still is...) and felt like she would either break a bike or just wouldn't have the strength or endurance to ride. It was a confidence issue.
So, one day we just happened to be in a shopping center with a Performance Bike, and I decided I wanted to go look at bikes. Neither of us knew anything about bikes at the time, but as a kid, I had a GT, so there was no other option for me, I wanted another GT...but man, those GTs were expensive,
or so we thought.
I hadn't been on a bike in over 20 years at the time, so a $400 bike to me was a lot of money. It was sticker-shock. We did some research and decided on a GT Avalanche 1.0 for me and a 3.0 for her. They were on sale, so the prices weren't too bad.
She came across an ad in the local paper for a ride with a club, so we decided to show up with our newly purchased bikes. We met some cool people and decided we'd join the club. We still belong. Rachel and I aren't exactly competitive like the majority of the others in the club, but we like to ride, nonetheless.
We took our first mountain biking trip with a few people who were fairly "seasoned," and it was fun. We were extremely tired by the end, and I liked it a little bit more than she did, but she did have fun...she just didn't like the rocky terrain. Given she was always the "10-speed around the neighborhood" kinda rider, it was understandable.
We went out again with the same people and someone else, and she crashed and wound up being a bloody mess, but she had a good time this time. Soon afterwards, we felt we were "up to par" with riding, and purchased road bikes, but then discovered neither of us felt safe on backroads littered with rednecks who would drive by and "smokescreen" us with their diesel trucks. She has asthma, so this was a bit problematic for her. Not to mention, there were the horn-blowers, the ones who would pass by us within about six inches of our bikes, and the ones who would just throw stuff at any cyclist they saw. We now stick to the paths, as the risks just aren't worth it for us.
Over the past three years, she's become quite fond of mountain biking. While she's not a huge risk-taker and doesn't like climbing logs and such, she does like the fast downhill sweepers, etc. I myself, take a few more risks, but nothing too serious. She still has trouble with the concept and technique of climbing, but she's getting better every year.
Before riding, she was adamant about NOT wanting to ride. It was all my idea, and I pushed her to do it. I basically told her, "Honey, you're seriously bored, and you really need a hobby. You really need some excitement in your life."
...And so she got excitement and loves it.
Sometimes all it takes is that little push. Make it clear you want to ride WITH her, and explain the benefits of riding; the health benefits, the "adventure" aspects, and of course, the opportunity to spend quality time with her. If you're a strong rider, don't "leave her in the dust," just ride with
...Or you could just go get her a bike and say, 'C'mon, we're going for a ride."
I got my dad a bike for his 70th bday, even after he told me, "I don't want a bike!" He saw it and fell in love with it, especially since it was an old-school looking cruiser bike like the one he had as a child.
He was super-excited and he had a grin on his face from ear to ear. He just jumped on that bike and took off, just like a little kid.
My mom was adamant she didn't wanna ride either and claimed she didn't know how to ride a bike. Never mind, she used to ride around with my brother and I on the back of her bike. I got her a bike last season, too. She just hopped on and took right off. She was super-excited. Now, instead of chasing after the grandchildren on foot while they're on bikes, she can ride with them.
So, now my both of my parents have bikes, and they ride whenever the weather is nice. They absolutely love their bikes.