You've got a tough situation but I'll echo PhotoJoe, moderation and portion size. Try this for behavior modification: allow yourself some endulgences, but measure the portions and write everything down. Try to avoid the "taste of this and finger lick of that" and make your scoop of ice cream a planned snack. It's amazing how many calories you can consume without thinking about it. One author talked about nutrition clients who were asked to keep a food diary. Some were very vigilant, measuring and recording every meal, but that was the rub. When he went to some of the client's homes to observe them preparing the meals, he found that some of them (usually the ones who were having problems with weight control event when "on" the plan) were consuming 100 calories or more, per meal, with tastes, finger or spoon licks, or finishing off the last bit from the container, that didn't make it into the food diary. Their perfectly prepared 500 calorie meal was actually a 600 or 650 calorie meal. Just eliminating the forgotten calories and having a written record will help alter your habits without depriving you of your enjoyment of food.