I've been biking for just over a year now (thanks Brian for getting me into it!) and since that time have been trying to cajole my g/f to get a bike and start riding w/ me and our little bike gang. She sends me an IM the other day saying she has a big surprise for me when I get home. When I'm pulling in from work that night, I see her riding up the street, on her brand new Specialized Dolce! I can't tell you how jazzed I was! That night we went out for our first 10 mile ride together. This.Is.Sweet.
Now I'll I've got to remember is to be super patient about teaching her the ins & outs of riding, safety, shifting, etc. I want to make sure that she enjoys it and I don't somehow manage to turn her off now that she's taken the leap!
Anyway, wanted to share my story and excitement with other peeps out there in the community. Also, anyone have advice and/or sites that will help me guide someone who's new to the sport? This is the first time she's had a bike, I don't even think she had one as a kid.
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Many congrats to you! I'm glad that she's taken that first step into a fun, fun world. You guys should check out the CICLE site; it should have a lot of info on nice group rides, safety tactics, and other good information. I think AliceStrong does some volunteer work for them (they did a cool Pasadena Art Ride a while back).
Originally Posted by onthevirg
-Don't be too pushy with your GF right off the bat.
-Seat time is ultimately going to make her a better, more confident rider.
-Set up some form of non-verbal communication BEFORE you start riding so she'll know if you're supposed to slow down, turn, be cautious, ect.
-Have her start out at relatively safe places (bike paths, the Rose Bowl, really quiet streets)
-let her know that her seat area will hurt and that she needs to keep at it.
-most importantly, have fun.
My GF got a bike so we could spend time together doing something that I love. I was just as stoked as you. As a result, she really got into cycling and just loves it now. We go on dates now tailored around bikes.
Here are some things my GF went through shortly after getting her bike. Perhaps they may have relevance to you when your GF starts riding. I noticed my GF would like the saddle low enough to be able to touch the ground with her feet while still on the saddle. Also, she would get scared going any faster than 18mph on the decents; she'd typically ride the brakes. Shifting was an issue where I'd have to just tell her to "ease up" on the pedalling during the transition. Also, she'd complain that her hands and elbows hurt (leading me to believe that she was not holding herself up with her core). These are all things that I addressed via suggestions in a very positive manner. I wasn't overbearing, and only made the suggestions when she asked how to alleviate certain issues. You may come across something like this with your GF.
+1 I don't know how long you are together, but make sure you have a good understanding of how she responds to advice and criticism. I still forget sometimes I can't tell my wife to do anything
Originally Posted by buck65
When she was just getting started it was difficult because I would tell her to go into a certain gear and she would get upset at me. What I found worked the best was rather than telling her to shift down, I would say something like, "if you find yourself having to put a lot of force on the pedals, you may want to shift down. Does it feel that way now?"
A wise old lady once told me that when daughters hear their fathers, its always some type of criticism, as if the daughter can never do anything right. The father's naturally see it different, as if they are trying to teach their daughter something.
I guess it carries to adulthood.
Yesterday my girlfriend went on her first ride in a long time and did the same thing, but I couldn't figure out why she was in such pain. Thanks for saying that, I can bring that up to her next time we go on a ride.
Originally Posted by buck65