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Old 11-09-04, 03:10 PM   #1
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Fat People Making Comments

Do any of you all experience this same thing? I get great comments from skinny, average, and toned people on how good of shape that I have gotten myself in. When it comes to fat people, I usually get derogatory remarks from them. This happens to me a lot at work.

For instance, I was eating peanuts for a protein snack. This girl, that probably weighs 350, comes into the kitchen and sees me eating them. She immediately says "I can't believe I see you eating nuts. They are loaded with fat and you are going to put on weight in no time!" She, and a few other obese people at work, will make these types of comments. They are always watching everything I eat.

The other day, I ate a hamburger for lunch...my cheat for the week. This fat guy comes into the kitchen and tells me that I am eating so unhealthy. I thought to myself, WTF. Look at yourself!
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I haven't gotten that necessarily from fat people but i have gotten a lot of discouraging remarks from people in the last 2 years i have been thin. (dieting and exercising) It really pizzes me off. At my grandma's funeral i saw a lot of people i haven't seen in years. Several of them had the nerve to tell me i needed to eat more and one even told me i needed to "lift weights."

It was a blizzard outside and everyone was wearing coats and covering clothing. How the heck did they know what my body even looked like? They just knew i didn't look like any of them. THankfully summer came around and some of those same people got to wear swimwear around me. Guess What.....nobody had much to say on that day.

I have learned to not talk about my bike riding and low fat lifestyle. People act supportive with their comments but usually throw a negative comment or to in to make sure you don't think they are envious.

Some comments i have heard....

"I wish that was all i had to do..." (too busy watching TV)

"I wish my shedule would allow me to exercise that much." (it would if you would cut out the couch time and get out of bed before the sun like i do.)

"You're going to blow away." (nah, i'm not worried, there will always be some fat ass like you to grab on to.")

"You're crazy." (yeah i know. Following a Doctor's advice by eating right and exercising is crazy. As opposed to sitting on the couch and eating donuts all day!")

"I'm gonna live my life while i'm alive. Give me another cheeseburger." (Eating cheeseburgers is 'living life?"


"I hope nobody runs over you on that bike." (And i hope an 18 wheeler doesn't T-bone you in your car on the way to work in the morning.")

and on and on....




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Old 11-09-04, 03:36 PM   #4
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Perhaps they'd like to not see you become them. I'd take it as a "don't become me" type comment rather than some type of attack. That'd just be me though.
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I notice that a bit. Normally I find it's the more overweight people who are the most vocal about giving 'advice' when it comes to diet. Considering the source, it's usually pretty hard to take them seriously... really worked well for them, huh?

I just had an 'encounter' earlier today. Eating some vegetable soup that I made on Sunday. Lardo assumes it came from a can and proceeds to tell me off for eating something so high in sodium. I let them go on for a while about how bad it was for me before filling them in. Priceless.

I often get those sort of comments about peanuts and the pasta I often have for lunch. Considering I'm riding 30 miles per day minimum, I think I'll be ok.
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"You're going to blow away." (nah, i'm not worried, there will always be some fat ass like you to grab on to.")
LOL.

I've lost between 30 and 35 lbs since the new year and my mom says I look sickly. I think she's just used to me being overweight.
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It's either a sour-grapes comment or they really want to see you succeed in your weight loss and think that the motivational method they probably use for themselves is a meaness is what will help you continue without temporary relapses. Hope that makes sense.
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People who don't get regular exercise just don't get it. That is the bottom line.
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My parents regularly berated me about being too fat. When I finally started getting into cycling, back in 1997, the weight just melted off me. But then when I finally did get the weight off, then they started complaining about me being too thin, and they kept talking about how unhealthy I was becoming (I was at 23% bodyfat, which is nowhere near skinny, and pretty muscular from weightlifting A LOT). I actually think they just really like seeing me as disadvantaged and imperfect, so they spend all their time looking for what's wrong instead of accepting me for what I am. Oh well.

The only other thing I get is that people are always warning me about the dangers of riding a bike- fat folks and skinny folks. But fat folks are always the first ones to jump up and say they couldn't ever do something like that- I must be crazy or something! I get really sick of people acting like me doing something healthy and environmentally responsible like cycling is abnormal.

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Try being large yourself, working on your own diet and exercise routine. (I'm currently 230, down from nearly 290.) The comments get even meaner - the underlying message is "oh, you think you're so great, getting thinner. *****." Then there's the attempted forcefeeding, the monitoring of every bite, etc etc.

Some people's only hobby is other people. Sad, that.
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Do any of you all experience this same thing? I get great comments from skinny, average, and toned people on how good of shape that I have gotten myself in. When it comes to fat people, I usually get derogatory remarks from them. This happens to me a lot at work.
there are many nasty and unhappy people out in the world. many, but not all of them, are overweight and don't even like themselves to begin with. i almost expect them to make a comment.
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Old 11-09-04, 04:56 PM   #12
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Don't buy into it. We know something that they don't: there's no food in the world that tastes better than how you feel when you're fit.
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Definitely sour grapes. They want to lose it too, trust me. They don't want to see any success stories....they're safer believing that being fat isn't their fault and there is nothing they can do to change it. You prove them wrong, and they don't like it. Jealousy at its finest (or worst).
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If you are in good shape or are visibly losing weight, take comments about your methods as either complements or expressions of envy. Most people in the US are overweight to obese and are constantly looking for the magic bullet to regain the youthful figure they never had.

If someone comments on the food you eat, simply thank them and state that you ride your bike xx miles per day so you can have an occaisional snack.

If people comment about not having time to exercise, generally just leave it go. No reply is usually neccessary. If pressed to reveal how I can find the time to ride so much, I usually tell people that the President of the United States is far busier then me yet finds the time to exercise daily.

When asked how I lost a bunch of weight, I usually say, "It's easy. It just takes hard work."
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"It's easy. It just takes hard work."
i like that.
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what cracks me up is I'm 400lbs and i see these people looking at me like "what in the heck are you doing" like it's not obvious as to what I'm doing, I'm trying to remove some of my huge ass! That's the only thing....and when I get yelled at "get off the road you fat mother f'er" somehow turns into "ge.....er" as they fly by me at 50mph. I just shake my head and continue on
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I'm sort of infamous amongst my friends for being able to "consume mass quantities". They stare at me in disbelief when I'm downing my 8th. bratwurst. Then when I talk to them about my cycling they stand there incredulous all the while saying stuff like, "I could never do that... isn't it hard?" For some reason, they never seem to connect my cycling with my ability to eat large amounts of food without gaining a lot of weight.
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what cracks me up is I'm 400lbs and i see these people looking at me like "what in the heck are you doing" like it's not obvious as to what I'm doing, I'm trying to remove some of my huge ass! That's the only thing....and when I get yelled at "get off the road you fat mother f'er" somehow turns into "ge.....er" as they fly by me at 50mph. I just shake my head and continue on
Think of the millions of overweight folks who do nothing about their weight or care how their friends and family are affected by their lack of concern for it.

You go, PWRDbyTRD!

My parents sometimes would make comments about me being too thin and unhealthy. But they grew up during the depression and often had little to eat and knew all too well about malnourishment. It was honest concern, just misguided.
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Funny... I get some of this at home from the wife but none from my co-workers. In fact, after going from 235 -> 180 we merged with another office with people who hadn't seen me in a year. I got some pretty positive comments and nothing negative.

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Damn straight... at home I'll hear comments about how can you eat soup when there's a meat pie here. Well, that meat pie will take about 45 minutes to burn off tomorrow that's how!
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Then there's the attempted forcefeeding, the monitoring of every bite, etc etc.

Some people's only hobby is other people. Sad, that.

Gosh - I had to look to make sure we didn't work together! The people I work with are always trying to put me down, and tell me all the time that they think I'm nuts. Sabotaging my diet, and belittling my active lifestyle. I used to let it get to me, until one woman, who I am very good friends with and has been struggling with her weight for as long as I've known her, said something that changed my feelings. She had asked what I had done one weekend, and it the first time I had done two 50 mile days. Ever so softly, she whispered that I was her heroine. So, look underneath other's comments. You might be surprised at what you see.
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"You're going to blow away." (nah, i'm not worried, there will always be some fat ass like you to grab on to.")


LMFAO !!
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I'm skinny, but i get comments too. For example, I love salads! BUt I've had people say, "well you sure look like you eat lots of salads!" Of course, I also have a terrible sweet tooth and love chocolate and cake, I just have a good metabolism. Or "Gee, but you can eat anything you want?" ANd I do! BUt just because I'm thin and in good shape doesn't mean I want to eat junk food and horrible crap! Although I actually LOVE hamburgers; but I rarely, if ever eat fast food burgers. Usually the onesI make at home or on the bbq in the summer.

Also, during the last year or so I lost quite a bit of weight due to illness.I'm normally slim but this past year I got particularly thin. People have noticed it and commented on it, but no one has said anything negative. However, I wonder if people who don't know about my illness think, "yeah, probably she has an eating disorder." Which I most certainly do not! And what about the gym? When we see fat people working out, I am sure others think, "look at that fat lardo,WHAT is he/she doing here?" What,only skinny people are supposed to exercise? And if skinny people exercise, people think, "Oh sure, she's probably starving herself". Ya can't win!
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My parents regularly berated me about being too fat. When I finally started getting into cycling, back in 1997, the weight just melted off me. But then when I finally did get the weight off, then they started complaining about me being too thin, and they kept talking about how unhealthy I was becoming (I was at 23% bodyfat, which is nowhere near skinny, and pretty muscular from weightlifting A LOT). I actually think they just really like seeing me as disadvantaged and imperfect, so they spend all their time looking for what's wrong instead of accepting me for what I am. Oh well.

The only other thing I get is that people are always warning me about the dangers of riding a bike- fat folks and skinny folks. But fat folks are always the first ones to jump up and say they couldn't ever do something like that- I must be crazy or something! I get really sick of people acting like me doing something healthy and environmentally responsible like cycling is abnormal.

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Sounds like some of my relatives. Maybe you and I come from similar cultures, Koffee. The way to "nuture" people is not to encourage them or to say good things to them, it is to feed them and the more the better! Unfortunately, some of my relatives are very, very good at making really yummy things. They tend to make enough to feed a small starving army. And, of course, their feelings get hurt if you don't take seconds or maybe even thirds of everything. Ah, social gatherings with relatives! They are interesting and they do mean well.

I too have gotten that too thin response from some. I think that they are just used to plump people and someone who is near their correct weight is obviously way too thin and quite possibly has some sort of debilitating illness. The obvious cure is feed them right away!
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I know exactly what you guys mean. I can relate 100%. My dad's always trying to "force feed" me stuff I DONT WANT. He sits around and downs TONS of food while watching football. The minute he's home from work, it's football.. all evening. When I get home from work, I run upstairs, change, and go straight to the gym. The minute I get back from the gym all's I hear is "Dont you want some of this food?" all the fricken time.

At my last place of employment there were several fat ladies that'd take their lunch at the same time I did. I'd sit over at a tabel by myself, and down a TON of food. (I have a really high metabolism). They'd ALWAYS comment.. and say something like "You're gunna get heavy if you continue eating like that..." I'd look right over at em and say "Not when I lift weights 2 hours a day, mountain bike on the weekends, and do other activities besides watching TV". That shut em' up real quick.


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Try being large yourself, working on your own diet and exercise routine. (I'm currently 230, down from nearly 290.) The comments get even meaner - the underlying message is "oh, you think you're so great, getting thinner. *****." Then there's the attempted forcefeeding, the monitoring of every bite, etc etc.

Some people's only hobby is other people. Sad, that.
You're so right about that! A lot of people know that I lost 73 pounds and have kept it off for 3 years. I have the same senarios that you listed above! I have also gotten comments such as you're going to put it all back on.
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