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Losing bikes in separation, what to do?

Old 07-13-11, 08:12 AM
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Losing bikes in separation, what to do?

I know my problems are piddly compared to what many people go through but for me it is a big part of my life.

My partner of 5 years and I are going separate ways, kind of mutual (due to personal issues on both ends).
The mess has not yet manifested itself but splitting up property is coming next week and she wants the bikes that I bought and fit her.
I've heard from some friends that I need to write them off as a life lesson, take them when she's not around, and consider them parting gifts of our realtionship.

The only problem is I REALLY LIKE THE BIKES.
I spend a lot of my time talking to the fine community of C&V (aside from the last 3 weeks, ughhhh) and consider many of you to be friends as well.

They both fit her, and she rides them consistently, but if she wants to take the next stage of her life freely wandering around looking for a wild experience (moving about the nation without an income) then the bikes would be susceptible to neglect or worse.

I'm thankful that we never bought that condo, and that we only have three pets and some plants to split up, no kids.

Thanks for letting me vent for a moment, I appreciate any advice given and every little bit helps.

The UO-18 with old peugot bell, TA accessories, now has an ADGA saddle, and a lot of tasty old french bits


The CP-60, Heavy but original, columbus brain, full 9s veloce, all original and a beautiful bike that gets compliments everywhere.
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Old 07-13-11, 08:17 AM
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I'm sure there's already enough sorrow in the whole event. I'd let them go and begin again with other bikes. Good luck.
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Don't sweat it, unless you are forced to pay bike support. She actually rides them, and that is a good thing in and unto itself.
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I agree with the dbakl and cycleheimer. That said... could you say yes, the bikes are hers, but you'll be happy to store one of them them for her if she's not going to be using it for a while?
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If and when you get another girlfriend, she will NOT want a ex's bike. Lose the bikes. Build a new history with the new girl and bike(s).

On another note, it is telling that you are worried about the old bikes being ridden and used, but not about the ex being ridden and used by someone else. Definitely time to move on!
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Originally Posted by DGozinya View Post

On another note, it is telling that you are worried about the old bikes being ridden and used, but not about the ex being ridden and used by someone else. Definitely time to move on!
HAH!
I'm not going to get started on a public forum about all THAT.
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Let her take the bikes. Make a new beginning.
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Take the high road, let them go with her ....

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Agree with everything that's been said so far. Take the high road and let her have them. At some point, you'll be glad you did. If, as it seems, the break-up is causing some bitterness, why keep the bikes as a reminder? New GF will not want ex's bikes. Get new bikes and new GF, not necessarily in that order. Good luck to you!
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I agree with everybody. Let her have them. They were built and fit to her, let them be a gift. Bikes are great but they're not worth a messy battle over. Offer to take care of them if need be, but let her know they are hers.
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Let her have the bikes, life goes on.
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Why not offer to buy them from her? If she's roaming the earth, she might want some money. If she won't sell, then you have to move on.

That CP-60 looks fun, could you trade the dog for it?
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Let her have them. There are always more bikes. And more partners that aren't the same size as those bikes.
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Next time plan ahead and sell the bikes prior.

Long Long ago, I bought a Masi Gran Criterium for the girlfriend, assuming one day she would be the Mrs. I gave her the bike. She sold it about 6 months later for a nice sum.
15 years later, she regretted departing ways and selling off the Masi. She test rode a number of bikes but none compared to that one, she had been spoiled.

Besides, you're going to select a new babe based on the size of bike she needs?!
Best to hang around those coffee houses with your most attractive bike and find a new girl. Who has a her OWN bikes.
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Bummer. Guess they're sort of like engagement rings that you really can't give to the next gf, so maybe it's best that she keeps them as they probably were gifts if things get testy about them.
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What good is it to hang onto a pair of bikes that:

A. Probably don't fit you.
B. Aren't special (specifically, the UO series peugeot. The moment you give it to her, another will pop up).
C. Will otherwise keep another cyclist on the road - and considering her new outlook on life, she might just wind up having to use that UO-8 more than she expects.
D. They're Peugeots

Give them to her - you got them for her in the first place. Since the separation is mutual and seems to be without any unnecessary animosity, I dare say she'll appriciate it too.

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Let them go. Offer to tune them up before she takes off. Put Limburger in the bottom bracket. Silently smile to yourself for years as you think about it.
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Ball bearing in the tubes. Let her have them, knowing it will drive her crazy.
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BBM and OFG are trying to create bad bike kharma. You need good. She'll ride 'em - let 'em go.
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Swap the wheelset out on the CP-60 for something cheaper and black that won't get noticed for a while. Leave the rest.

When I split with my live-in GF she got the Nintendo. I got the cats though so I didn't mind so much.
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New girlfriend & new bikes .

win/win

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BBM and OFG are trying to create bad bike kharma. You need good. She'll ride 'em - let 'em go.
I inferred from one of his replies, that her riding more than one may be the source of the problems. A ball bearing is kinder than a loose stem.
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New girlfriend & new bikes .

win/win

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Scott, you are a rogue!
Thank you sir!

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I inferred from one of his replies, that her riding more than one may be the source of the problems. A ball bearing is kinder than a loose stem.
And kinder than fitting one of those pretty French ATAX "death stems". And on the first note, I had this conversation once:

GF:"Why do you have so many bikes?"
ME:"Well, all of them have their own qualities, occasions, characters, levels of maintenance - they're all unique and ride so much different, I can't make a choice to settle on just one."
GF:"I guess you're the same with girls then!"

I had to bite my lip on that one
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