Ya'll can laugh at me if you want. I have maybe a strange question.

When positioning yourself on your saddle, how do you actually sit? Do you let your "package" hang to the right, left or do you prop it right up on top the seat in the middle. If I go left or right then one side of my butt gets fatigued with it. I don't think I am larger in that area than average. Am I missing something? Nobody has ever been willing to discuss this with me. Meanwhile, my junk suffers. I am a bit of a novice to riding distance, am overweight but don't want to let that stop me from enjoying my rides.