Originally Posted by
Chris516
I stupidly tell them, thinking that one day they will just trust me to know what I am doing.
Why would you think that your proficiency with colorful language would convince anybody that you know what you're doing, or that riding is safe.
Not pointing to you directly, I often wonder if cyclist attitudes reflect that of the motorists, or if it might be the other way around. I do know that some cyclists seem to have more problems with motorists than others.
OTOH- there's no percentage in discussing problems with family if they already think cycling is dangerous. My nephew bicycle commutes year round about 20 miles RT in Philadelphia. His wife is (much) less than thrilled, but accepts it. He and I make it a point never to discuss close calls, or incidents in her presence. We keep any bicycle related conversations upbeat and positive. We talk about feeling better or staying in shape, and how riding, even in terrible weather makes us stronger.
If family worries, there's no point in making them worry more, so don't talk about crazy drivers.