I need advise on how to get over being scared. We are new to the tandem world and yes this was only my third ride but today I was scaring myself several times in situations that seems like they should have been a no brainer. I'm the Stocker and my husband is doing really good as Captain. On down hills, I'm terrible, I really make him slow down. He is getting a little frustrated with me, can't blame him, but he has always known that I'm not great on downhill speed. Even little whoopdedoos scared me a couple of times. I've ridden this ride on my single dozens of times but this was the first time on the tandem. Do I just need to give myself more time. I don't want to give it up but I don't want my husband hating me either. Help!!!