Only one way to know for sure....
Seriously, that's the truth. From what you describe, there are definitely some issues to be resolve, not the least of which is who captains. From what you describe, you'd be bit of a back-seat driver and that's never good. Would your husband be willing to stoke? I actually think it's pretty cool when we happen upon a non-conventional tandem team where the gal's driving... in fact, we had just such a couple on our ride this past Sunday. They were awesome and we all had a grand time.
So, if you can find a tandem that you can borrow (thankfully, if you're the same size you can try it both ways), you'll know in about two days if there's a tandem in your future. However, you definitely want to give it a try on two separate days, both ways on each day. The first day is all about learning and getting some level of experience and comfort on the bike. The second day will actuallly let you figure out what's working and what's not.
Last edited by TandemGeek; 03-18-10 at 01:04 PM.