A bit of scuffing in the region of the perineum, eh? Let it heal completely, then try a Brooks B17 from Wallbike. You can return it if it doesn't suit you. Leather tends not to abrade if you keep it nice and slick. Do wear some proper bike shorts.
The issue of wrist pain is indicative of improper overall bike fit. You're not giving much info here, so I am supposing that: It's likely that you have your bars too low and possibly your saddle tilted either dead level or down in front. This would cause you to perform an isometric push-up against the bars all day long. Thus, you are forcing the perineum against the peak of the saddle, instead of having your sitbones positioned on the seat portion.
For touring, which is way different than recreational shorter rides, posture is everything. You are essentially living on the bike day after day. If the fit is off, you'll know it by the third day, due to bruising and abrading.