Why would his deductable play a part in this? I think that only pertains to his damages and if he had to fix his car, not your damages (not positive as I've never had a claim but that is my understanding). His rates will go up though but if he was worried about that, he'd return your calls. I'd also talk to a lawyer, many offer a free consultation and may pick up your case on a percentage basis if they feel it is sufficient (this I have been through before).
Sorry to hear about your accident!
Steve