Our kids live on the west coast (CA), east coast (NC) and Russia. Some families are very location centric, others not. Our kids were thrilled when we moved to New Mexico because it's way more fun to visit than New Jersey.
We care very much what our children think, as do they regarding us. I'd hate to think we'd raised children that didn't have our best interests in mind. Sounds like RVwriter's kids are doing their job.