A: absolutely agree
B: I think they look good if the stem is long enough and has an angle between -17 and 0 degrees. A short slammed stem or one that has a positive rise just looks weird.
C: I've gotten more flexible since I bought my CAAD to where a slammed 120 mm -6* stem works great with my handlebars. Other bikes have spacers under the stem because I'd rather have a good fit than a good look, but if I can have both
D: most of us are fashion victims one way or another