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wgaynor 08-07-08 08:48 AM


Originally Posted by ShadowGray (Post 7224148)
What is it with you people and getting harassed at drivers? I live in one of the most dangerous cities in the nation, and I have been only honked at like 3 times in the past 3 months. And just a passing honk, never anyone shouting or throwing anything. Except this one time that one guy just shouted something really random as he drove by (more like squawked).

Maybe you guys just need to take off the flashing jerseys and stuff a watergun in your shorts. :lol:

Try riding a bike in Kentucky. Nothing but hate for people on bikes.

MrRamonG 08-07-08 08:59 AM

I know I'm not oblivious to what's going on around me so I know it's not that I am simply not paying attention to rude drivers, but I haven't been honked at in years. In 15 years of commuting I have only been honked at a handful of times, had two cups thrown at me, and maybe two people yell at me. I'm sure I am forgetting some stuff but you can see my point, negative motorist encounters are rare for me.

AdrianFly 08-07-08 08:59 AM


Try riding a bike in Kentucky. Nothing but hate for people on bikes.
Ahh.. to better clarify this statement, please fill in the blank....


In Kentucky there is nothing but hate for people on bikes. However, in Kentucky they sure LOVE ................. ? :)

Hydrated 08-07-08 09:01 AM


Originally Posted by AdrianFly (Post 7224652)
Ahh.. to better clarify this statement, please fill in the blank....


In Kentucky there is nothing but hate for people on bikes. However, in Kentucky they sure LOVE ................. ? :)

pork?

MrRamonG 08-07-08 09:05 AM

Moonshine?

noteon 08-07-08 09:17 AM


Originally Posted by ochizon (Post 7223780)
The funny thing is I glared at the cop, and he at me.

Cops have to glare. It's in the contract.

FredOak 08-07-08 09:27 AM

I've gotten the polite honks and I take them as a friendly warning that a car is coming up behind me and I look at it as the cager trying to be helpful.

For for me anyway, it is always the woman hanging out the passenger window and her obsession with the sidewalk. And it's always "get on the sidewalk" or some such BS. I just usually ignore them or if it was a bad day I will yell back "Read the law!" and flip them off.

My wife keeps telling me to ignore them as I'm eventually going to run into a wacko that wants to take target practice.

shundaroni 08-07-08 09:43 AM

I figured I'd be all-but-murdered for riding in the streets when I lived in WV. There is no such thing as a "bike lane" and the shoulders in the Huntington area measure about three inches wide (most of which is full of shattered glass). The people are fat and often rude, so I was always prepared for the worst when I'd head out in the morning.

Oddly enough, I never got one honk or rude gesture. The closest I came was when a buddy and I were playing stoplight sprints with a dump-truck, and he was getting visibly upset at the fact we were beating him every time.

riddei 08-07-08 09:44 AM


Originally Posted by FredOak (Post 7224839)
... My wife keeps telling me to ignore them as I'm eventually going to run into a wacko that wants to take target practice.

Listen to your wife, flipping off the wrong person (wacko) driving a 2 ton weapon will ruin your day. It's hard, but I try to wave with all five fingers when confronted by jerks. It's hard for the wacko's to run over a guy with a big stupid grin waving at them...

cc_rider 08-07-08 09:53 AM

A copy of the local/state bicycle regs might have helped in this case.

caloso 08-07-08 09:58 AM

Smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave.

uke 08-07-08 09:58 AM


Originally Posted by JR97 (Post 7224158)
I love my headphones.

Me too. Too busy listening to good music to get into scraps with drivers.


Originally Posted by cradduck (Post 7223405)
Blowing a fuse never ends well and this is no exception IMHO. The Johnny Cochran statement was pretty funny and I think you had already won the battle at that point.

Blocking him and blocking traffic accomplished nothing and just pissed off a bunch of drivers that had nothing to do with the verbal transaction.

Agreed. Now several more drivers will be more likely to behave antagonistically toward any cyclist they see in said town.


Originally Posted by harleyfrog (Post 7224568)
I've just take the option of smiling and waving at every driver that yells something at me (whether I can make sense of of it or not). For those drivers that yell something positive, it's a nice gesture; for those who yell obscenities, it confuses the hell out of them.

Exactly. Mellow out instead of lashing out.


Originally Posted by wgaynor (Post 7224569)
Try riding a bike in Kentucky. Nothing but hate for people on bikes.

Depends on where you are. I never really had any trouble riding in town when living there.


Originally Posted by FredOak (Post 7224839)
For for me anyway, it is always the woman hanging out the passenger window and her obsession with the sidewalk. And it's always "get on the sidewalk" or some such BS. I just usually ignore them or if it was a bad day I will yell back "Read the law!" and flip them off.

My wife keeps telling me to ignore them as I'm eventually going to run into a wacko that wants to take target practice.

Your wife is right. One of these days, you might flip off the wrong person. And what good will it do to have them in jail if you're paralyzed from the neck down or something for life?


Originally Posted by riddei
Listen to your wife, flipping off the wrong person (wacko) driving a 2 ton weapon will ruin your day. It's hard, but I try to wave with all five fingers when confronted by jerks. It's hard for the wacko's to run over a guy with a big stupid grin waving at them...

Exactly. Defuse the situation. With the knowledge of how badly road rage situations often turn out between two people in cars, I can't imagine why anyone would attempt to intimidate someone in a car (or insert themselves into a hot situation) while riding a bicycle.

rkpol7 08-07-08 10:11 AM


Originally Posted by PotatoSlayer (Post 7223344)

"Okay. Answer me this, Johnny Cochran, did you get your law degree the same place you got your GED?"


The person was ignorant of the law and instead of politely correcting her, you gave her this line. This automatically makes you an a--hole, and lowering yourself to below their standards. Therefore, at that moment, your character is no better than the people shouting rude remarks at you.

harleyfrog 08-07-08 10:12 AM


Originally Posted by caloso (Post 7225085)
Smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave.

Exactly. Blow their minds, not your fuse. ;)

caloso 08-07-08 10:14 AM

I just wish I could always follow my own advice. Sigh... It's progress, not perfection.

chipcom 08-07-08 10:16 AM


Originally Posted by riddei (Post 7224968)
It's hard for the wacko's to run over a guy with a big stupid grin waving at them...

No it isn't, there is no predicting what a wacko will do or not do, that's why we...they are wackos! :D

Denny Koll 08-07-08 10:27 AM


Originally Posted by caloso (Post 7225227)
I just wish I could always follow my own advice. Sigh... It's progress, not perfection.

Yes...and that's the point. It can be difficult to deal with multiple Bozos yelling stupid comments. The most Gandhi-like of us can cheerfully smile and wave their way through it but I find it hard to criticize someone who at some point has heard enough.

dwood 08-07-08 10:39 AM

Let me see if I've got this straight . . . .

You've exchanged words with a guy's wife in a multi-ton vehicle. Now the guy is pissed over your comments because he feels you insulted his wife.

So in your brilliance . . . you get out in front of said vehicle, w/in 6 inches/sideways, and exchange hand gestures and profanity with the guy . . . holding up a long line of cars.

Right or wrong, the cagers are dangerous [at this point] and you're a moron [or perhaps suicidal].

DON

jfruser 08-07-08 10:48 AM

"Arguing with fools..." and all that.

Though this time, BOTH parties were fools.

1. The driver & her man for ignorance.

2. Our intrepid OP for relying on the sufferance of folks not to grind him into a gear-impregnated paste with their automobile after he had personally insulted them.

Hint: If the automobile becomes a party to the argument, no witty repartee or snappy comeback is going to enable you to win.

My wife (currently working toward her RN) is currently helping care for a quadriplegic. He was a healthy man a month ago, right before he was mowed down by a car while riding his bike. Now he can't wipe his own backside. On the bright side, he has made wonderful progress: he can now lift his arms (a little bit, but not with enough agility to feed himself) and flex his left quadriceps.

I think it the wise course of action to smile & wave at the fools in the 2-ton weapons, for my part.

timmhaan 08-07-08 10:53 AM


Originally Posted by caloso (Post 7225227)
I just wish I could always follow my own advice. Sigh... It's progress, not perfection.

exactly. advice is cheap and easy. doing it day in and day out is something different entirely.

i'm just happy that i don't "slip up" and lose my cool as much as i used to.

Febs 08-07-08 10:53 AM


Originally Posted by PotatoSlayer (Post 7223344)
I normally don't have a short fuse, but not even five minutes into my ride to the grocery store (about a 2 mile trip) I had some car slow down, roll down the window, and the passenger said to "use the sidewalk."

It's about 6pm, the end of rush hour. The next stop light I catch up to this car, still minding my own business as I roll to the front of the line (they were first car at the light). It's a T intersection where they can go straight or right, single lane. They try to tell me again to 'use the sidewalk, that's what it's there for."

I replied "Thanks for the information, but It's called side-WALK for a reason."

"No, it's for bikes too. It's the law!"

"Okay. Answer me this, Johnny Cochran, did you get your law degree the same place you got your GED?"

At this point, assuming that it was a good idea to respond at all (and it's almost invariably not), wouldn't a more productive response have been something like this?

"I'm sorry, ma'am, but section 12-808 of the Philadelphia City Code actually makes it illegal for me to ride on the sidewalk. Plus, Under Chapter 35 of the Pennsylvania Vehicle Code, I am not only permitted, but in many instances required, to ride on the street."

(Obviously, I'm using my own local law as an example, but I'm sure that whatever jurisdiction you're in has similar provisions.)

You had the opportunity to either ignore the driver so as not to escalate the situation, or to educate the driver, which would have at least created the possibility that the driver would learn not to make the same mistake in the future. Instead, you took actions that will increase that driver's antagonism toward cyclists in the future. Not smart.

RogerB 08-07-08 10:56 AM

It's too bad that in my state, the gal in the car would allegedly be correct. We still have a mandatory sidepath law on the state books, even though everybody ignores it (including the local municipality.) It does contain a bit of wiggle room in saying that where a "usable" or "suitable" sidepath exists... So I could argue in court that the existing "sidewalk" is not suitable for bicycle traffic, and that the MUP on the opposite side of the street puts me in opposition to the traffic flow, or that it has too few points of entry, etc. But the "ruling" would probably depend on the judge of the day.

harleyfrog 08-07-08 11:10 AM


Originally Posted by Denny Koll (Post 7225329)
Yes...and that's the point. It can be difficult to deal with multiple Bozos yelling stupid comments. The most Gandhi-like of us can cheerfully smile and wave their way through it but I find it hard to criticize someone who at some point has heard enough.

"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mohandas Ghandi

mondaycurse 08-07-08 11:11 AM


Originally Posted by Febs (Post 7225527)
At this point, assuming that it was a good idea to respond at all (and it's almost invariably not), wouldn't a more productive response have been something like this?

"I'm sorry, ma'am, but section 12-808 of the Philadelphia City Code actually makes it illegal for me to ride on the sidewalk. Plus, Under Chapter 35 of the Pennsylvania Vehicle Code, I am not only permitted, but in many instances required, to ride on the street."

To which she will obviously respond "Oh, sorry for my incompetence and stupidity of road laws. Have a good day, lawful cyclist."

e0richt 08-07-08 11:14 AM

interesting, I haven't really had that problem. Pondering this situation, I guess I will start to carry copies of the state law dealing with the riding of bicycles and instead of lecturing someone on the road, I would
just give them a copy and ignore them...


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