Originally Posted by
wristwister
Not so much jeaolousy, more an insecurity issue on her part. She imagines that you're now more attractive to other women (which is probably true) and she's concerned that some slender 20 year old bimbette will put the moves on you (probably not true but you can dream). Two ways to handle this:
1. Let her bask in her own insecurities, hoping this will give her incentive to lose weight, take better care of herself, and keep herself more attractive for you.
2. Find some way to assure her you love her just the way she is, her weight and health are not of concern to you, and that as far as you're concerned no other women exist for you in this world (no matter how friggen HOT they are!).
Option 1 probably won't work, rarely does. Her insecurities will most likely cause her to hate herself even more, reducing further her desire to take better care of herself.
Option 2 is totally unrealistic, unless you're an incredible actor and can convince her that such BS is actually true.
So ... yup, your screwed. Good luck!
This is probably correct, minus the wry humor. You don't change behavior by nagging. Change her behavior by being totally supportive of her as she is, while insisting on your own efforts to better your health. Even the little things. Like taking down that avatar of yours; she might never have or ever will see it, but it slightly affects your frame of mind and she will sense this. She'll eventually come around to your position, because it's the healthier one and the one she knows, in the back of her mind, is the correct choice.
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Last edited by Brian Ratliff; 07-31-09 at 11:31 AM.