One of the things that helped me dictate my own races was to stop focusing on one wheel in particular, as matt said above. If you're working with a teammate, have a plan, and are on their wheel, then focus on that. Otherwise, I feel my results improved dramatically when I raced my own race. I would use good wheels as they became available to move up in the pack, get through a corner, or even to get led out. However, once I stopped focusing on trying to stick on a wheel for an extended duration, things got better and I felt more in control.