Originally Posted by
Chrisp72
This should be no surprise to many here in the forum but Sophie has asked for things to slow down a bit. I had been moving forward steadily and thought things were good with this pace. I have found out they are not so I'm cooling my jets a bit. I had stated in other threads if not this one that I would respect her wishes and this is that. I'm still making plans but not as rapidly as I had been.
I bolded, italicized, and underlined that last part for a reason. She said to slow down. Do you want to get to know this girl? Listen to her. If you can't respect her wishes, this relationship is dead in the water. In my opinion the complexity of your planning should be no more complicated or overbearing than something like deciding what ice cream shop to swing by before hanging out at a park under a tree on a sunny day. Or pupusas. They make for a fantastic picnic. Keep it casual. Don't push her. Most of all,
LISTEN.
Not to the point of being cowed, yknow. Have your own voice in the relationship. But respect hers.