You're the same team weight as us. We like 32mm Conti 5000 tires at 95 lbs. for sport riding. We've only toured on 28mm tires at 115 lbs., a model which isn't made anymore, but which had bead-to-bead reinforcement. We toured fully loaded for camping with only 44 lbs. added to bare bike weight. I'd go with the bead-to-bead again on whatever tires. We have run into some substandard gravel roads and cobblestones, which was sort of OK, but not our choice. We like to tour on pavement.
I build all our wheels for singles and our tandem. I know not everyone wants to do that, but it does save money and lets me build with any components I choose.
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