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Old 06-08-08, 07:00 PM
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Bad cycling news = pressure to stop riding?

Does anyone here get pressure from their significant other to stop riding when they see news reports of cyclists shot or hit by cars?

My girlfriend has never asked me to stop cycling after seeing bad news about cyclists. Of course, maybe she does not see
the stories that I see. I'm not going to point them out to her either. I do at least send her a text message when I arrive at work and arrive home. Also, I wear a Road ID wristband so she would be contacted if anything bad happened.

I know she worries but I'm glad she understands that cycling is a big deal for me. Getting me to stop would be difficult.
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Old 06-08-08, 07:24 PM
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Hell no.

Bring it on!
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Old 06-08-08, 07:29 PM
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Nope! Not at all!!

My SO is also a cyclist.
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Old 06-08-08, 07:51 PM
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My wife is super understanding and never even hints at me stopping cycling. Co-workers and my neighbor are a different story, i've been nagged by a few of them. I've started to turn it around, everytime there's a local traffic accident i say something like "those dang cars are so dangerous, when will they ban them?"
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Old 06-08-08, 07:57 PM
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lol, my co-workers all ride, so no trouble from there. All my friends just tell me to wear a helmet.. so that's about it. Everyone in college does stupid and dangerous things, so biking is nothing new.
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My wife gets concerned at times. I definitely choose not to tell her the news bits I hear about cyclists getting hit. She doesn't make a big deal about it though. She understands the odds well enough to know that my poor diet (consisting of burgers and pizza) will probably get me first.
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Old 06-08-08, 08:43 PM
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My other half worries sometimes, but she's pretty cool generally. For a while after I got hit by a car she was worried, and wanted me to call her whenever I went anywhere on my bike to say I had arrived safely.
I talk to her about how I ride, and about the dangerous things that other cyclists do which I don't do. This gives her confidence that I am cautious and safe. Of course, I don't mention all the things that I do but they don't...!!
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Old 06-08-08, 08:52 PM
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never even arises in discussion.
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Old 06-08-08, 09:24 PM
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I don't get any pressure to stop riding... But this subforum is probably the worse when it comes to promoting cycling activity... thread after thread after thread about accidents, deaths, wrecks... & the some of the kooks in A&S who believe that every automobile & truck driver is a maniac out to harass.
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Old 06-08-08, 09:51 PM
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Originally Posted by gpsblake View Post
I don't get any pressure to stop riding... But this subforum is probably the worse when it comes to promoting cycling activity... thread after thread after thread about accidents, deaths, wrecks... & the some of the kooks in A&S who believe that every automobile & truck driver is a maniac out to harass.
Yeah, maybe I was thinking about this since there are so many collision*/death threads recently. My GF does not ride
but she does like to check the forums to see what I am laughing about. If she went to the A&S forum, maybe she
would get more nervous about my cycling.




*I hate to use the word "accident" ever since I saw Hot Fuzz.
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Old 06-09-08, 10:33 AM
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My wife worries a bit during the Winter months. As far as cycling danger, I would say look at how many people died in your area from automobile accidents in the past week. Here there is an average of nearly 1 per day... that is a HUGE number of poeple. How many pedestrians and cyclists have been killed... there have been a few, but it is rate and those make big headlines. Usually it involves a drunk driver, but not always.

All I can tell my wife is that I am cautious and won't hesitate to ditch if I think someone is about to cross my path.

Happy riding,
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Old 06-09-08, 11:15 AM
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Yes i do and it would be more if i told her any of this. but since i am with my son on a TAB for a good percentage of my cyceling the fear factor is understandable.
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Old 06-09-08, 11:17 AM
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When we got married, I told my wife that rode before I met her and I'll be riding after she's gone. I also ride a motorcycle, and between the two she's realized I'm reasonably safe.

That was 27 years ago, and it's never, ever come up once over the years.

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Old 06-09-08, 11:53 AM
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Originally Posted by andrelam View Post
... As far as cycling danger, I would say look at how many people died in your area from automobile accidents in the past week. Here there is an average of nearly 1 per day... that is a HUGE number of poeple. How many pedestrians and cyclists have been killed...


very few deaths are cyclists, they have the same rate of death as motorists and pedestrian deaths are 10 times the amount of cyclists with only twice the amount being hit by motor vehicles. (at least that's the case where I live)

people accept risks they feel they have no choice but to take. They feel they can't get by without a car, so they accept the risks associated with them. They see cycling as an option, not a necessity, not necessary, so the risk is unacceptable.

I can't see why they don't account for the obvious health gains in assessing the risks of cycling and see, you're far better off riding than driving.
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Old 06-09-08, 11:58 AM
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My smart and beautiful wife well understands that the couch is much more dangerous than the road.

That said, I would not encourage her to read her or other places where cycling related carnage gets major play. Impressions, false as they may be, are powerful.
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Yes, people are pressured to stop riding after cycling accidents are in the news in the same way that people are pressured to stop driving after car accidents are in the news.

Erm.... No, wait. That's not right.
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Threads in this forum make me think about sticking more to trails than roads. My wife encourages me to ride more, actually. My cats don't care one way or the other.
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Old 06-09-08, 12:41 PM
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My wife worries on my commute to and from work, but only because she knows how bad drivers are and how little they care about the life of others.

But I have life insurance, so at least her and my kids are covered financially.
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Originally Posted by urban_assault View Post
Does anyone here get pressure from their significant other to stop riding when they see news reports of cyclists shot or hit by cars?

My girlfriend has never asked me to stop cycling after seeing bad news about cyclists. Of course, maybe she does not see
the stories that I see. I'm not going to point them out to her either. I do at least send her a text message when I arrive at work and arrive home. Also, I wear a Road ID wristband so she would be contacted if anything bad happened.

I know she worries but I'm glad she understands that cycling is a big deal for me. Getting me to stop would be difficult.
I get it all the time. The GF doesn't like me riding my bike. I think she makes me take the bimmer to pick her up during weekdays just so I won't ride my bike to work.

She rides with me but only on bike paths and parks. Never rides with me on the street.
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My girlfriend worries often about me, but not about cycling. I've been off my bike for months now though and I really miss it; I just have trouble getting the time and energy these days. She's an occasional casual bike rider too.

My mother, she worries like hell about cycling in the wintertime. It can be a light dusting of snow and she thinks it's a blizzard.
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Originally Posted by urban_assault View Post
My girlfriend has never asked me to stop cycling after seeing bad news about cyclists.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

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Old 06-09-08, 01:26 PM
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Originally Posted by Pig_Chaser View Post
My wife is super understanding and never even hints at me stopping cycling. Co-workers and my neighbor are a different story, i've been nagged by a few of them. I've started to turn it around, everytime there's a local traffic accident i say something like "those dang cars are so dangerous, when will they ban them?"

Plus 1. My tactic also.
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Originally Posted by gcottay View Post
My smart and beautiful wife well understands that the couch is much more dangerous than the road.

That said, I would not encourage her to read her or other places where cycling related carnage gets major play. Impressions, false as they may be, are powerful.
My situation is very similar to yours, except that in 1976 my wife went through the trauma of my being hit by an errant motorist. I temporarily cut back on transportation cycling to humor her, and I still do less riding than I might wish to. My wife also appreciates the fact that I have kept in shape and that she is no danger of becoming a heart attack widow.
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After my skydiving, riding a motorcycle, going to sea on a nuclear submarine: she does not seem to get overly concerned about my cycling.
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The only effect I've seen is my daughter's mother insisting on helmets, both for our daughter and her little brother (whom I also take riding).
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