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    OT: Gina's Father is Gone. :-(

    Another sad battle with cancer. Tony ( father) had been in the hospital since November, before Thanksgiving. She visited him as much as possible during that time and was worried that he might pass when she was not present. So last couple of weeks she was there plenty. The day came when doctors said there is not much more to be done other than discontinue any treatment then let him go. It was all suffering and pain. Gina was there day and night. She slept an hour or two the last few days while being at his side. She was one of 3 people that were there when he took his last breath. Not that she was happy to lose her father but honored and privileged to say she was with him when he passed.

    Never a good thing when one dies but we did get a chance to visit family from New Mexico, Missouri, and Oklahoma. Uncles and Aunts from NM that she hadn't seen since she was 7 years old. Wow, Gina is a sweet person and meeting her family was a great pleasure. I see where she gets her pleasant personality.

    Hours of visits, little sleep, long hospital hours, he finally passed. Watching him decline quickly over the last few months, I must say he has to be in a better place now. Sad time sitting in the chapel with her father the night of the viewing. From the very first minute till being asked to leave. Back the very next morning at opening time hours before the others arrived, she got to spend every last possible minute with him.

    Yesterday at graveside she was way to broken up to say anything when asked to share words. She's never been a public speaker and neither have I but I knew it would mean the world to her if I could say the things I'm sure she wished she could have said. Wow, knowing the things she has told me about her feelings, it is hard to keep from getting choked up while speaking. But it was an honor speaking on her part at such a moment.

    It's something special when during one of your final conversations your wife's father says , "I'm glad you guys don't smoke and drink, it's good you've kept her healthy and keep riding those bikes!".

    Gina thought for day what kind of a token she could place in his coffin as a memorial gesture. She ended up placing one of her century cycling medals.

    Rest in peace Mr. Segovia


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    Sorry to hear that Beanz. Cancer is an aweful diease. It is by far the number one killer of all my freinds and family that have passed.

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    Losing loved ones is never easy, and watching them go from something as horrible as cancer is even worse. Sounds like she was there for him, as you were there for Gina - and I'm sure that meant a lot to him. Condolences to you both - now go out and ride in his honor. He would have wanted that. . .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lesper4 View Post
    Sorry to hear that Beanz. Cancer is an aweful diease. It is by far the number one killer of all my freinds and family that have passed.


    Yeah, cancer sucks! I have tow close cousins battling cancer right now but doing well. Our family has been involved in cancer fund raisers for a couple of years now. We've raised thousands and thousands of dollars as donations to fight cancer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by El Gigante View Post
    Losing loved ones is never easy, and watching them go from something as horrible as cancer is even worse. Sounds like she was there for him, as you were there for Gina - and I'm sure that meant a lot to him. Condolences to you both - now go out and ride in his honor. He would have wanted that. . .

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    My condolences to you both, losing a parent is difficult...
    May you live long, live strong, and live happy!

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicestrong View Post
    My condolences to you both, losing a parent is difficult...
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    Hi Beanz, My condolences to Gina, yourself and the rest of her family.

    Cancer sucks big time. I lost my mother to that awful disease, and the real scary part is the damage it does to the psyche before the person finally passes.

    All we can do is live every day to the fullest, be grateful for our good health and take nothing for granted, i.e. no guarantees.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jed19 View Post
    Hi Beanz, My condolences to Gina, yourself and the rest of her family.

    Cancer sucks big time. I lost my mother to that awful disease, and the real scary part is the damage it does to the psyche before the person finally passes.

    All we can do is live every day to the fullest, be grateful for our good health and take nothing for granted, i.e. no guarantees.
    We did learn about the psyche part, thanks J!

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    My wife lost her father to lung cancer a while back (darn smoking!), so I know how it can devastate somebody. Hope Gina is doing well. See you guys out there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jmX View Post
    My wife lost her father to lung cancer a while back (darn smoking!), so I know how it can devastate somebody. Hope Gina is doing well. See you guys out there.


    Thnaks. Sorry to hear that, yes devastating. Gina is doing well now.

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    My condolences, Beanz.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GP View Post
    My condolences, Beanz.
    Thanks!

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    Sorry to hear. I lost my father last year and it's never easy even though he was also ill (Alzheimer's). Just focus in on all the good memories.
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    Condolences to your family from mine. My wife did the same with her mom a couple years back. It was one of the saddest days of my life. Prayers go out to you and your wife.

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    Sorry to hear of your familys loss, he looks like he was a good man. He will live on in the memories of those who loved him. Ride safe.

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    So sad to here news like this we send our condolences to Gina, you and the entire famliy.
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    Thanks guys!

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    Very sorry for your loss....my condolences to Gina, you and the entire family!!
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    Hey Beanz, first and foremost, as others have said...my sincerest condolences. It speaks volumes about Gina's character that she would spend that kind of time and be that committed to being there for his comfort as diligently as she was. I would speculate that she and her dad were very close and she has amazing memories of him. I hope she can focus on those while allowing the last days memories to remain, but take a back seat to the fun ones that helped form her into who she is.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Beanz View Post
    Our family has been involved in cancer fund raisers for a couple of years now. We've raised thousands and thousands of dollars as donations to fight cancer.
    As far as your fundraising.....THANK YOU. As you know, I've been in my own battle with cancer and I benefited from your efforts.

    I am literally in tears here reading your story. Part of that is the chemo that's still in my system (decreases emotional resistance), part is the fact that I am a dad and when I was diagnosed, my biggest fear was not the pain and suffering of cancer. It was not what would happen to me after I die. I have a faith that gives me great hope. My biggest fear was what it would do to my family. I can not imagine leaving my daughters at 15 and 13. I'm sure he felt the same way, even though Gina is only "29".

    I'm glad you were there as Gina's rock. You are right....it meant the world to her!
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    So sorry to hear of your and Ginas loss. Cancer can be a devastating experience to go through. Much thanks has to go out to you for your fundraising efforts. My wife is a survivor now for over 15 years and we had little children when she was diagnosed. She and I have also participated in many fundraising effort from bike rides to the Susan B Koman walks. Cancer seems to effect everyone and I'm very proud of my wife for winning her battles, it was harder on her then I could ever imagine. For all you survivors and people battling it right now my helmet is off to you.
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    Hey Beanz, Gina, very sorry for your loss, my sincere condolence to you both & Gin's family.
    Hope Gina is doing well.

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    This is a tough one, she will heal with time and keep the great memories forever.

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    Condolences to your families, Beanz. It's never easy losing a loved one.

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    Thanks guys! Lots of meaningful words here, appreciate them all. Glad she's doing ok TJ, Thanks Joe, means alot. BTW, Gina is 28.

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