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Old 12-25-08, 02:56 PM
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"Why don't you drive like normal people?"

I'm only a part-time bicycle commuter, but for shorter trips around town, I always take the bike.

I've been divorced (officially) about a month now. However my ex-wife hasn't lived with me in almost a year. I didn't get started biking until she had moved out.

I was talking to her this morning about spending Christmas over there with her and my daughter. When I mentioned I was going to ride the recumbent with Christmas lights on it, she said "Why don't you drive like normal people?"



Why would I drive? It's less than two miles. There should be almost no traffic on Christmas Day, and the roads are clear.

I considered walking instead, but it's actually less safe to walk there. No sidewalks, big invisible holes in the grass to twist your ankle in... etc.

It's a beautiful day, 34 degress, sunny, and it's Christmas! I think I'll take the long way to her house.

Merry Christmas everyone!
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Old 12-25-08, 03:38 PM
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Might explain why you two are divorced. Incompatibility. That kind of thing happens though. More than 50% of the time.
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Ex-wives (and probably ex-husbands) are the ones that feel that they can dish out the harshest criticism because there's not really anything to lose and they do still probably care (which is why they're dishing out the criticism in the first place).

That's why I can only manage a couple of hours per year with my ex-wife.

Merry Christmas, dcrowell, I hope the ride was nice.
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Old 12-25-08, 04:29 PM
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congratulations on the divorce.
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Ignore the "X" and enjoy the visit with the daughter. Everything will be fine. Make sure you bring the bike in the house with you!
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Old 12-25-08, 05:03 PM
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Originally Posted by dcrowell View Post
"Why don't you drive like normal people?"
When someone asks me that question, my reply is always: "You must mean, why don't I drive like ordinary people?"

Originally Posted by dcrowell View Post
There should be almost no traffic on Christmas Day, and the roads are clear.
Christmas is one of the best days of the year to spend on my bike. 20 years ago (when I turned 30) I announced to my entire family (many of whom I actually like) that I was DONE with the holidays (I don't have kids). 15 years ago and shortly after I met the woman I am now married to I made sure she knew, before we got real serious, that I am DONE with the holidays. She still lies to her family about why I never go over there on Christmas day. Fine.

I usually put in 7 to 8 hours in the saddle biking all over town and country like I own the world. I pack a lunch, fill some water bottles, and enjoy my day off.

BTW....I have worked in retail most of my working life. By Christmas Day I am ready to kill people. Better I am on my bike.

Like ^^he^^ said. Bring the bike in her house and lean it on something special.

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Old 12-25-08, 05:26 PM
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I prefer to avoid the bike on certain days (like Easter, Christmas, Mother & Father's Day and familiy birthdays) because with my luck, that would be the day I get tboned by a car. I'd hate for loved ones to always remember the day I passed on and ruin teh holidays. Corny, but it's probably just me.

Disclaimer: Since I'll be traveling from the 26th to 30th, I won't have a chance to ride, so I'll ride tonight just to get some miles in. :-)
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Old 12-25-08, 05:38 PM
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I rode on new years last year after the main festivities were over, it was simply awesome, i saw a couple of cars for half an hour.
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Old 12-25-08, 05:47 PM
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I haven't spoke to the X-Wife in 12 years. LOL

Went for a 15 mile loop today...X-Mas day is way better then Sunday mornings to get a ride in. There was almost NOBODY on the road. My only regret is not going out earlier so I could ride longer. My wife is cool with my riding and the fact that I have lost 40lb this year doing it.
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Old 12-25-08, 06:00 PM
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I tried to find an excuse to take the bike out this Christmas day. I went to the donut shop and bought me a donut and coffee. The ride was nice. Slight drizzle outside but the air was refreshing. I notice Im more resistant to the cold this year while the rest of my family are freezing there butts off. Enjoy the ride guys and Merry Christmas.
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Old 12-25-08, 07:14 PM
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"I'm staying in shape for my new, younger girlfriends"
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Old 12-25-08, 07:45 PM
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Originally Posted by JeffS View Post
"I'm staying in shape for my new, younger girlfriends"
I like that one!
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Old 12-25-08, 08:23 PM
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I hopped on the bike for two trips to the convenience store today...my tail box came in handy!
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Old 12-25-08, 08:38 PM
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Originally Posted by JeffS View Post
"I'm staying in shape for my new, younger girlfriends"
Very nice.
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Old 12-25-08, 08:53 PM
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"The voices told me not to."
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Old 12-25-08, 09:44 PM
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Originally Posted by knobster View Post
Might explain why you two are divorced. Incompatibility. That kind of thing happens though. More than 50% of the time.
The divorce rate peaked in 1981, and has been in decline since. It never reached 50% and today, more than 60% of marriages are successful. We can do much better though. Don
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Old 12-25-08, 09:51 PM
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Riding on holidays is one of the best times to ride. I rode to my mother in-law's house and back.
The way home was in the dark to test my new lights and look at the Christmas displays. One of the best rides this year.

As for the ex-wife, I would at the most laugh at her. It is more amusing when someone's attempt to get a rise out of another person results in nothing.
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Old 12-25-08, 10:52 PM
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We're visiting my parents for the holidays but I couldn't make it away from home without at least one of my bikes on the back of the car...

My family doesn't quite understand the desire to go riding in cold, snow, and ice, but are (I think) proud that I've taken up a healthier form of transportation. Certainly no comments about me not acting like a normal person, as that's been par for the course for most of my life.

So this afternoon, while everyone else was taking a well-deserved nap (food coma), I hit some snowy roads that have nice thick sheets of rutted ice under the snow. Thank god for studded tires on the fixed gear...

And I literally didn't see a single car in my 20 miles.
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Old 12-25-08, 11:57 PM
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Well, I did go for a ride, but other plans changed.

She decided she'd rather have dinner here (I guess she didn't want to wash dishes)... so I rode to her house anyway.

I just stopped in, said hello, and continued around town for a while. Traffic was heavier than I thought it would be, but less than normal.

She (and my daughter) came by later for dinner. My ex-wife and I actually get along decently nowadays. She just occasionally says something that makes me wonder what is going on in her head.

"I'm staying in shape for my new, younger girlfriends"
Ooh. That's good. I really wouldn't say that to her though.

I hope you all had a decent Christmas.
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Originally Posted by dcrowell View Post
I'm only a part-time bicycle commuter, but for shorter trips around town, I always take the bike.

I've been divorced (officially) about a month now. However my ex-wife hasn't lived with me in almost a year. I didn't get started biking until she had moved out.

I was talking to her this morning about spending Christmas over there with her and my daughter. When I mentioned I was going to ride the recumbent with Christmas lights on it, she said "Why don't you drive like normal people?"



Why would I drive? It's less than two miles. There should be almost no traffic on Christmas Day, and the roads are clear.

I considered walking instead, but it's actually less safe to walk there. No sidewalks, big invisible holes in the grass to twist your ankle in... etc.

It's a beautiful day, 34 degress, sunny, and it's Christmas! I think I'll take the long way to her house.

Merry Christmas everyone!
I feel your pain. It's been three years for me and although I do not know your ex-wife from Eve the vibe I catch from your description of the situation is she's very self-indulgent this is very similar to my ex-wife. My ex-wife saw bicycles as toys. She did not have a proper bicycle of her own and her answer to the problem was to go out and buy a "Wal-Mart wonder" I tried to fix up one of my spare bikes for her, but she would not let me spend any money to do it correctly. So it was nearly impossible to demonstrate the joys of cycling to her. Fortunately there were no kids involved in my divorce; however, looking back on it I realize it is probably the best decision that I ever made.

I have to agree with you if it's under 2 miles and the weather's nice you may as well break out whatever bike suits your fancy for the day and go. At 2 miles a car is not even warmed up yet and is still basically dumping raw gas down the tail pipe.

My rejoinder to her rhetorical question would have been: Why do I ride? Because an ordinary person would drive and I am an extraordinary man. It's a shame that you forgot.

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Originally Posted by JoeyBike View Post
20 years ago (when I turned 30) I announced to my entire family (many of whom I actually like) that I was DONE with the holidays (I don't have kids). 15 years ago and shortly after I met the woman I am now married to I made sure she knew, before we got real serious, that I am DONE with the holidays. She still lies to her family about why I never go over there on Christmas day. Fine.
If you don't mind me asking, why are you "DONE with the holidays"? Just don't like it?
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Old 12-26-08, 07:28 AM
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My ex-wife saw bicycles as toys. .
Unfortunately, that opinion is shared by a large part of the U.S. population. Recently I was viewing some bicycle part on Amazon and I noticed that it wasn't categorized as being a sports item...it was listed under something like "toys and games."

The fact that bikes are seen as transportation vehicles rather than toys is why I enjoyed riding in Europe (mostly Germany in my case) so much. In three years of riding a couple hundred miles a week in Berlin, I never got "right-hooked" despite many of those miles were on a bike bath that was no more than a sidewalk. I guess drivers were much more likely to follow their training to look for bikes in those situations when they realize that it could be their own mother riding down to the corner Aldi for groceries.
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My rejoinder to her rhetorical question would have been: Why do I ride? Because an ordinary person would drive and I am an extraordinary man. It's a shame that you forgot.
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"I'm staying in shape for my new, younger girlfriends"
Great answers!
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After over two weeks of daily torrential downpours here in NE Alabama, Christmas day was wonderful, dry, and fairly warm. After all the morning festivities, I was ready to bolt out of the house and take the Old Gray Battleship for spin before I had to deliver my teenage step-chilluns to Daddy Dearest for that side's holiday happenings. As I was just about out the door, daughter got the call that Daddy was on the way which means I had about an hour before I had to start driving to meet him. I did a quick ten-mile loop the long way around by my Mom's house, which involved a not-so-dry dirt (mud???) road (gotta get some fenders...) and arrived home dirty, happy, and out of breath. My wife didn't even flinch when I told her I had to go out and ride as she sees how relaxed and mellow I am afterward. Was the best part of my Christmas day!
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There's no point in either engaging or getting upset over a dishonest question. "Dishonest question" is the term I use for any question that is "asked" with an intention other than receiving (and listening to) an answer for the purposes of becoming informed. Questions that are "asked" with a closed mind are dishonest. Questions that are really just comments with a question mark tacked on for disguise are dishonest. Questions that are attempts to revive old unresolvable arguments, about which reasonable people would have agreed to disagree and moved on long ago, are dishonest. Dishonest questions should not be taken seriously, as they are a waste of time; instead, recognize them when you see them coming, refuse to engage, and move on without comment.
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