Worlds colliding - George isn't happy
My wife and I have always had communication issues, I don't have patience and she'd rather tell you how the watch is built as opposed to the time. Unfortuantely my motto ha always been, "don't tell me about the pregnancy, just show me the baby". Its a genetic thing, I'm 100% German, no patience and highly efficient.
I'd thought tandeming would help and we do ok as a team, but now I am having to share my ONLY set of close "buds". I've been riding with the same core group since I've started riding, going on 7 years now. My wife has just started riding her single bike I bought for her 6 years ago and is joining are group recovery rides, read as a slower pace. I value this time alone, sans wife & kids. I don't play golf, poker or go to the bar for de-stressing.
For me, the tandem is not as fun, the bike is not as comfortable and it seems I'm doing all the work and she is always there. I know, I know that's whats so great about tandeming the closeness, team work etc, etc.
I'm I being too selfish or not looking at the whole thing quite right? Any similar experiences? Any and all input would be greatly appreciated.