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And we'll miss you, too.
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ClosetBiker,
it's been said before, better than I can express, but this can be beaten.
We (BF) will be here when you pop in and when you return.
You and your wife are in my thoughts, hope everything goes well.
Marty
it's been said before, better than I can express, but this can be beaten.
We (BF) will be here when you pop in and when you return.
You and your wife are in my thoughts, hope everything goes well.
Marty
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#29
Genetics have failed me
Good luck and best wishes to you and your wife for a healthy recovery of that terrible disease.
Dealing with cancer is not an easy task.
Thomas
Dealing with cancer is not an easy task.
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Maybe pick someone here to stay in contact with that can keep us up-to-date on her positive progress!
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While obviously nothing in comparison to you situation, I had the scare several years ago when a lump was detected in my wifes.
You have my deepest condolences and I wish nothing but the best for your wife.
You have my deepest condolences and I wish nothing but the best for your wife.
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This is Africa, 1943. War spits out its violence overhead and the sandy graveyard swallows it up. Her name is King Nine, B-25, medium bomber, Twelfth Air Force. On a hot, still morning she took off from Tunisia to bomb the southern tip of Italy. An errant piece of flak tore a hole in a wing tank and, like a wounded bird, this is where she landed, not to return on this day, or any other day.
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Thanks everybody for all the kind words. They mean the world.
I think one of the most important things I learned from my father leaving when I was 7, was the importance of being there for your family, in good times and bad.
It's always been my priority to spend time with my family and in times like this, I don't think there's anything more important than giving her all the attention she deserves.
It'll be a bit different for me. My mom died of cancer 24 years ago when she was in her 40's and when my daughter was born 22 years ago, we didn't think she was going to make it. She was born with kidney disease and had the further misfortune of suffering a number of other problems with her heart, liver and spleen, so we spent a good part of her early years in the hospital. She even had the bad luck to catch whooping cough for her first Christmas so I spent all Christmas time in intensive care holding and trying help sooth her when she had an attack to help it pass so she could catch her breath. Shes had a transplant and has been relatively stable for a number of years, but a transplant is a treatment, not a cure, and it could fail at any time. Further, the side effects of anti-rejection are scary. It lowers the body's ability to fight foreign tissue, keeping the doner's organ working but leaving the body easily susceptable to infections and all sorts of other nasty things. The anti-rejection drug is also a carcinogen. Everything's a balance, if she didn't have this treatment, her life could have been drastically worse.
Just last year a good friend of mine died after a 2 year bout with cancer and I was with him as much as I could be. He was 38.
I was just shy of my 18th birthday when my wife and I met, and 3 months later we were living together. 29 years have passed so fast it seems like a blink. We're were looking forward to this new stage in our lives as both our kids are now adults.
I think this is going to be different than my other experiences and very hard, but reading all your good thoughts and wishes helps.
I'm looking forward to being able to come back and post about cycling. Cycling is something I love, and I like talking/posting about it too, particularily in advocacy, but I love my wife more, and she needs the time.
I think one of the most important things I learned from my father leaving when I was 7, was the importance of being there for your family, in good times and bad.
It's always been my priority to spend time with my family and in times like this, I don't think there's anything more important than giving her all the attention she deserves.
It'll be a bit different for me. My mom died of cancer 24 years ago when she was in her 40's and when my daughter was born 22 years ago, we didn't think she was going to make it. She was born with kidney disease and had the further misfortune of suffering a number of other problems with her heart, liver and spleen, so we spent a good part of her early years in the hospital. She even had the bad luck to catch whooping cough for her first Christmas so I spent all Christmas time in intensive care holding and trying help sooth her when she had an attack to help it pass so she could catch her breath. Shes had a transplant and has been relatively stable for a number of years, but a transplant is a treatment, not a cure, and it could fail at any time. Further, the side effects of anti-rejection are scary. It lowers the body's ability to fight foreign tissue, keeping the doner's organ working but leaving the body easily susceptable to infections and all sorts of other nasty things. The anti-rejection drug is also a carcinogen. Everything's a balance, if she didn't have this treatment, her life could have been drastically worse.
Just last year a good friend of mine died after a 2 year bout with cancer and I was with him as much as I could be. He was 38.
I was just shy of my 18th birthday when my wife and I met, and 3 months later we were living together. 29 years have passed so fast it seems like a blink. We're were looking forward to this new stage in our lives as both our kids are now adults.
I think this is going to be different than my other experiences and very hard, but reading all your good thoughts and wishes helps.
I'm looking forward to being able to come back and post about cycling. Cycling is something I love, and I like talking/posting about it too, particularily in advocacy, but I love my wife more, and she needs the time.
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........................ Of course your wife needs all your support and hopefully you both have additional support through family, friends, church etc. Just don't try to deal with it alone. There are support groups available also. I learned that many times people are uncomfortable with the subject. Try not to allow the occasional unthinking comment to get you down either. Most folks mean well, they often just don't know what to say or how to listen. We will keep you, your wife and family in our prayers.
Just to add to an excellent reply;
You will have friends come forward and ask what they can do to help. You may find, as I did, that it is hard to accept their offers. Go ahead and lean on them. They will appreciate doing what they can to get you and your wife through this.
I have found these support groups to be very helpful in guiding me through the process of getting the right medical, emotional and financial advice.
CancerCare
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LiveSTRONG Survivor Care
There are many others, they will help you cut through the confusion.
Best wishes to you and your wife. Enjoy your trip to London and give these flowers to your wife.
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There have been many of us here who've made it through, with love and support from friends and family.
We'll be thinking of your wife, and you, and wait for your return.
East Hill
We'll be thinking of your wife, and you, and wait for your return.
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All of our differences set aside, best wishes Closetbiker. Good luck and please do come back and tell us how it's going from time to time.
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As a survivor of ten years I know this was the hardest time for me, once I started treament and had a goal it was easier hopefully every thing will turn out well. All the best to you and yours.
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Full of dread, I hesitated clicking on a thread from one of my favorite posters entitled simply, Cancer. My heart goes out to you. From what I understand, the key these days is to become totally immersed and educated on the topic, to use doctors as consultants, but not just blindly follow their advice. The good news is that we've had 10 years of advancement since Lance beat it. Never-the-less, just like dealing with motorists in traffic, with doctors you have to trust, but verify. I look forward to seeing this thread refreshed some time in the future when you're back to tell us how she beat it.
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sorry to hear this but theres hope.... it can be beat and or cured with proper nutrition and detoxification...if not completely....the almighty will wipe it out one day along with the rest of the dreadful diseases we have.. as predicted as only he can....
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I thought I should give everyone who may have read this thread an update.
We are still in treatment, but received good news. It looks as if we may have eliminated the cancer. Examination of the lymph-nodes revealed them to be clear of cancer. There are issues to still be concerned with, but for now, that's a big hurdle we seemed to have lept.
Once again, I'd like to thank everyone here who have been so supportive. I'm in debt to your kindness and I'll be sure to act in kind when another needs help.
We are still in treatment, but received good news. It looks as if we may have eliminated the cancer. Examination of the lymph-nodes revealed them to be clear of cancer. There are issues to still be concerned with, but for now, that's a big hurdle we seemed to have lept.
Once again, I'd like to thank everyone here who have been so supportive. I'm in debt to your kindness and I'll be sure to act in kind when another needs help.
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I thought I should give everyone who may have read this thread an update.
We are still in treatment, but received good news. It looks as if we may have eliminated the cancer. Examination of the lymph-nodes revealed them to be clear of cancer. There are issues to still be concerned with, but for now, that's a big hurdle we seemed to have lept.
Once again, I'd like to thank everyone here who have been so supportive. I'm in debt to your kindness and I'll be sure to act in kind when another needs help.
We are still in treatment, but received good news. It looks as if we may have eliminated the cancer. Examination of the lymph-nodes revealed them to be clear of cancer. There are issues to still be concerned with, but for now, that's a big hurdle we seemed to have lept.
Once again, I'd like to thank everyone here who have been so supportive. I'm in debt to your kindness and I'll be sure to act in kind when another needs help.
Inspired me to go for a trail ride this fine day.
May you continue to hear good news.
Robert
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Closetbiker, that's really good news. I'm so happy for you and your wife. All my best wishes for the two of you as she recovers. Thanks for letting us know.
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I thought I should give everyone who may have read this thread an update.
We are still in treatment, but received good news. It looks as if we may have eliminated the cancer. Examination of the lymph-nodes revealed them to be clear of cancer. There are issues to still be concerned with, but for now, that's a big hurdle we seemed to have lept.
Once again, I'd like to thank everyone here who have been so supportive. I'm in debt to your kindness and I'll be sure to act in kind when another needs help.
We are still in treatment, but received good news. It looks as if we may have eliminated the cancer. Examination of the lymph-nodes revealed them to be clear of cancer. There are issues to still be concerned with, but for now, that's a big hurdle we seemed to have lept.
Once again, I'd like to thank everyone here who have been so supportive. I'm in debt to your kindness and I'll be sure to act in kind when another needs help.
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I thought I should give everyone who may have read this thread an update.
We are still in treatment, but received good news. It looks as if we may have eliminated the cancer. Examination of the lymph-nodes revealed them to be clear of cancer. There are issues to still be concerned with, but for now, that's a big hurdle we seemed to have lept.
Once again, I'd like to thank everyone here who have been so supportive. I'm in debt to your kindness and I'll be sure to act in kind when another needs help.
We are still in treatment, but received good news. It looks as if we may have eliminated the cancer. Examination of the lymph-nodes revealed them to be clear of cancer. There are issues to still be concerned with, but for now, that's a big hurdle we seemed to have lept.
Once again, I'd like to thank everyone here who have been so supportive. I'm in debt to your kindness and I'll be sure to act in kind when another needs help.
Stay positive, always focus on what needs to be done, and if you ever need to blow off steam or just nee to hear positive words you know where to find us.
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I managed to miss your update, probably because I was too stressed over the results of my own tests . I am very happy to hear that your wife's lymph nodes are clear. It's taken two years, but apparently I am now in the clear, and my husband is finally able to start feeling better.
A serious illness takes it's toll on more than just the person with the illness.
So, both of you keep getting better, all right?
East Hill
A serious illness takes it's toll on more than just the person with the illness.
So, both of you keep getting better, all right?
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