I have never been more than a relaxed type. However, Saturday is my usual day for my "pleasure" ride -- usually the day I ride my roadie instead of the commuter or mountain bike -- and somehow the family puts a pinch on the time I have to ride. Then it turns into a ride where I ride for distance and have a speed goal. I hate that. I would rather take my time, stop and enjoy the quiet or even to listen to the feel and sound of my heart beating, watch people, etc....
I can't wait until the day when my kids are old enough to really enjoy a ride with me.