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Old 11-07-14, 03:07 AM
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I did everything by the book. And still got scolded.

On my way back from the bank, heading north, I arrived at a four way stop intersection. On my right a car and a cyclist arrive at the intersection at the same time, heading east, just seconds before me. The cyclist cruises on through but of course the car stops. I approach the intersection at, you know, a snails pace waiting for the cars driver to go on his way. I know he has the right of way. But he motions me to proceed and as I go past in front of him, i give him the "Thank You" nod and then he shots something at me. Unfortunately I could make out what he said. but just the same he sounded angry. I just ignored him and ever since I keep wondering what I did wrong.
And it's nothing. I did nothing wrong. Just a dick driving a car. That's all.
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Old 11-07-14, 06:52 AM
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Originally Posted by Corben View Post
On my way back from the bank, heading north, I arrived at a four way stop intersection. On my right a car and a cyclist arrive at the intersection at the same time, heading east, just seconds before me. The cyclist cruises on through but of course the car stops. I approach the intersection at, you know, a snails pace waiting for the cars driver to go on his way. I know he has the right of way. But he motions me to proceed and as I go past in front of him, i give him the "Thank You" nod and then he shots something at me. Unfortunately I could make out what he said. but just the same he sounded angry. I just ignored him and ever since I keep wondering what I did wrong.
And it's nothing. I did nothing wrong. Just a dick driving a car. That's all.
Boo Hoo, Oh the Humanity!
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Old 11-07-14, 07:04 AM
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Originally Posted by Corben View Post
On my way back from the bank, heading north, I arrived at a four way stop intersection. On my right a car and a cyclist arrive at the intersection at the same time, heading east, just seconds before me. The cyclist cruises on through but of course the car stops. I approach the intersection at, you know, a snails pace waiting for the cars driver to go on his way. I know he has the right of way. But he motions me to proceed and as I go past in front of him, i give him the "Thank You" nod and then he shots something at me. Unfortunately I could make out what he said. but just the same he sounded angry. I just ignored him and ever since I keep wondering what I did wrong.
And it's nothing. I did nothing wrong. Just a dick driving a car. That's all.
So something that happens to people everyday, whether operating a car, truck, motorcycle or bike...or just walking, jogging, etc. gets your spandex bunched why? It's called traffic...don't over think it.
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I've been yelled at by car drivers while in the legal bike lane. I've been told to get on the sidewalk on a road with no sidewalk. It happens. Who cares? It's thier blood pressure spiking, not mine.
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Riding a bike and getting scolded by cagemonkeys is just a part of life, whether you obeys laws or not. Might as well get used to it - laugh at the human comedy - and go on riding. Don't let it get to you.

Look at it this way: First, you get scolded at the four way stop. Then, you post it here and get razzed by people like I-Like-To-Bike and myself. Being a bicyclist requires thick skin. You cannot stop cagemonkeys from yelling. Become a "Captain Big Ring" and rule your world!
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...comments withdrawn. I thought this was the marriage forum. Sorry.
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I simply do not remember things like this happening to me all that often.

In fact the one I do remember was rather different.

At the base of a short steep that I just descended there were gardeners blowing stuff everywhere. Last thing I needed, or so I thought. Then to add to the unpleasantness a car coming behind me lays on the horn, getting an Italian gesture from me.

At a stop sign a bit farther down the passenger says to me. 'It wasn't you, you were fine, it was those guys blowing dirt everywhere'.

EDIT: I also recall several thank yous from cars wanting to turn right where our group move far enough left in the right lane so they did not have to wait for a long light and a couple of time drivers asked for directions.

Also a couple of times where people said encouraging (or envious) things. But for this last bit I'm sure there are some here who would be able to interpret that as mocking.
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Old 11-07-14, 11:39 AM
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You think you have it bad. Just pay attention to all the silly people in cars honking at and running into each other. Just don't let them run you over, and you are golden. BTW --- if someone waves me through when they have the right of way, I'm very hesitant about taking them up on it. You never know what they will do.
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Old 11-07-14, 11:49 AM
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Yep it happens especially on commutes. Just yesterday as I was riding home over a freeway overpass I got buzzed very closely by a cager who yelled out the window " go ride somewhere else". I spit in his open window an turned off where he couldn't follow me through a series of hotels.
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Old 11-07-14, 12:18 PM
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I find that if I put my foot down (literally) and turn my head the other way, away from the driver, they tend to go. Even just turning my head the other way tends to make them go. I do the same thing while crossing the street (on foot) or turning onto a road where people tend to stop for me when I'm sitting at a cross road and they don't have a stop sign. I know people are being nice, but I can manage to turn onto/cross a road all by myself without any of your traffic creating help.

In town we have a problem of "too nice drivers" that tend to stop for pedestrians even when there isn't a crosswalk which then tends to make a bit of traffic or, in the worst case scenario, an accident. I know, not a terrible problem to have, but I find it annoying. When I lived in Pittsburgh YOU, as the pedestrian, had to watch out. Cars would not stop for you if they had a green light. I mastered the art of crossing the street without making any cars slow down (aka jaywalking.)
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Old 11-07-14, 12:44 PM
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*shrug*

In my experience, obeying all the rules pisses drivers off more than if I ride safely but without worrying about the law.
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Originally Posted by I-Like-To-Bike View Post
Boo Hoo, Oh the Humanity!
I have found only one thing that will bring a car to a stop, be kind and have patients.
Try waiting at the side of the road with crutches. After being taken out on my bike by a car. I was on crutches for 3 months cars will stop and wait even if you wave them to go they just wait and wave me to cross the road. Even if the there are lots of traffic the gimp gets to go first. It happened all the time.

Now how to ride with crutches
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Originally Posted by tractorlegs View Post
Riding a bike and getting scolded by cagemonkeys is just a part of life, whether you obeys laws or not. Might as well get used to it - laugh at the human comedy - and go on riding. Don't let it get to you.

Look at it this way: First, you get scolded at the four way stop. Then, you post it here and get razzed by people like I-Like-To-Bike and myself. Being a bicyclist requires thick skin. You cannot stop cagemonkeys from yelling. Become a "Captain Big Ring" and rule your world!
The the razzing is cool. Besides, I figured out what he shouted. It was "NICE BIKE!" or NICE BUTT!". One of the two.
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Riding a bike and getting scolded by cagemonkeys is just a part of life,
I get scolded by bikemonkeys far more than I get scolded by cagemonkeys.
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Originally Posted by Corben View Post
I approach the intersection at, you know, a snails pace waiting for the cars driver to go on his way.
We have a lot of drivers around here who won't pull away from a stop sign until everyone else is fully stopped at their respective sign - and this is when I'm driving. It's seriously frustrating to be pullig up slowly and the person is just sitting there. Watching... me... slowly... pull... to... a... stop... (ok, fine I do mess with them sometimes and make it a really slooooow stop). Then they wait a second or two and drive off. Maybe they're just nannies wanting to see that everyone else comes to a full stop even though we're sometimes the only two cars within sight. It's a real pain when combined with a four way stop.

Anyways, maybe you found one of those guys. I'd have been inclined to stop and put a foot down to be clear that he has the right of way and you're waiting for him to go first.
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someone said something loudly that i didn't understand. since i am a cyclist, they are clearly a dick.
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Originally Posted by spare_wheel View Post
I get scolded by bikemonkeys far more than I get scolded by cagemonkeys.
Forum Bullies. They spend thier entire day scanning the forum looking for innocent poster who post worthless random things like this. I understand theres a progressive group of forum members here trying to put a end to to it but I for one belive it builds character and prepares one for the real world. A nesessary evil.
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someone said something loudly that i didn't understand. since i am a cyclist, they are clearly a dick.
You too? Glad I'm not the only one that happens to.

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I'm still having problems with OP heading north, and on his right is approaching traffic traveling east?

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Originally Posted by spare_wheel View Post
I get scolded by bikemonkeys far more than I get scolded by cagemonkeys.
what do the bikemonkeys have to say to you? I mostly hear from carmonkeys, but they say something like "arrbleblllssgle bargle!"
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Old 11-07-14, 06:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Corben View Post
Forum Bullies. They spend thier entire day scanning the forum looking for innocent poster who post worthless random things like this. I understand theres a progressive group of forum members here trying to put a end to to it but I for one belive it builds character and prepares one for the real world. A nesessary evil.
Innocent posters don't knowingly post worthless random things like this.
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I never know what the cagemonkeys or the bikemonkeys have to say.... The brainmonkeys are way too loud

Right now, they are saying, regarding the OP, "Dude had a bad day, wanted to vent it out with other cyclists... cool."
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I'm still having problems with OP heading north, and on his right is approaching traffic traveling east?

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Yep, story doesn't jibe.
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Yep, story doesn't jibe.
The mystery adds to the drama.
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Originally Posted by EvilWeasel View Post
I've been yelled at by car drivers while in the legal bike lane. I've been told to get on the sidewalk on a road with no sidewalk. It happens. Who cares? It's thier blood pressure spiking, not mine.
I got told to get off the road a couple nights ago.

Rural road, first car I'd seen in literally miles. Two lanes, wide shoulder(I was on the shoulder). I just shook my head. Not impacting his life at all, but he sure felt like he needed to tell me what to do.

Honestly, I was just glad I didn't get buzzed.
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