I read about some of the tandem teams here and I feel like I wish I had the time to put into training to go faster, the time to be able to ride further, but if I can't have those, I only hope to at least enjoy the company.
I bought the tandem with hopes of having my wife be my stoker, and we'd tow our son on his trail-a-bike. It did not happen that way, due to some concerns my wife has that no amount of encouragement on my part will resolve.
So these revelations on the part of my would-not-be stoker, left me with a stoker candidate who I'm more than willing to enlist. My son. He'll be six in February. The bike is now set up to fit him, and he and I ride togther as often as we can. We don't go that fast. It's a tandem that is not very light, but really comfortable. No butt pain, no neck and wrist pain. Ever. The weight means we're not going all that fast, and I just put Schwalbe Big Apples on it so now were going even a little less fast, but we're comfy and stable doing it. So, if we pack enough juice and snacks, we can go as far as his boredom threshold will allow. I told my wife I want to take our son out on a group ride and go with the C class people. They average about 14-15 maybe? 40-50 miles, tops. I was thinking that with other riders engaging us, providing some inspiration to keep going, that he might be into it. Maybe when he's a little older. Or if I can find a way to hang a DVD player on my back. She reminds me that my enthusiam for things is not always letting me see the level of enthusiasm of those I seek to involve... what if my boy's just not that into it either.
I read the stories here about the epic rides, long day rides, couples hammering roadies... building bikes lighter and faster, updates, upgrades, new bikes altogether, and I wish that I had that with my wife, but she said someday when she's retired and our son is grown, and we have more time on our hands she'll consider it. Until then she will indulge my need to ride as a family by riding her own bike with us over to the park or on the bike path. Alrighty then. My son and I will be enjoying our time together and that's really a great thing. Together we're Team Blue Whale, and we may not be fast, or go very far, but we're enjoying each other's company.
Sorry your spouse did not take to riding a a duo.
Having said that, came home with a new shiny tandem for our 20th wedding anniversary back in 1975. My wife's words: "what are you trying to do, kill me?"
However she tried . . . got hooked . . . and 200,000+ miles later as a tandem duo we're still pedaling TWOgether!
'Wait 'til I retire' has never been our mantra. If we can afford to do it, we do it now . . . never know what tomorrow will, or will not, bring.
In the meantime, enjoy your kid's company, they grow up f-a-s-t!
Pedal in TWOgether!
Rudy and Kay/zonatandem
One day when life is less hectic, maybe we'll ride more as a family. For now, I am enjoying my time with my son. I'd been his stay-at-home dad since he was an infant, and now he's in Kindergarten. It does go fast, really fast. I want to keep him as my stoker as long as he's into it. I know one day I'll blink and he'll be telling me "dad, can't I just take the car instead of riding with you? I want to go pick up my girlfriend".
This February will be our 20th anniversary. It's not always been a smooth road, but the one that got us here, right where we were supposed to be.