Surrounding yourself with positive people who either help you or that you can turn to or that have been on this journey is key. The people in your life who are always negative are the people who will bring you down. This was something that was hard for me to accept as well and I ended my marriage because of it. It was hard at first but I am glad we no longer are together. Now, my girlfriend also is on this journey and we help each other versus enable each other.
Surrounding yourself with the right tools are key. If you are doing something, and over time, it is not working, change up those tools. This is what I currently use:
Weight watchers: it's a tool which I love. I track all my food and attend the weekly meetings both for the top line education and also the community. Again, just a tool. I do not buy any of their food products. I love cooking.
Half Size Me: a wonderful podcast serious that is so inspirational and motivational. Check it out and if you need more info, let me know.
Quit Binge Eating: another podcast that is wonderful.
Food psychologist: I work with a lady named Rhona Epstein. She is author of a book called Food Triggers and it has changed my life in eating. She works in PA and her book is here
Food Triggers: End Your Cravings, Eat Well and Live Better: Rhona Epstein: 9781617951589: Amazon.com: Books
kettlebell training: greatest workout that is cardio and full body weight lifting. So much fun and much much much better than spot weight lifting training.
Personal trainer and HIIT: a personal trainer just keeps you on track with exercising. I meet with her once a week or once every two weeks. She send me the workout afterwards and I continue to do that once or twice a week. I like HIIT because it keeps your heart rate up.
Dietician: the lady I work with is out of California and we skype. She is wonderful to work with and so cheap as well. Her education, motivation and butt kicking is great. She has been a tool that has been so important to me.
So the walk away is surround yourself with positive people. Weed out the negative people in your life if you can or at least minimize communication with them. Surround yourself with tools that you can use. That's key.