no advice. no regrets. had i not done all that i had done, i likely would not find myself in the situation i am in today. i love where i am. i love who i am.... changing then have changed now ... who knows i may not have liked me much if things had worked out differently.

so, no advice. no regrets... live. after all, that is the purpose of life.

be,
and be well,

jim

I just thought of a second one I'd offer: "Get over yourself."

Looking back is for the nostalgic, which I thoroughly enjoy doing.........but the best thing is to take stock of today and to keep looking forward. My kids who are in their twenties just don't heed my advice anyway......

Don't change anything. If you do you will not be the person you are. (or is that going to be)....(or is that was)......(or................):eek:

It is better to be a happy, contented fool than a tortured, angry genius.

Setting goals and making plans are good habits and can be tools for achieving success in life; but if you are unhappy because of the idiots and morons in your life today, you will be just as unhappy with the idiots and morons waiting for you at the end of your rainbow. It’s not about you, and you can’t fix stupid, so don’t take it personally.

No matter which path you choose, at some point you will wonder, wistfully, how things may have been different if you had taken the other path. It is your nature. Enjoy the fantasies of the road not taken, but remember, no matter where you go, there you are.

Finally, when your immortality card expires, you will find there are things more precious than the Brass Ring and much more difficult to hold...

My bigger concern though is, "what am I clueless about now?". Since the divorce, life is full of changes. How do I know if I am taking the wiser course?

Unfortunately I may not have listened because the advice to myself would be "Don't be so stubborn!" My stubborness, I believe, has kept me from doing many things that most likely would have opened up my world and exposed me to many new people and many more opportunities. I'm trying to be better but as I get older, that stubborness just keeps creeping back in.

I would also go out of my way to be a nicer person. I think I hurt people, especially when I was young, for no reason. Not something I am proud of.

There is a list a mile long I would do different if given the opportunity to start over but since they isn't going to happen, no sense for me to have regrets about it now. What is is and I have to make the most of it!

=sigh= now I'm depressed... where's that chocolate cake... :o

A very good point.

This thought comes to my mind every now and then. And, today, when I talk with someone older about what to expect, I'm as resistant to their advice as I was when I was 21! Goes to show that we aren't hard wired to take advice...but rather live, make mistakes, and learn on our own.

1. Go to the dentist.
2. Stop smoking today.
3. There really always is another girl.
4. Opportunity knocks, but only at the most inopportune moments.

In spent the summer of 1967 working on a pipeline crew near Big Spring, Texas. My foreman was man named O. B. Trotter, who was still working oilfield at 70 years of age. I had been operating a jackhammer for several days, and I remember saying something to the effect of "I'll be glad when this week is over".

O. B. Trotter gave me two pieces of advice that I remember to this day, and I've tried to pass them along from time to time.

#1 " When you get to be my age, you won't be wishin' your life away.

#2 "If you'll get an education, you won't be out here doing this at my age".

A summer spent in the West Texas heat on the back end of jackhammer can really shape your life. It did mine.

No matter how busy other people make you think you should be, always find a place to ride your bike and get a good ride several times a week. It is better than wondering later how all of the extra pounds accumulated and struggling to be rid of them again.

Get a job with a government pension.

Don't let that brunette you like so much (back in college) get away.

A very good, intelligent thread topic Digital Gee. Thanks! :)

+1

When I was younger, I got lots of advice from older people. Fortunately, I never listened to any of it. Or to quote Henry David Thoreau: “I have lived some thirty years on this planet, and I have yet to hear the first syllable of valuable or even earnest advice from my seniors.”

I guess if I were to give my younger self advice it would be: Don't worry. Don't hurry. The purity of your attention is the greatest gift you can give another person. Appreciating the present moment is the greatest gift you can give yourself. [edit] Oh yeah, and don't forget to laugh a lot. Especially at yourself.

Carry on kid. It's all gonna work out fine.
Oh, and buy Cisco, then sell in 2000.
Bet the 49ers and Raiders in the early 80s.

Don't eat inland seafood in Mexico.

Floss.

Don't wait to do homework until the hour before class.