Ran into this exact problem when building SA 90mm XL-FD wheel on ISO 584 rim.
Originally laced cross-3; spoke angle was too acute resulting in bend at spoke-nipple
junction. Re-laced cross-2, no problems over the past three years and thousands of
miles. Worked out so well that I did the same on a ISO 559 winter beater and an ISO 584
tandem front wheel. All have held up well at cross-2.